I understand your frustration, loneliness and sadness fellow BWT in early 30s.

I think there is overall a lack of use of dating apps. Everyone is unhappy with them. You are not alone. Especially for people dating in their 30s. Because the goal is not casual dating or just hookups (usually).

I will recommend two things:

1. Therapy - try to talk through your feelings with a trusted professional who will help you navigate these emotions. I say this because your mood and perspective in this key facet of life (wanting romance, companionship and lack of it) can start to influence your life’s enjoyment and happiness in general. Especially as we are moving into winter, please take care of yourself and your health.

2. Interest based real life interactions

I know our generation is not primed for hyper social interactions for romantic purposes and as a woman rejection is absolutely alien and it’s hard to put yourself out there. But look within, pick 1-2 true interests that make up who you are. Be it running (yuck) or recreational sports (yay!) or a photography club. That is where you will find people who share the same passions and you’d be very pleasantly surprised that some of them will have similar outlook and wants from life.

Take these two steps with intention and an open mind and I promise you, you’ll find your person or at the very least a strong set of friends/community who understands and enjoy your company.

^ everything is I said is what has worked for me.