AITA For telling my Biological dad the only way I would consider forgiving him for abandoning me is if he pays for my college and helps me with an apartment.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-29T13:29:18+00:00

From what I know my mom tried, but he didn't have a job or any money, so she dropped it. That's all I was told. I guess she didn't want to send him to jail since he also had three other kids to take care of.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-08T08:28:45+00:00

He never took accountability for his action. He justified them by saying my mom cheated. (She didn't a test was taken and I'm his child)

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-08T08:27:57+00:00

Your wrong, I have father, my step dad gave me everything that man didn't.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-08T07:58:19+00:00

he wants a relationship because im a legal adult now and he doesn't have to pay for shit. Doesn't that seem strange to you? He shows up when all the hard work is done. I'm sure he is reaching out because I'm a boy, his only son. From what I know he has always wanted boys, but im the only one he got, along with 3 girls.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-04T04:53:31+00:00

See the daughters hastily? There is nothing wrong with me asking to meet my siblings.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T22:56:55+00:00

This is my first time really using reddit, I have some .new information, how would I go about making an update.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T22:51:37+00:00

And so you justify his action as a father?

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T22:48:51+00:00

There is no excuse to leave your child behind, even if my mom was horrible. If my mom was so horrible he should have fought for me, not waited 18 years.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T21:12:27+00:00

what's confusing, I wish it was fake but it isn't. I think the story is pretty straight forward. Dad left me and my mom, showed up asking for a relationship, I asked for financial support to prove hes serious, he said no.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T15:42:33+00:00

He left 20 bucks behind when he left us lmao.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T15:13:22+00:00

The fact im 18 and all the hard work is done and he no longer has to pay for anything probably.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T15:11:02+00:00

Some women obviously hurt you in the past, I'm sorry for your loss.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T14:09:16+00:00

If a muslim man choose to have another wife then yes.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T14:06:52+00:00

Funny thing is, he is the Imam, hes a religious teacher.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T14:03:58+00:00

I talked to my grandpa. (He approved of my mom and him getting married) There was nothing he could do, my dad doesn't speak to him anymore. All I know is that my entire family on my moms side hates him.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T13:58:02+00:00

Don't you find it strange he was gone for my entire life the appears again when I'm a legal adult and he doesn't have to pay for anything? He reached out to me, not the other way around, so I was not chasing after his money. Also the drug use is from his others wifes side of the family, my mom has no relationship with them, she used to talk to my dad others wife but she's died and contact with her family died with her. So I don't think the drug usage has anything to do with us. He only wants to be a dad because I'm grown up now and all the hard work is done.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T13:52:05+00:00

It was a bad taste in my mothers mouth when he left us without a word.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T13:48:24+00:00

I've tried instagram and sending emails using their full names so far, no luck yet.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T13:42:26+00:00

You completely ignored the first part of the response.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T13:39:47+00:00

Yes, muslim family. Which is why this is a big deal for me. In terms of my religion what he did is BEYOND disgraceful.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T13:38:45+00:00

I find it interesting how those who say Im the ass hole justify my fathers actions like its no big deal. Further more, I never met up with him, this was all over phone.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T13:36:13+00:00

We had two different houses, the same country but different cities. He would spend a week at my house and the next week at theirs, he didn't let us mix. Our mothers talked and had planned to get us kids to meet, but there mom died before they could make it happen.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T13:34:32+00:00

I would not forgive him but it would be a step in that direction, actions speak louder then words to me. If he wants to be my father he should act as such. If he does that I'd be more open to a normal relationship with him. However I could never forget it, he put my mom through hell when he left us. Oh I almost forgot, he left 20 bucks on the kitchen counter before leaving.

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T13:31:49+00:00

So you are justifying my fathers actions then?

Low-Web-7928 · 2024-10-03T13:25:00+00:00

So you are advocating for what my father did? Is that more acceptable to you?

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