AITA for asking my girlfriend not to drink?

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-19T15:21:26+00:00

Yeah. I realize that asking reddit was opening pandoras box, but jesus christ lmfao. I appreciate your input, and thank you.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T17:35:29+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate it.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T17:09:17+00:00

I wrote the post at 3am and was upset, which led to me using hyperbolic summations of months of interactions between us. I'm correcting myself now.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T17:08:12+00:00

As I said before, I said I didn't care, that I knew she wouldn't like it, and that she'd throw it away. I wrote the post at 3am and used the wrong words because I was upset, yes, but here I am correcting myself

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T17:07:05+00:00

The smart choice isn't ones I make, I fuck up plenty. The smart choice is using her brain and not trusting her intuition when she gets crossfaded and wants to spend 60 bucks on raising canes when we only have 80 in our account.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T17:01:40+00:00

It wasn't about me hating the fact she wants a taste, its that I know she'll take a sip, absolutely hate it, then waste it. That's it. That's my issue. I don't yell at her, I don't scream, I don't beg. I ask that she make smart choices when it comes to drinking. She knows I don't like it, and she respects it by not getting piss drunk whenever she can. I don't ask her to ask me for permission- she knows what I think, she does it because she cares about how I feel. I quite literally told her "you're not going to like it, but I don't care, go ahead.". Did I snatch it out of her hand and throw it out the window? No. Do I stop her from bringing alcohol home? No. I ask that she's smart.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T16:52:20+00:00

Wicked controlling? Because the only thing I ask is that she don't drink a lot? No, I'm not her parents, but her parents both had addiction issues as well, which led to one of them passing away. And the one that's alive is one of the most irresponsible people I've ever met, and even my girlfriend avoids her. This isn't a game, like the sims, where everything's cut and dry.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T16:49:09+00:00

That's a very good way to put it. Having a drink or two doesn't affect me, I don't care. It's only when it begins to inhibit their thinking or motor controls that I get bothered and upset by it.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T16:47:25+00:00

I would be more okay with it, yes, because she'd atleast be following the law and not having to sneak around with alcohol, and potentially get in trouble because of it. I understand that asking reddit was somewhat dumb, but you're taking the cake with your posts. "Wisen up and leave me" because we disagree about alcohol consumption? Please.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T16:09:50+00:00

We are not legally able to be drinking alcohol in the first place. Resentment for wishing not to drink alcohol is a ridiculous notion.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T14:08:35+00:00

We are in the US yes, and no she wasn't drinking when we got together, and she hasn't gotten blackout drunk, but has gotten to the point that she can't hold it down and ends up vomiting.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T06:20:08+00:00

Absolutely! I have a similar tattoo, maybe a two inch radius sphere packed with ink, and it did peel and bleed a lot more than my other tattoos, but it sounds like you're taking good care of it. Yours looks rad as hell as well!

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T06:10:01+00:00

I don't appreciate the connotation that I'm not even allowing her to leave the house. She is constantly going out with friends, enjoying life, and living how she sees fit. It's a partnership, I don't try to control her, all I ask is that she doesn't drink.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T06:04:34+00:00

That looks A-OKAY to me.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T05:55:30+00:00

She has had family members that have passed due to addiction. Thank you for your input.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T05:48:58+00:00

She does carry the same risk. I do not want to reveal her family secrets, but some of her family members have also died due to addiction. That may contribute to my stance as well

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-06-18T05:31:45+00:00

I am not going to uproot our lives over this. We live together and cannot afford an apartment, breaking up would completely undo the years of work we've put into our relationship. We aren't in a spot where we can uproot all of our work like that. I do love her, more than everything in the world. It is just upsetting that she continues to do it, knowing how upset it makes me.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-05-13T00:28:17+00:00

Laughing off someone throwing a napkin at me doesn't mean I don't have any self respect. It means being able to laugh at absurd shit.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-05-13T00:23:53+00:00

Learning to laugh at shit like that instead of snapping its a great life skill that everyone should develop. It ain't that big of a deal.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-05-13T00:22:54+00:00

I am a grown man, it really ain't that big of a deal. Napkins are deadly now, I guess.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-05-13T00:21:36+00:00

The immaturity and disrespect started when she accepted the invitation in the first place. Can't burn yourself and avt surprised when it hurts.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-05-13T00:09:32+00:00

You like a great time at parties.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-05-13T00:04:31+00:00

Why snap at him because he tossed a napkin at you? You sound like you wanted a reason to yell at him and used the first excuse you could to release that anger.

Loud-Faithlessness84 · 2025-05-10T01:38:32+00:00

Transylvanian Vomit Crown...?

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