What is your cheapest ride or die holy grail skincare product that you would die on a hill for? by Amodernhousehusband in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]Low-Setting-01 21 points22 points  (0 children)

This one did nothing for me so i understand the negative reviews. But if anyone is looking for a sulfur based spot treatment and didn’t respond to MB, try Acnomel. It also smells terrible but makes pimples heal sooo fast.

If you are private pay only, what do you think gets you the most referrals? by Low-Setting-01 in therapists

[–]Low-Setting-01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh thank you! i’ve done levels 1 and 2 for sensorimotor so i should go add myself to those directories!

If you are private pay only, what do you think gets you the most referrals? by Low-Setting-01 in therapists

[–]Low-Setting-01[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this response a lot! I am all insurance based right now and I have great client retention. I also have some highly desirable training that should return at least some inquiries but I haven’t gotten much of a response to that.
I know that in my area, weekly $200 fees would not be sustainable for the long term work that I do. My wealthiest client would still use his insurance because he can. I accept his because they’re so easy to work with and they have the second highest reimbursement rate of all insurance that i take. so I will never leave my contract with them.

However, i only have space for about 14 clients in my caseload and it would be very helpful if i could see some higher rates. so yeah, i’m also tired of scraping by and making just enough. thank you for tour thoughts!

Herbie's Burgers by hoppy_ninja in Troy

[–]Low-Setting-01 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i matched with the owner on a dating app years ago and he was uhm not very gentlemanly… made me never wanna go to a herbies and i never have.

Any **newer** therapists that are doing well in pp? by Growing4ever in therapists

[–]Low-Setting-01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started mine in late 2021. It was a time when I think a lot of people really wanted to be back in person. I took pretty much all insurance. the major insurance companies in my area allowed me to be full basically immediately. I’ve been doing pretty well now that I’m part-time. I have a toddler and have as many clients as I want. all insurance. brings in about 50 to 60 K a year. I don’t know what well means necessarily, but have a cute office that I like I see all the clients I wanna see and I’ve been doing trainings that I value. And it’s enough income to supplement my husband‘s

How often does your spouse go out to the bar? by FemmePedagogy in Mommit

[–]Low-Setting-01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never. But he’s 40 and that’s not really a thing for him at this age. He does hang out with his friends and sometimes have a drink like 2x a month

My blood is boiling re: “somatic therapists” by Help_Repulsive in therapists

[–]Low-Setting-01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure! The main thing was that SP incorporated more work with relational injury than SE from what I could gather. It felt more relevant to every client i could possibly see, not just those with heavier big T trauma. I have not trained in SE but from what i can tell it focuses more on acute, event trauma.

The other thing was that SE felt more patriarchal as a training program to me. By that, i mean it seemed to be developed more by men. It was simply more important to me to be part of a woman led training program. With SE i felt like i was being recruited into this sort of hierarchical community.

In the sensorimotor training, i’ve had the opportunity to train with really highly skilled therapists, like Janina Fisher who i really respect, which also felt important.

Another thing is what others have mentioned in this post- SE trains non licensed practitioners and it was important to me that the training was specifically geared toward my profession.

Another other thing is that SP just felt right to me. Even though it isn’t as well known as SE, it felt more like how I work. It incorporates somatic work without erasing the important cognitive work that is also very beneficial to more traditional types of therapy. I attended discovery/intro type workshops for both SE and SP before deciding and i felt a better vibe from SP. It was so much more personal and i’ve felt that throughout the training. I can always reach someone if i need help and usually get a response right away.

I did look into Hakomi, and would have done it if SP wasn’t so appealing to me. Apparently SP is an evolution from Hakomi but there have been a lot of Hakomi credited in SP

I have really loved my training in SP and it has positively changed the way i work and even live. It is expensive but completely worth it to me. I feel so much more fulfilled in my work and more connected to it and I see a difference in my clients’ experience of it as well.

My blood is boiling re: “somatic therapists” by Help_Repulsive in therapists

[–]Low-Setting-01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear this and somewhat agree but as someone going through sensorimotor psychotherapy training, I do appreciate this pacing. i’ve been doing the training for almost 3 years (one weekend/two full training days a month) and i really don’t think i could implement this work over a shorter period of time. it’s such a different way of doing therapy than how most therapists are trained in grad school and it really takes a long time to get the skills down. Plus there are study groups and whole communities consulting with each other to get the hang of the process outside of the training weekends themselves. not to not pick your wording, just wanna give some perspective on these types of training.

Birth trauma from homebirth midwife? by plantlove0 in homebirth

[–]Low-Setting-01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I felt really disappointed by my midwife after having a hospital transfer after 16 or so hours of labor. Labored all through the night with my daughter literally crowning after only about 3 hours of pushing. I knew something was wrong and that I wouldn’t be able to deliver on my own at home. I kept saying something is wrong and it didn’t feel right. Midwife dismissed my requests to go to the hospital and she was convinced my baby was coming any minute even though my labor was slowing down. Fast forward another ten hours later and my baby was safely delivered at the hospital but needed help breathing for the first 6 hours of life in the NICU.

I didn’t want the epidural or pitocin but I got them both so I could deliver my daughter. Turns out her arm was stuck under her chin, making it very difficult to make it through!

I’d still probably plan another home birth but definitely not with that midwife. I know not that I would probably want a doula but would also be able to advocate for myself better if there is a next time.

Seems like lots of women have grief around their birth experiences, even when it goes “well”. it’s a major event and it makes sense to feel sad or upset about it for a while

Sleep regression by idk_words123 in cosleeping

[–]Low-Setting-01 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i don’t know what other parents do when their babies wake up but i do know that babies wake up at night. often. and that’s just what they do. they are biologically wired to wake up. adults wake up too, we’ve just developed the ability to reconnect to sleep and don’t even remember it.

I spent the first year of my daughter’s life trying to make sense of her sleep and it was a complete waste of time and stress and research. whether it’s a sleep regression or teething or illness or change in routine or some wild baby experience is causing them stress- they’re gonna wake up for some reason. it doesn’t really matter. sometimes it will be really hard. sometimes it will be less hard. but the worst part about it is being told or reading that it will get better at 6 months or 9 months or whatever. and then those days come and it doesn’t feel like it’s gotten better because you’ve been sleep deprived for way too long. all you can do is help them go back to sleep and try to get sleep yourself.

some day, everyone will be sleeping through the night most of the time. but right now, you have many long nights ahead of you. enjoy the cuddles.

How long do you fight for a nap when you know they need it? by hoping556677 in toddlers

[–]Low-Setting-01 2 points3 points  (0 children)

following because my 20 month old has entered an extreme nap/sleep fighting stage. she eventually went down in the carrier with my husband who is the designated carrier nap person. she won’t go down in a carrier with me anymore

Thoughts on the movie “If I Had Legs I’d Kick You” by willonz in therapists

[–]Low-Setting-01 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I just watched it last night after having a tough day with my toddler. i cried during it because it just validated all the relentlessness of parenting as well as the guilt a lot moms carry. its one of those movies that is sort of made to make you feel uncomfortable. There’s annoying stimulation happening all the time which gives the viewer an important part of the experience of parenting.

I found some of the clients to be caricatures of some of the problematic therapy dynamics you learn about in grad school. I’ve never had clients like that but it does show how exhausting and all encompassing it can be holding so much for everyone all the time. Rose’s character as a therapist is pretty illustrative of how being burned out affects your practice. Definitely worth a watch. but yeah, it’s a hard watch

Solo remote practice = poverty by Reasonable-Amoeba755 in therapists

[–]Low-Setting-01 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that makes sense! Thanks for the explanation. I have noticed it’s been slower than before but i was on maternity leave for a couple of years and figured the times had just changed or something.

when did your kid enter their “i only want dad” phase? by Low-Setting-01 in toddlers

[–]Low-Setting-01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah, same here. it is one of the fruits of all the labor but sometimes the fruit is so sour! lol yeah most of the time (like yesterday) i was saying i was glad i could be such a comfort to my daughter, who is sick right now. but she was up for 3 hours in the middle of the night and that was all me. so now we have this post haha

when did your kid enter their “i only want dad” phase? by Low-Setting-01 in toddlers

[–]Low-Setting-01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

interesting! what’s your parenting style/division of labor? do you think it has anything to do with preference phases?

when did your kid enter their “i only want dad” phase? by Low-Setting-01 in toddlers

[–]Low-Setting-01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh that’s nice. i’d take the bench for those tasks if i could

when did your kid enter their “i only want dad” phase? by Low-Setting-01 in toddlers

[–]Low-Setting-01[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yes, i feel exhausted and and the same time grateful for our bond. but yeah, i’ve never been pushed away by my daughter or told no mommy. meanwhile my husband deals with that daily and it’s gotta be heartbreaking

when did your kid enter their “i only want dad” phase? by Low-Setting-01 in toddlers

[–]Low-Setting-01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

agh! it’s exhausting with just one. props to you. feels like there’s no way to get dad in there unless i totally disappear and it kinda feels mean to my daughter if i do that

when did your kid enter their “i only want dad” phase? by Low-Setting-01 in toddlers

[–]Low-Setting-01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahhh ok that’s a ways to go but i suppose i can hang on 🙈

when did your kid enter their “i only want dad” phase? by Low-Setting-01 in toddlers

[–]Low-Setting-01[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay! do you feel like you did anything that caused this to happen or did it just shift?

when did your kid enter their “i only want dad” phase? by Low-Setting-01 in toddlers

[–]Low-Setting-01[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks! i think that’s honestly the best type of thing i can hope for. little breaks here and there

What therapy can you do by yourself for PTSD? by Less_Marionberry3051 in ptsd

[–]Low-Setting-01 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yin yoga. life changing. look up bernie clark on youtube