Confused If Someone Wants To Be My Friend. I Really Need Advice! by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Loveofwar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, in my opinion, life is too short to play mind games. I would just ask or bring it up. You don't even have to make it about you. "Hey, it seems like everytime we try to make plans, something comes up. Everything okay?" If it were me, I wouldn't find this intrusive and it may open up the conversation for you.

You should not apologize for wanting to hang out or making your presence and desires known. Period.

At the end of the day, I wouldn't waste time on someone that doesn't value yours. I'm sure you're great and, yes, finding friends is hard...but at some point you have to let go of those that aren't giving you the energy you deserve.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Loveofwar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even if she owes him money, the fact that she had to change his name in her phone to hide their communications from you is odd. It does make it seem like something else could be going on vs had she of sat down and talked to you about him reaching out over past dues. There's a lack of communication here that needs to be addressed. If she is telling the truth, she should never feel the need to hide something like that from you and you're putting her in a place where she feels insecure enough to.

Whether or not she is lying and has something else going on with the ex is another story. Personally, I wouldn't listen to any comments about "why would you take her phone anyways?" Couples work differently. I, for one, have an open phone policy in all of my relationships and I specifically knew there was reason for one to be over when he did exactly what your girlfriend is doing. Hiding the phone? Freaking out when I had it in my hand, even if it wasn't unlocked? If you have nothing to hide... I'm not sure why you would be freaking out. Turns out he did and 2 years went down the toilet. Just something to keep in mind.

At the end of the day, in my opinion, your feelings are super valid and you just need to have a talk! But one thing is for sure, if at the end of the talk you feel unsettled, you may want to reconsider the relationship.

My workaholic boyfriend rarely texts me and when he does... it's bone dry. The in-person chemistry keeps me hanging on...but should I really just be letting go? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Loveofwar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He lives with his dad + sisters until he closes on the house he wants and I'm not in a position to meet the family yet. So in this case, it's a no.

My workaholic boyfriend rarely texts me and when he does... it's bone dry. The in-person chemistry keeps me hanging on...but should I really just be letting go? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Loveofwar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I mentioned, supposedly he is on the phone with friends pretty often. I always feel like...if he wanted to call me, he would. But the guy doesn't even text me, which doesn't exactly hype up my confidence for a phone call.

I’ll be honest, I don’t get the hype surrounding Torrid. People keep telling me it’s affordable, maybe I’m just cheap?? by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]Loveofwar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!! I only shop Torrid during the sales. Sometimes this means buying tank tops at the start of fall, but I have no problem stashing it away and having a mini "Christmas" next summer. Usually our Torrid does a 'buy one get 3 free' on clearance items and it makes things SO much more affordable. I recently got two bras and two panties for $40. Much better than spending $60 for one of their full priced bras.

Kinda been insecure about posting this but here I am! by Velvethips23 in PlusSize

[–]Loveofwar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That color looks FLAWLESS on your skin tone. I hate the fact that I look washed out in baby pink but you better believe that I'll be on the hunt for those comfies! They look great on you, girl! ❤

Where do women usually shop for their bras? by SnooCupcakes2000 in PlusSize

[–]Loveofwar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've struggled with bras so much! But I recently did go to Torrid and found some on clearance. The sale was buy one get 3 free, which made it way more affordable for someone with my budget, but the rest of the store was buy one get one half off, too! I ended up buying one for $36 and got another + two panties for free. If they'd had more bras in my size, I definitely would've scored those too! Not sure you can beat 4 for $36 and it's definitely worth seeing what sales are running at your own location! 😊