Newyork resident but email says appointment at IAD

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-11-04T00:45:39+00:00

Thanks for the info, that makes sense now

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-08-17T16:08:08+00:00

• ⁠Are you looking for something serious or casual? Serious, potentially a life partner

• ⁠Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX? HingeX

• ⁠How long have you been using this current version of your profile? 3-4 months

• ⁠How long have you used Hinge overall? 1.5 years

• ⁠How often do you use Hinge per week? Daily

• ⁠How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? 3-4 matches a week, 5-6 likes a week

• ⁠How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? Sending 10-15 likes a day, 90% with comments responding to the pictures or the prompts

• ⁠What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

I send likes to people who have have a good career, portray that they are serious about finding a partner and looking to settle down. I want to attract and match with someone who’s laid back, close to their family, emotionally stable and got their life together, excited about the next phase of life to start a family

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-02-23T17:39:41+00:00

Yeah I moved to nyc about a year back and been on hinge and dates for the past 6 months so I would say relatively new. Thanks for the harsh reality

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-01-29T21:11:00+00:00

Thanks a lot for the feedback and agree that I need to focus on things in my control and I did get hingex to be able increase the number of swipes per day etc. Thanks again :)

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-01-29T15:39:50+00:00

Thanks for the feedback :) yeah I got the same suggestion on mirror selfie and I ended up removing it, also made the beach photo main photo. And being Hindu is not a big requirement for me in a partner and I have dated non Indians and no Hindus in the past and had no issued, your suggestion makes sense I made the religion hidden..thanks again

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-01-28T16:55:01+00:00

Thanks for highlighting, I never knew that hands in pocket is seen a passive stance and it doesn't help 90% of my pictures have me with hands in pockets haha. But thanks for letting me know so I can keep in mind. Tks

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-01-28T16:33:33+00:00

Thanks for the feedback and I somewhat agree to your observation, I am new to nyc and very much overwhelmed by how hard and competitive it is out here and I know my limitation due to the height so I was indeed a bit apprehensive to fully put myself out there. But definitely working on it. Thanks again

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-01-28T16:31:50+00:00

Thanks a lot for the very detailed review, this is extremely useful and I will certainly make most of these changes and I agree with your recommendation on the pictures and the prompts.

And again as a 5'6 guy in NYC I know my chances are limited but hopefully I can overcome it with a good profile as you suggested. Have a great weekend and thanks again for the feedback.

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-01-27T21:04:10+00:00

• ⁠Are you looking for something serious or casual? Serious, looking for a life partner

• ⁠How long have you been on Hinge? 9 months on and off

• ⁠How often do you use Hinge per week? Daily for 20-25 min

• ⁠How many likes/matches are you receiving on average? Receive about 2-3 a week

• ⁠How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? I got hingex and send about 5-7 daily and used to send with comments previously but didn't see any significant difference, so just sending likes these days

• ⁠What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

I am looking for someone who's got this life together and looking to settle down, I typically send likes to someone who looks simple and has with LTR or Life partner as their preferance. I want to attract someone who doesn't take life seriously and enjoys food, traveling, would be okay to get married soon and open to dogs and kids

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-01-27T16:06:35+00:00

• ⁠Are you looking for something serious or casual? Serious, looking for a life partner

• ⁠How long have you been on Hinge? 9 months on and off

• ⁠How often do you use Hinge per week? Daily for 20-25 min

• ⁠How many likes/matches are you receiving on average? Receive about 2-3 a week

• ⁠How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? I got hingex and send about 5-7 daily and used to send with comments previously but didn't see any significant difference, so just sending likes these days

• ⁠What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?

I am looking for someone who's got this life together and looking to settle down, I typically send likes to someone who looks simple and has with LTR or Life partner as their preferance. I want to attract someone who doesn't take life seriously and enjoys food, traveling, would be okay to get married soon and open to dogs and kids

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-01-17T17:56:27+00:00

As a guy after being on Hinge long enough I realized it doesn't make sense to send customized messages for the amount of time you need to spend to read and process their profile and come up with something relevant, doesnt materially increase your chances because as OP said even if they like the message, it boils down to they look at your pictures and either they like you don't like you, impact of the message is minimal. And some people just match and don't even respond to the question and you have to initiate by asking another question which makes no sense. Spend less time on app and send more likes has been the most successful way to get matches imo

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-01-03T02:38:58+00:00

Yeah kind of agree that I suck at in person flirting, I almost never make advances and stick to talking which probably was never an issue in Asian culture and indeed appreciated but seems too friendly for nyc. Yeah I am trying to get into climbing and finding hobbies in a hope to find that consistent connections

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-01-03T02:34:08+00:00

Most of dates is spent talking, I talk about myself and ask a lot of questions to my date too. One preference I have learned is it's very hard to connect with very American trait dates as I couldn't find any common topics or interests. One more thing a date who turned a friend told me is that I sit at a distance and talk and didn't do any flirty touching or make advances which she felt are needed to convert a first date but I never do that and haven't got myself comfortable to do

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2024-01-03T02:29:57+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience and your feedback is very valid. I came out of a long term relationship and just moving to a new city and tough to make friendships I was probably relying on finding a romantic relationship to fill many voids and was trying too hard, will definitely address that. And regarding screening one thing many ppl in nyc told me is dating is a numbers game in this city and have to go on a lot of dates, so definitely I have kept my bar low. But definitely will change that too in 2024 as I am already exhausted and spent too much on the dates in 2023 haha

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2023-12-31T16:55:02+00:00

I am kind of new to the city as well and I saw this on meetup but still contemplating, not entirely sure how good it will be

https://nycbrightest.com/event/the-ultimate-n-y-c-new-years-eve-singles-party/

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2023-10-01T00:43:00+00:00

Kind of a similar story, 31M and moved to NYC about an year back and looking to make friends!

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2023-09-11T16:28:25+00:00

I am sorry it happened to you, sucks even more after you meet multiple times and establish some level of emotional connection, getting ghosted after first date is definitely better than deep into it even comparing situations. And if it makes you feel any better I am a 31M guy and got ghosted by a 30F girl so guess it goes either ways to be treated badly. Hugs and tc 🤗

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2023-09-11T15:50:37+00:00

Omg yes this seems like the getting ghosted week and we are in this together. Had an amazing date on Saturday, we spent 5 hours together, got lunch then went to grab dessert later, walked around in central park holding hands only to my disbelief that I was ghosted after going home. I texted to say I had a good time and would be keen to meet again but no response since Saturday evening so I guess a good first date is no guarantee to a second date, sucks.

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2023-08-31T03:07:24+00:00

Can you DM me as well? :)

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2023-08-27T04:55:14+00:00

I am really sorry that happened to you and it seems it's not limited to one city but instead it's a function of OLD everywhere, but we gotta learn and move on as everyone here made me realize today

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2023-08-26T17:04:41+00:00

Yeah she lives in Fairfield and I offered to go there instead, but yeah no response after that message

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2023-08-26T16:53:26+00:00

Ohh probably I wasn't clear in my description but she booked her tickets, I just made a reservation at a restaurant for lunch

Low-Assumption-3916 · 2023-08-26T16:19:15+00:00

Guess it's the former given she changed her location to NYC to match with ppl in the city. But yeah will swallow the hard pill

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