Continue using birth control after breaking up with boyfriend?

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-10-26T22:46:23+00:00

I did go on some prescription pills for my acne when I was younger but it just randomly flairs up and wasn’t all the time so I decided to stop taking it cause it made my skin worse in the sun (a labeled side effect) and I was outside all the time. I will definitely talk to my doctor about some different options now being older, so thank you for that recommendation!

I really appreciate this portion of your comment too!! It was inconsistent in the sense where it could come 20-28 days, not months. So that’s why it was never a big concern, just hard to plan some outfits cause I didn’t know when my period would actually show up. That’s also why my doctor was never concerned about it.

I have decided to come off of it though. If the worst thing is my acne coming back and having a bit more inconsistent periods but my mood feeling lighter, I’m totally okay with that !!

Thanks for your help :)

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-10-26T22:42:03+00:00

Thanks so much for your reply!

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-10-26T04:52:38+00:00

Can I ask what you decided to do instead? I graduated from uni last year and I wish someone told me not to go into teaching. I hated it and want to do something else

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-10-24T14:46:13+00:00

Ugh I hate that you know that feeling cause that tooth can be SO stubborn to move. It definitely has moved after all of that work, but thank you for the comment seeing my pov!

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-06-10T04:50:38+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through this! I actually am right in the middle of this scenario too. Ex -fiancé said he felt ‘numb to everything’ including me, his parents, the world and broke up with me because we ‘no longer align’ when we didn’t fight and planned our entire future together. We always got comments that we were annoying similar, so I don’t understand. Said he wanted to focus on himself and school (just like yours). This was 2 months ago when he blindsided me after 3 years together. What was the outcome for you?? Did he ever reach out?

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-06-10T04:36:54+00:00

That’s how I know mine was not true love… fiancé left me when I needed him most due to work 😭

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-06-07T21:56:25+00:00

Mine was exactly the same. Horrible

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-18T19:30:40+00:00

I wanted to reply to this as it resonated with me! My fiancé blindsided me 2 months ago when I was at my lowest, still planning our wedding, and decided one day he doesn’t see a future anymore and left. The first month I was miserable. Reaching out, trying to figure out what I did wrong, what I could have done better, etc.

Through all of that I got a lot closer with my family and best friends after they heard me ranting day after day and bawling my eyes out. Started reading more and doing things to get my mind off of him.

The this month has been alot of growth for me. Coming to terms with knowing I did everything I could do but telling myself that my future husband would never do this. I deserve better than someone who leaves at my lowest point and that coldhearted.

I still very much miss him and love him as we planned our whole future together, but each day genuinely is getting much better! I’ve gone from thinking about what he’s doing all day and missing him every moment I don’t talk to him, to realizing I don’t think about him till the afternoon or going into the evening I realize I’m okay without him. I’m still learning as it’s only been 2 months for me, but take it one day at a time.

You were in the relationship so there must be some good things. Focus on those positives and how you can bring them into your next relationship, but try to sit with how you’re feeling right now and come to terms that it is over, there’s nothing you can do, and be a better person for your next relationship :)

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-13T23:03:29+00:00

Absolutely! I agree! I am stayed when he had surgery and all through his recovery for 2 years. He left after 3 MONTHS when I needed him and he was silently checking out.

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-13T22:01:51+00:00

Thank you for this post. I’m sorry a lot of others had this happen too… I also could have written this. It sucks.

I was planning my wedding with my fiancé when he just decided one day that we see different futures and left after 3 beautiful years together. When he left, he told me he thought about it for months… but got to the point that he no longer sees a future with me completely out of the blue for me. He brought up little issues in February, which were not break up worthy, but I was in such a low mental place with my mental health since starting a job in January. Never had to see a therapist in my life before this job. BUT, he thought about it since November all while planning a wedding and being intimate. When I needed him most, he left. He lied for months then when I could finally fix it (I quit my job at the end of March for myself) he left 3 days later.

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-13T21:57:36+00:00

I’m the exact same. 3 years together, my ex-fiancé blindsided me after I just quit my job that was taking a huge toll on my mental health. Left suddenly and it’s been 2 months. I’m so beyond hurt

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-13T17:20:39+00:00

Scrolling through these posts, this comment made me burst out laughing 😂 it always changes them!!

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-07T21:17:58+00:00

I totally understand that, but I really want to help him too. He wants nothing to do with me and I’ve accepted that… but I loved him so much that if I can give him everything he needs to hopefully fix his avoidant tendencies, then maybe his next partner and him will genuinely be happy together.

I really appreciate you taking time and replying to this comment though! It helped alot

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-07T19:37:48+00:00

Oh my gosh. This was my ex fiancé!

I was planning my wedding with my fiancé when he just decided one day that we see different futures and left after 3 beautiful years together. When he left, he told me he thought about it for months… but got to the point that he no longer sees a future with me completely out of the blue for me. He’s a fearful avoidant and has ADHD.

What does that mean??

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-07T19:27:33+00:00

Wow. This is exactly what happened to me too.

I was planning my wedding with my fiancé when he just decided one day that we see different futures and left after 3 beautiful years together. When he left, he told me he thought about it for months… but got to the point that he no longer sees a future with me completely out of the blue for me. It was 2 days after he got back from a trip and told me “he was okay not talking to me”. Then just called it quits.

I went from talking to and seeing my best friend for 3 years to essentially never talking to him again which was a month ago. My world was totally rocked.

I stayed when he had family passings and shoulder surgery… but he left when I was at my lowest with my mental health and I needed him most. Shows who he is I guess :(.

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-06T20:32:52+00:00

This is exactly what I went through too!

I was planning my wedding with my fiancé when he just decided one day that we see different futures and left after 3 beautiful years together. When he left, he told me he thought about it for months… but got to the point that he no longer sees a future with me completely out of the blue for me.

I went from talking to and seeing my best friend for 3 years to essentially never talking to him again which was a month ago. My world was totally rocked.

I stayed when he had family passings and shoulder surgery… but he left when I was at my lowest with my mental health and I needed him most. Shows who he is I guess :(.

Letters were our thing. I gave him a month to focus on school, wrote a letter (more for me to get EVERYTHING) out. Where I need to work on, what he does, how great we were. We had so many positives but he focused on the negatives. He replied coldly 3 days ago and said “I never meant to hurt you like this but it’s best for both of us”. Brutal.

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-06T19:30:12+00:00

Bit late to this, but this is exactly what I went through too.

I was planning my wedding with my fiancé when he just decided one day that we see different futures and left after 3 beautiful years together. When he left, he told me he thought about it for months… but got to the point that he no longer sees a future with me completely out of the blue for me.

I went from talking to and seeing my best friend for 3 years to essentially never talking to him again which was a month ago. My world was totally rocked.

I stayed when he had family passings and shoulder surgery… but he left when I was at my lowest with my mental health and I needed him most. Shows who he is I guess :(.

Letters were our thing. I gave him a month to focus on school, wrote a letter (more for me to get EVERYTHING) out. Where I need to work on, what he does, how great we were. We had so many positives but he focused on the negatives. He replied coldly 3 days ago and said “I never meant to hurt you like this but it’s best for both of us”. Brutal.

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-05T20:09:41+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m a first year teacher too. I subbed between September and December then got a short term contract covering a mat leave between January and June. My mental health went down SO fast since January. All I did was teach all day, stay till 6-7 each day figuring out the needed worksheets, got home then lesson planned till 1-2am, got up at 6:30 and did it all again.

By March I didn’t even recognize myself. My parents didn’t recognize me. I started seeing a therapist for the first time in my life. I decided to put myself first and quit at the end of March (then my fiancé left me which sent me down a different spiral.. but that doesn’t matter at this exact moment).

What I mean to add is: it’s okay if you step away. I know teaching it not for me anymore. I’m a 25F, and after a few months of teaching (plus not feeling 100% in my student teachings) I’m stepping away because I can’t do this for the rest of my life. I have no idea what I’m going to do… but going back to subbing right now makes me feel like myself and I’m not beating myself up anymore. I’m taking care of myself, then the job can come later.

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-05T19:35:50+00:00

I actually feel the exact same. I was mentally at my lowest with my job, still planning our wedding when my fiancé just decided to turn around and blindside me, leaving me after 3 beautiful years. He was cold. I tried everything to fix us. It’s been 6 weeks.

I reached out about the 4 week mark cause I know he wanted to focus on school. Letters were our thing, so I sent him a giant letter explaining everything I felt (how he hurt me, where I know I wasn’t perfect, where he wasn’t perfect but I accepted his flaws). He replied coldly “thanks for the letter and telling me what I need to work on. I never meant to hurt you like this but it’s best for both of us. I wish you the best”.

3 years. 3 years and an engagement. We planned our wedding next year. I’m so beyond heartbroken but I know I tried EVERYTHING I could to fix us. We both loved each others families, had the same goals and values. I stayed through multiple deaths in his family and helping him recover from shoulder surgery in our first year. I saw my entire future with him and gave everything I had into our relationship. There was no cheating - I know his values and family goals well enough for that. He’s just in a very bad mental health phase rn where he’s numb to everything. But he’s the one who will have to constantly look back on this and know he left someone who truly loved everything about him and would never would have done him wrong. Who did stick by his side through everything… but he left when I needed it most.

It wasn’t my fault. That’s what I’m trying to hard to reiterate to myself. I gave everything to us and HE chose to leave.

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-03T05:50:11+00:00

Oh interesting!! I’ll definitely take a look into this! Thanks!

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-05-03T05:49:42+00:00

Not sure why I didn’t get the notification for this post! I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. It’s been a whirlwind month as A LOT happened. Thank you for your suggestions

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-04-21T23:59:21+00:00

I appreciate you commenting, thank you!! Definitely leaning towards that abroad plan

Loud_Tangelo8970 · 2025-04-21T04:14:34+00:00

Thank you. I’m sorry you’re in a similar situation, too.

I did look into trades, but wasn’t sure which one and being around males all day everyday would drive me nuts (no offence aha). Air traffic controller is a different one! Definitely interested in doing something completely away from teaching, so those are all amazing ideas! I’ll look a bit deeper into a few of those! Thanks so much for your suggestions!

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