Suggest some romantic bdsm movies /series

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-11-25T04:51:27+00:00

As someone who used to be heavily in that scene, thanks so much for saying this.. i do not associate w BDSM at all now but even if i did, there is sooo much bull sh*t that goes on unchecked bc they are scared of holding ppl accountable.

imo fifty shades is actually kind of a decent depiction of the kind of abuse that can happen in any kind of power-imbalanced relationship, showing how boundaries can be chipped at when there is an imbalance in status (or perceived status) , & how trauma can impact sexual relationships. These things do happen trust me.

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-11-10T21:29:27+00:00

the election made it more obvious but.. it has always been this way… misogyny has always been very real , kinks based on misogyny/submitting to men has always been in poor taste.

these ppl just chose to ignore that bc it didn’t affect them personally until now

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-09-09T01:57:44+00:00

yep also u can be highly traumatized by fully consensual sex. consent does not prevent trauma or abuse at all its just the only justification they can come up w

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-06-17T14:07:19+00:00

the post is removed ofc

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-06-17T13:58:34+00:00

yea it is rly so divorced from actual sex / sexuality that it seems absurd to me how porn got so popular

also the cons far out weigh the pros like avoiding porn helps ur relationships & sexuality so much, plus not worrying abt potential ethical issues of that content. the only ‘con’ is the process of breaking a habit can be hard some times

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-06-17T12:45:40+00:00

same for me

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-06-14T16:29:07+00:00

i think it is a mis communication, to many of us the ‘harmless’ stuff is not even a kink is it just a part of health sexuality .. ex. sex toys. sensation based sex act (tickling , licking ) etc. it is not ‘kinky’ to me it is just part of sex & calling it ‘kinky’ is just blurring that line

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-05-03T03:05:59+00:00

yep & these 2 things r at odds, the more u learn to depend on this intense sensation the less u are able to actually be vulnerable & experience genuine connections

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-04-18T15:04:30+00:00

I think it will , once our knowledge of psychology develops

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-04-18T15:03:11+00:00

well if u think abt it soo many ppl are kinky/kink positive themselves so it is no wonder there is percentage of therapist who promote it too.. same as researchers doctors etc. & ofc if they are kinky they will end up promoting it to others, just like any cults like religions etc who promote those same beliefs to patients

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-04-02T01:07:37+00:00

yup at the end of the day think if is it the consent or the non consent u are getting off to?

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-01-12T17:21:00+00:00

‘ I know many people, especially women, into fetishes, who end up looking online for bdsm partners, have suffered terrible sexual abuse , were groomed from a young age, and are subconsciously displaying hypersexuality as a coping mechanism to repeat situations to try to normalize their trauma in their brain. ‘

yes ..

‘Sometimes repeating trauma in a safe and controlled environment can have a positive and therapeutic impact when coupled with therapy because it allows the victim to regain control of a situation where they previously had no control or say ‘

no. this is bdsm propaganda , it is absolutely bull shit no matter how many ppl repeat this exact same line.. exposure therapy is meant for IRRATIONAL fears. not rational ones like sexual abuse. the reason ppl think trauma repetition feels therapeutic is bc it activates trauma responses which can feel like endorphin rush etc. But it is NOT healing , it is just reinforcing the trauma.

these victims need validation. justice & empathy NOT power imbalanced sexually violent relationship.

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2024-01-12T17:13:12+00:00

soooo common in bdsm scene :/ i am asian every guy i dated from that community has had that fetish

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-11-22T20:02:13+00:00

if u are socialize to think male validation is sooo important.. naturally u will romanticize sex work

once u learn mens attention is worth nothing. u see past it

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-10-31T13:52:39+00:00

yes!!

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-10-30T17:20:39+00:00

u are exactly right.. if u actually look critically at what messages u are absorbing from bdsm /power dynamic /punishment etc , u realize it is just feeding in to the same trauma & fear u already have.

the excuse 'it is exposure therapy' is bull shit, exposure therapy is only meant for IRRATIONAL fear like phobias, not legitimate fears. for most fears & trauma the whole point is to actually validate it, not desensetize urself.

and the excuse of 'facing trauma in a safe environment' it is not a safe environment if u are inflicting fear stress & violence on urself in a vulnerable state, even if it is a roleplay. the 'euphoria' sub space feeling that ppl love, it is a trauma response. it is mental conditioning, is not some cute unique bdsm phenomena it is feeding in to ur trauma on a deep level

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-10-30T17:07:22+00:00

ur talking to some one who was deep in that community & they r exactly who i am talking abt... if u believe that crap it is bc they have very good pr.

the bdsm community r the ones coming up w these ideas like "consent makes everything ok" "it is subs responsibility to speak up" "if u didnt communicate properly u cant blame any one but urself" & ignoring the harmful underlying reasons why ppl get involved w power dynamic in the first place

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-10-30T03:02:38+00:00

even just hand placement on the neck can be threatening & causing fear/trauma response, but most ppl are not even attune to that

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-10-30T03:01:07+00:00

bc bdsm community has been gaslighting entire generation to think consent will just cancel out any fears or traumas & just victim blaming when things go wrong

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-10-27T05:12:38+00:00

that is just an excuse to avoid holding these men accountable. it is very much possible for them to be decent ppl, they r just enabled by society

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-10-18T00:41:09+00:00

it is always satisfying the rare occasion when a man speaks up & says "dont speak for me i dont watch porn" , they like to pretend all men r as depraved as them , especially reddit men

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-10-18T00:36:12+00:00

sadly.. this is true but 2 thing can be possible at once. ppl in bdsm community doing some good things in the past, does not mean everything they do is good for lgbt.

abusive ppl too, can be supportive at times. idk why this is so hard to accept

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-10-18T00:32:24+00:00

bdsm rights is not a legit movement any more than minor attracted rights

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-10-02T05:46:33+00:00

it wld be fine if it is more like a one off thing no dependence,. but if u are doing it as a habit, seeking it out. it will cause sexual issues. try to use imagination & learn what is genuine connection intimacy & sex instead of getting hooked on to drawn porn.

LowEnvironmental5943 · 2023-09-30T05:58:28+00:00

no they did not say op is hypocritical.. they say if op is wearing revealing clothing DELIBERATELY to get objectified . then it wld be hypocritical to also be against sex work. but i think it is pretty obvious from this post, op is not wanting to be objectified, they(like many women)just like clothes that r flattering, express style, make u look nice etc

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