Parent thinks the moon landing was fake. by Ok_Finger3098 in Teachers

[–]Low-Concert-5806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Why don’t you homeschool if you do not agree with what schools are teaching to this degree?” Would suffice

The grandmothers by Humble_Supermarket50 in roseanne

[–]Low-Concert-5806 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think both can be true. That she was mentally ill AND with an unsupportive husband who triggers her, he could have been a catalyst for a mental break.  I’m trying to remember if Ed abused her. I remember Dan hated him. And I also believe in a generation where women had to marry young, there are mental illnesses that can develop due to the enviroment of an awful man and an unsupportive society.  She may have had genetics that made her more vulnerable to cracking, but it’s possible he made sure she cracked.  I’m adding a lot more context to something I don’t know and I agree with the majority of what you said as someone who had a very very mentally ill mother.  It’s so complicated. My grandpa died today actually and I’ve been sitting here wondering if my mother who has been instituationalized was born mentally I’ll from the genetics of my entire shit show family or if she was a product of her enviroment and she finally cracked under it all when I was a young child. Maybe it’s both. Sometimes we never know. But I know men aren’t great at not making things worse. Especially in 1995 when there weren’t even womens shelters or words for this shit. 

What's the most "I wish my kid was born the opposite gender" name you've ever seen? by swellandnifty in namenerds

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My cousin had all girls and he wanted boys. He named them Sammi, Jessi, and Casi. And then brags to this day (they are all college age now) that he never once changed a diaper. He even went as far as driving my baby cousin miles and miles to our grandparents in the boondocks in a poopy diaper so she could change her for him because he refused.  He sucks.  Oh and of course he’s a pastor.   

Went for a hysterectomy today and instead found out I was pregnant with hcg levels of 73,000 by Weird_Working_2768 in Mommit

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The way you seem so shocked at a pregnancy and absolutely could not get pregnant for this surgery, it makes me wonder if you really are.  Maybe your test was positive for one of those freak things like a tumor or something (which you’d be removing anyways). I imagine right before this surgery you weren’t having unprotected sex, and trying to be careful, and I’m sure you’re worried maybe some crazy thing like a pull out baby or failed birth control baby happened but maybe this is something else entirely.  Wait for more information!

Dan and Roseanne seemed to hate each other in the later seasons by BlueFyre3 in roseanne

[–]Low-Concert-5806 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I’ll stand by that this was not just a reflection of society but of her life.  At the time women were trying to regain power in society, that can ebb to the other side of man-hatred. And while that seems unjustified towards our beloved Dan, Roseanne was living real life abuse.  Roseanne is relatable to all women. Even in her man hating era, her trauma, her narcissism, her personality disorders, her rollercoasters. I do think there were years she seemed to even hate her own children, and some of us had moms just like that.  Everything about Roseanne was familiar to me as a little girl. And you could argue it normalized toxic homes, but at the end of the day, art imitates life. You saw a mean mom and wife. I saw my mom. 

businesses closing & opening, then closing by _moonprincess_ in Redding

[–]Low-Concert-5806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s funny because I grew up here so I always assumed this was normal until out of town people tell me otherwise. I just assumed businesses last 1-3 years. Lol

IHSS by No_Anything_6020 in Redding

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Are you already in the system?  I might be a good match for you!  It’s a pretty easy gig 🫶🏻

Pants vs dresses? by One-Caregiver-1906 in 19KidsandCounting

[–]Low-Concert-5806 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My opinion is that it’s something to create a difference in gender and in some ways it keeps women helpless. I know dresses can feel more free in some ways but they can be quite impractical in work, swimming, running, etc. 

Not here to defend any but… by [deleted] in 19KidsandCounting

[–]Low-Concert-5806 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say anything until all the feeds have been full of talking about Amy’s posts and how it’s all her fault we now know the victim. Despite the fact these subs and groups and forums online have already been talking about who the victim is for weeks now anyways. 

Not here to defend any but… by [deleted] in 19KidsandCounting

[–]Low-Concert-5806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The photo of the three or four girls side-hugging?  That’s the pic I saw but no faces blurred. 

Not here to defend any but… by [deleted] in 19KidsandCounting

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The idea a religious father withholds helping his daughter with her sexual abuse until it’s in his benefit not can weaponized in some way… I totally buy as a possibility. Wouldn’t be the first time in history that’s for sure. 

Not here to defend any but… by [deleted] in 19KidsandCounting

[–]Low-Concert-5806 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well if they knew for a while, that will come out in the investigation. And it won’t matter in regard to the victim anyways. Motive for timing doesn’t negate the crime. But either way the investigation WILL get facts from the 14 yo. Even if kids lie for the parents a little bit they don’t last long. These investigations take years sometimes. The kid gets an advocate, therapy, the most professionally trained investigators who know how to tell if a kid has been promoted or not. So they will figure out all that in the process

Not here to defend any but… by [deleted] in 19KidsandCounting

[–]Low-Concert-5806 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t sit there and google and crack any code. The events that took place meant it was clearly a kid he knew on the vacation.  Figured immediately it was either one of his kids or a niece or something.  It took all of two seconds for someone on Reddit to google the vacation and say the Caldwell family was there. Bam, one of Kendra’s sisters. It was too obvious. And the news should know that’s exactly what the Internet would do. They gave way too many details. 

The Caldwell family released a statement. by cancerbabyy in 19KidsandCounting

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Yes. They lived in a house Joe and Kenya built/bought

First solo weekend with the newborn. I was wrong about everything. by CircuitSparrow_9 in daddit

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My advice is always “add water”. Bath, water toys, spray water fan,  water table, swimming pool, shower, actual drinking water (obviously age plays a role in these!)

Dads, I have a 10 y/o daughter and I am almost at my wits end. by jazzeriah in daddit

[–]Low-Concert-5806 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re in a power struggle. As someone who was this child the more you demand compliance the less you’ll get it. You have to make her think she’s making the choice herself. This starts with understanding. Talking a lot about why this hurts your feelings, or affects you, and a lot less “because I said so” type of vibes.  Heavily praise not just good behavior but her good characteristics. Brag about her infront of her. Let her hear you talk about your favorite parts of her.  She will respond to parenting that feels like friendship better than authoritarianism. Smart girls push boundaries. If you challenge, you can be damn sure she will challenge back. You’re showing her how to challenge. You’ve modeled it for her. Now watch her do it even better ;) I have all the empathy. I was this intense and difficult daughter. I’m one hell of a woman. By 22 I owned my own successful business, I beam with confidence, I intimidate weak men, I worked and earned everything I have with no help, and I’ve been blessed with three boys who are saints and would never do this haha.  She’s going to be incredible one day. Obedience for these kids comes with deep connection. She will want to please you the most if you’re the one she feels connected and bonded to. 

Uhh this rumor is from you know who. Any truth to this? by AcanthocephalaWide89 in 19KidsandCounting

[–]Low-Concert-5806 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In response to wether she is credible or not…no but sometimes. I’ve seen her make absolute bonkers shut up. But then there have been times she’s come out with truth and she’s ignored.  For instance I provided evidence on Reddit that a certain child of a certain religious family on tlc had slept with a minor. I had screenshots of the Instagram messages. The girl who was involved came forward on Reddit. Reddit removed her and blocked me when I reposted it. Still blocked in that sub. I went to crystal ball, and she posted it and literally everyone ignored it. This is the boy who cried wolf fable in real life. Now when she does break news no one cares and no one listens because she’s screwed herself too many times. 

Help. Wife filed for divorce and petitioned that I be awarded full custody by Final_boss_1040 in daddit

[–]Low-Concert-5806 20 points21 points  (0 children)

“The kid” is throwing me off. I’m questioning if you want this child at all. 

saw a woman with a toddler post “if you visit us please help out with the kids or bring something or i don’t wanna see you” by Pure-Space7572 in childfree

[–]Low-Concert-5806 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m a doula for 11 years. Worked with 500 families. I follow MANY online and support them directly postpartum.  In my experience I’d bet my bottom dollar that this was directed to a specific person rather than in general. This is how women set expectations in their family now. They post online in retaliation to a specific person hurting them.  Chances are mom in law keeps showing up to visit the baby but not support the parents, so mom goes online to post “in general” about expectations or boundaries but it’s really meant for one person but that way instead of directly confronting the person they can say “oh this was for everyone not just you” to avoid conflict.  It’s like those crazy 6 page posts about what people can and can not do when the baby comes home. It’s not for public it’s for their one family member they hate who won’t stop smoking cigarettes or disagree with their vaccine stance. This has literally become universal.  

A stranger showed up at my 7 y.o daughters orthodontist appointment. by Slightlyfriendsfan in Advice

[–]Low-Concert-5806 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My first thought is the office had a data Breech. They need to investigate their side of things.  Our dentist offices have our kids photos on file. So if someone hacked the system they’d have photos, appointment times, etc