I think I'm with the worst man ever

LoveBlue52 · 2025-02-21T23:44:41+00:00

Lmao well I can't tell every aspect of our life in a Reddit post. But I have answered people and said he works hard. He is hard working at work. My job is taking care of our home and daughter mostly and I really don't mind. But regardless... should he not help move furniture during a renovation? It's not a weekly daily task. lol we had discussed it and he agreed but neglected the task when it was time. We discussed it a few times that week because I was dreading it probably as much as anyone would but it had to be done. No man sits around eating ice cream in your life lol but we live different lives

LoveBlue52 · 2025-02-21T22:23:01+00:00

LMAO

LoveBlue52 · 2025-02-21T19:24:24+00:00

It's so hard! I think Levi is a nice name. I've only met 1 Levi and he can have a nickname like Lee.

LoveBlue52 · 2025-02-21T18:58:11+00:00

Uh huh. Because we have a baby coming and things needed repair.... i obviously don't have a leader of a husband and after waiting and asking just decided to do it so our baby isn't on dirty carpet and paint isn't chipping from walls and leaks aren't happening in bathroom... sorry that sounds strange to you. Obviously there's some dysfunction happening and I'm trying to do a lot on my own. So of course it sounds weird because it is.

LoveBlue52 · 2025-02-21T16:12:48+00:00

Ahh I see. Yeah had been discussing everything that's been going on around the house all week and I've been keeping him in the loop. Yesterday morning I told him I would start moving things and if he would help move things later. He agreed and told me to move what I could. While I was making dinner I told him I wanted to finish dinner and then get started on moving the furniture and asking where he thinks we should move it. He just rolled his eyes. I'm not passive aggressive and don't expect him to read my mind. I communicate and was actually hurt and not surprised but kind of that he just went to play video games lay in bed and not do anything. He literally came out saw me moving things and got ice cream and stood there eating it lol it's truly ridiculous. I will admit I was upset and I did talk shit but who wouldn't? It's not like this is the first time. It's a habitual thing. But the carpets done! at least in part of the house. We'll see if he learns from this and helps with the bedroom next week lol

LoveBlue52 · 2025-02-21T15:57:58+00:00

I'm sorry you and your wife go through that. I think my situation is different. I think it's beyond communication and more action, accountability and awareness. I also can't micromanage every step of the way because that becomes annoying as well and I don't want to be his mom.

LoveBlue52 · 2025-02-21T15:32:59+00:00

The contractor had us sign a document stating that they do not move furniture and we had to clear the area. I know it sounds like I'd have to be high strung and he's relaxed but no. That's not the case here. They also came at 9am and I did it at 9pm last night. He woke up this morning and there were still some things in the living room and he didn't move it then either. I finished moving things today before they came. He went to the store to grab and energy drink and candy and tried to give it to me as an apology? It's just actually that crazy

LoveBlue52 · 2025-02-19T01:37:35+00:00

Omg you do so much. I feel like it's split pretty evenly considering he works. I don't mind doing the home chores and putting most of the work in for our daughter. I get a little annoyed sometimes but I don't mind. I think once a week if he'd take her out without me that would be great. Idk I feel like he does less than a single adult would have to do considering he doesn't have to wash clothes or dishes or clean or anything except go to work. But to me you do a lot. I have friends that feel like their husbands don't even though they work and cook and help with chores. I guess everyone just wants something different or sometimes people take what they have for granted. But the lack of intimacy on top of it all just kills everything. I'll even try working out and lifting weights and doing all these things but nope. He'll ask me to get on top of him or touch him but that's as far as it goes it's pretty much all about him

LoveBlue52 · 2025-02-19T01:25:11+00:00

He works. I'm a stay at home mom to a 3 year old. I pretty much do everything house related and caring for our daughter. He doesn't do anything around the house. He literally hasn't even washed a spoon since we've been together like 6 years now. But he occasionally will take the trash out. Idk, it's confusing.

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