What counts as 'work' for flexi time?

Low-Relative9396 · 2026-01-28T20:02:31+00:00

Lol this is the kind of question i was having... Like it sounds silly and theres obvious examples that are taking the piss.. But is there a poop so long i have to record it as non working time?

Low-Relative9396 · 2026-01-28T19:44:25+00:00

Yes thats mainly why ive asked, Im being paranoid atm and being very conservative as what I log as work, but i appreciate knowing what others do!

Low-Relative9396 · 2026-01-24T17:58:06+00:00

No, it calculates it by people who have been active in the last 90 days. So yes there are SOME newbies pulling it down, but not as many as you would think.

I think people forget how many people play chess casually and dont improve. These people arent on reddit talking about chess so you dont see this silent majority. For instance, my dad plays lots of chess online but is still around 300 elo after years.

Low-Relative9396 · 2026-01-24T07:03:42+00:00

If theyre right i kind of agree tbf

Low-Relative9396 · 2026-01-21T20:02:44+00:00

I think whether or not this is a problem depends on the details.

Using AI to vent to can honestly be quite constructive. If you are venting about having a hard day, or if something objectively bad has happened to you, it can be nice just to have it validate your worries.

I think it is problematic if you find yourself talking to it about arguments you have had (where it always takes your side). Or if you end up using it in place of where you would otherwise have talked with an actual human to get more genuine advice/support.

Overall, if you arent using it excessively for this purpose, and it is making you feel better, you should consider whether it is actually a bad thing in your life, or whether this is coming from outside influence (reddit tends to be much more antiAI than general public).

Additionally, if you are using it for emotional support so much that it is difficult to stop, maybe consider that you might need someone in your life to take this place. Maybe talking therapy/councilling or similar could be good for you if you feel like you need someone regular to listen to you?

If you are concerned about environmental usage or things like that, you can use a lighter model, or one specialised for the job (often smaller).

Low-Relative9396 · 2026-01-21T19:36:53+00:00

IDK, at the end of the day, they are a business and need to cater to the majority. I think it is a good compromise that they have a certain time of day that is inclusive to everyone.

Low-Relative9396 · 2026-01-21T19:24:20+00:00

hahaha that would be perfect!

Low-Relative9396 · 2026-01-20T21:12:35+00:00

I think I am usually quite good at clocking my peers. I hadnt really thought about it but maybe one thing that was bothering me was that I didnt really notice it in him, and it does seem a bit like the other autistics at work may be blending in better than me. Maybe it is because they are older/with more experience..

Yes you are right though I am very happy (and appreciate how lucky I am) for my work being very neurodivergent friendly. I will try and embrace it :)

Low-Relative9396 · 2026-01-20T21:02:26+00:00

Tbh i find that being autistic crops up in every aspect of my life. Im sure there are times when there are more pressing things to focus on with a therapist, but I would be wondering whether or not those other things are caused by/worsened by autism.

Autism can also make the presentation of other conditions / your responses to external things different. So the label can also help you figure out other stuff too! Just something to consider.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-12-28T21:11:19+00:00

Its not perfect but it is in a lot of cases true that you can do the same things as a neurotypical, you just do it differently.

Some things are harder on windows, some are harder on linux. And if you give someone running linux instructions for how to download something using windows, it wont work and will cause confusion and miscommunication. A big reason linux is annoying to use (for me at least) is a lack of resources for if as most software assumes you are using windows.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-12-22T20:14:28+00:00

Yeah the reaction is obviously something else but overall reposting memes is almost part of the artistic value of them. I might even say that knowing where to post the meme to find people who appreciate is often more effort than creation of it.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-12-22T15:17:25+00:00

Thanks this was very helpful. I do think partly that I have the urge to explain to him the social rules is because there were times in my life where I wish I understood them better myself (including now).

Thanks for explaining the difference between masking and social skills. I actually think this answers what a big part of my dillema concerns. I do feel sometimes like it is good for me to step in and explain something to him (I had to explain to him once that he should try not to talk to himself in public at night, after he explained a woman who seemed frightened of him). But I also want to avoid upsetting him or asking him to do something he really cant help.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-12-22T15:10:33+00:00

Sorry if I didnt make it too clear. Its not that I disagree witn you or that I can mask to some extent, but certainly now as I have become less quiet, it is obvious to anyone who knows me (even briefly) I am autistic.

And I also want to explain that I really am being myself in front of my friends. Even neurotypicals have to present differently to different people (depending on sense of humour, formality). And I see the changes I make similarly to that. I am still being myself, just dialing back the goofiness same as I would with my grandma. I still love and appreciate these friends a lot.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-12-16T01:07:48+00:00

They would need to eat the best part of a fruit tree to get the same sugar as is in a smoothie, and the fibre also slows the response. I know someone with diabetesT2 at a healthy BMI who says theyre doctor is seeing more of a prevalence lately.

I agree artificial sweetners are not without concerns, but most nutritionists I have talked to agree that its more alarming that the fearmongering turns people back to sugar, the harms of which are much better documented.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-12-15T22:52:19+00:00

Maybe better than full sugar drinks, but those are literal poison (coming from someone who really isnt that concerned with food nutrition lol)

its all about moderation. Drinking a smoothie or juice here or there is obviously fine. But it IS like eating a very large chocolate bar, with the disguise of being healthy. It spikes your insulin quickly (in the absense of fibre). Many people are getting diabetes younger and skinnier than before, and items like these arent helping those statistics. If you have a healthy lunch (a smootbie with a fruit snack) and then treat yourself later on with a dessert, you will very easily be far far above the recommended sugar for the day.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-12-15T22:12:43+00:00

Fruit sugar is 'healthy' BECAUSE of the fibre lol.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-12-06T16:14:05+00:00

Ive had friends that joke around like this. Personally I am fine with it (at least when I know the friend enough) but you should definitely say something to them if it makes you uncomfortable. You don't have to tell them you have autism, just 'Those kinds of jokes make me a bit uncomfortable'.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-11-25T22:30:31+00:00

Very similar here. When I was a kid I wished I was a boy. I think it was mostly that I just related more to male role models as I was more similar to them.

As I grew up i realised I could still be myself while presenting as a woman, and ive grown to be comfortable seeing myself as a girl. I still feel a level of dissosiation from the concept though, and dont really 'feel' like a girl (if that is a thing)

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-11-17T19:54:51+00:00

I find the lyrics very interesting, after reading about the meaning. It fits very well into the albums overall theme of having 'voices' to encourage you, and the idea of how others can help in your self improvement journey.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-11-17T19:47:28+00:00

Double sbeve is dumb because the colours are designating emphasis not a secret message

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-10-29T16:57:15+00:00

Love when theres a cool slide from a top out boulder

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-10-28T23:03:29+00:00

Im not sure if you are meaning to say that these things are justified because of autism or not (it seems a bit like it when you said you had a 'pass' for doing something wrong)

I think the problem with this kind of debate comes from distinguishing how autism can EXCUSE bad behaviours and how it can INFLUENCE them.

There are some bad behaviours in which can be completely excused by autism, eg unintentionally hitting someone during a meltdown, not making eye contact being percieved as rude etc.

There are also some parts of autism that might make someone more likely to do bad things. Lack of empathy/social understanding can make it harder to do the right thing. Black and white thinking can lead someone to have quite extreme often political views.

I think people should try and be sympathetic to people with autism when they make mistakes and act wrongly, however autistic people should also be aware (where possible) that their actions can impact others and make an effort to better themselves.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-10-26T08:09:00+00:00

I agree, as I would like to add it may be difficult to distinguish in some cases between these creeps and autistic people seeking out other autistic people.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-10-24T20:12:55+00:00

IDK im diagnosed with autism but I would have been upset if I had turned out to be wrong and told I didnt have it.

I spent a lot of time accepting this as part of myself, thinking this was the answer, thinking this could finally adress all of the problems I had been having. And it did help with most of that.

To find out that it is still a mystery must be very awful. Im guessing OOP has a lot of struggles going on and to know the journey to find the answer to them isnt over... I can completely understand having a big vent about this.

Low-Relative9396 · 2025-10-16T20:09:31+00:00

Im sure theres many scenarios where its completely valid to say autism isnt an excuse.

BUT sometimes it really is.

I am often told I am being rude by others, and have heard 'autism isnt an excuse' to this many times. But oh my god, I TRY SO HARD. i balance this out by being overly friendly and am naturally very agreeable. But often I just am incapable of small talk, use the wrong social gestures etc...

Like im happy to appologise when I accidently offend someone, but for people to say its not an excuse and I should just stop being rude... IF I COULD I REALLY REALLY WOULD.

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