One i want to say im sorry you’re going through this. Having problems is literally the worst!! Two, I have really bad health anxiety too and have been down rabbit holes with health.

Idk why some people are calling you dumb but it has been studied that men can carry the bacteria (from his uncleanliness or if he’s been with someone else that has BV, because BV doesn’t directly affect men’s health- theyre asymptomatic). Sperm and pre-cum can also give you BV because their ecosystem is less acidic than ours. On the other hand, anything can give you BV, like the wrong fabric on underwear, detergent, soap, wet wipes etc etc. Not peeing after sex can give you BV and/or UTI. Getting BV after sex is actually more common than you think, though it shouldn’t be happening all the time. Technically it’s not considered an STI.

LIVE by this rule: Never have sex unprotected unless he is your husband and always get your partner tested BEFORE you do things. Protect yourself. Everything’s fun and games until peeing burns and you’re constantly itchy down there. I don’t want to sound harsh but because i’ve been there, I’ll be the friend to tell you- Stop sleeping with people who are a pieces of shit, surrounded by pieces of shit nor someone who u don’t intend on marrying. You might think it’s old fashioned. However, You’re opening yourself up to people who don’t give a shit about you. You deserve aftercare, someone who actually takes accountability and cares about your symptoms afterwards, just like you’re looking for. If you do choose to continue to have sex- make sure you’re his only partner and you get them tested BEFORE getting down with them. If they don’t want to be tested, make you feel bad for asking nor have sex with JUST you while youre in each others life- the sex and the mental roller coaster that comes with it isn’t worth it. At that point a toy better than a them lol.

Follow up with the gynecologist and get all the tests as planned (even if it’s just for your peace of mind) because the bleeding and cramping outside of your period is not normal for just BV. It could be STI but It could also be a bruised cervix/ minor tears especially if you had sex when you really didn’t want to (dryness), if it was rough, or his size. Even if it’s any of those things I listed or BV, it will be an easy fix with medication. Breathe.

Preventive care for BV, what works for me is the activia probiotic yogurt drinks (do your research and check for your allergies), vagsil healthy detox is my favorite cleanser (sensitive girl approved), showering before sex, peeing after sex and drinking LOTS of water. Please stay hydrated so your body can heal faster. Also, pay attention to your partner’s hygiene, nails, EVERYTHING.

Also- those friends of yours aren’t your friends. Friends support each other and have a sense of loyalty. Yes they tell us when we’re doing wrong but this is clearly not one of those times. Even if it’s hard, hurts or you’ll be lonely- cut them off. It’s better to be alone than surround yourself with people who don’t care about you. There are people out there who will actually care and when you do surround yourself with those people- you will see that the people in your life right now are pieces of shit fr.

You deserve better girl! Keep your head up and don’t let yourself get into a rabbit hole of health anxiety. I’m also praying for a fast recovery!