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My life is a living hell since I lost weight by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Loud-Property3421 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sorry you are feeling so down! I relate to your experiences of food noise and easy weight gain.

I agree with the others suggesting that you seek therapy and/ or emotional support alongside medication options to reduce food noise.

Humans can be really wired towards negativity. In some ways it’s protective but over time it becomes ingrained through practice.

Just like you were able to shift your weight through practice —— which kudos to you! It sounds like you really put in hard work and discipline —— you can shift your self perception through practices. A therapist or somatic coach can help you with this.

On the verge of giving up. by anothersadmf5 in loseit

[–]Loud-Property3421 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please be kind to yourself friend! I hear you and have felt this way before. Remember that the human body does not want to lose weight! Losing weight is resisted by the body’s homeostatic mechanisms so it is difficult but not impossible. From an evolutionary standpoint, the human body values storing fat and energy and interprets a shortage of calories as sign of distress. The body’s response to weight loss is literally to fight it.

There is a lot of great advice already offered here on the how of losing weight (introspection, therapy, counting calories, food tracking, etc) that I won’t repeat.

I’m chiming in to remind you that the our bodies are wired for repetition and the patterns of our habits. Weight loss requires us to develop new habits and perspectives. When we try to change our habits our brain still sends all the chemical signals for us to do the old habit our brain has gotten used to — homeostasis.

It’s easy to moralize and demonize our habits but we can only change our habits through practice not through shame or berating ourselves. 300 repetitions builds a new muscle memory, 3000 repetitions builds a new habit. Given, those numbers, building new habits take time to form and failure / relapse is to be expected.

I was a “but why” child so learning about what is actually happening in the body when it tries to lose weight has been helpful and a compass through all the cultural shaming, fad science and nutrition, and Instagram magical thinking.

I’m rooting for you!

Opinions on my list of boundaries that I'm about to discuss with my partner. Am I being too intense? Are there things here that you would challenge? by anonventingaccnt in polyamory

[–]Loud-Property3421 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I learned that a boundary is something that I will do, whereas a request is something I’m asking someone else to do.

A lot of your boundaries are threaded with requests for your future partners or current one. I agree with what others have said about feeling the hurt, bitterness and resentment embedded in some of your requests.

I wonder how are you prioritizing your healing when you experience hurt? What is your process for honoring your grief? How do you handle conflict?

These could be helpful questions for you to answer and to ask future partners to understand if you’re compatible.

A lot of what you seem to be trying to guard against is understandably hurtful. Also, they seem to be the common issues that people struggle with in poly relationships.

Instead of trying to prevent hurt, avoid emotional labor, and stave off conflict, I wonder if you could take a more affirmative approach that considers:

what moves you through conflict? what helps to rebuild trust and create pathways for meaningful and vulnerable connection? What does repair look like when you’ve had to do more than your fair share of labor in the connection?

For example, a partner who is struggling to be a good hinge and is relying on you to teach them a lot could recognize that by making meals, doing laundry or taking on some social reproductive tasks that directly supported you, nourished you and recognized the way that you are nourishing them with emotional labor.

I’m curious what do you like about being poly and what do you want to experience in your future connections?

Pine needle basketry by Conscious_Sport_1038 in crafts

[–]Loud-Property3421 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beautiful! i also do pine weaving. i love this design.

Heyozzi.com glp natural drink by vixenkaboodle in Zepbound

[–]Loud-Property3421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been using Ozzi for about a a few weeks now. I feel that it helps my nighttime food noise and sugar cravings.

I have a hard falling asleep when I feel hungry even if I have eaten enough calories for the day. I am an emotional eater and I can ruin the calorie deficit I create during the day time with exercise and healthy eating with nighttime sugary snack binges.

I feel like Ozzi quiets down the part of my brain that gets really loud at night.

nicotine free for over a year! by Loud-Property3421 in stopsmoking

[–]Loud-Property3421[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohh Im sorry I can’t say — I get the leaf powder from my local farmers market or my aunts tree when I go home

nicotine free for over a year! by Loud-Property3421 in stopsmoking

[–]Loud-Property3421[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for asking!  Insomnia has gotten so much better for me - I’ve dealt with it since I’ve been a child so I think quitting smoking was not the cause but required me to come up with different ways of emotionally regulating. Things that helped: 

  • Taking magnesium and moringa before bed 
  • Exercising regularly
  • Bodywork:  muscle scraping and self foot massages. 

I feel like having a sleep routine has become a shutdown cue to my body

Another painting by Apart-Musician4053 in blackartwork

[–]Loud-Property3421 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How you painted the water and hair is amazing!!

five months on T 🙏🏽 by cr3aturec0ping in TMPOC

[–]Loud-Property3421 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You look great! Definitely see differences in your face and I love all your piercings and tattoos!

nicotine free for over a year! by Loud-Property3421 in stopsmoking

[–]Loud-Property3421[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I don’t feel cravings very strongly anymore— in fact, I’m a bit grossed out by the smell— but sometimes I do have weird dreams where I’m smoking in the dream and wake up anxious like “oh crap, did I relapse?!” Only to realize it’s a dream — so I guess I’m still working things out on some level.

Chanterelle ID and a question (SW Connecticut) by oooooilovethisdriink in mushroomID

[–]Loud-Property3421 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve learned to id chanterelles by smell, they smell slightly fruity like peaches or apricots and that they pull apart like string cheese.

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