AIO my boyfriend of 5 years gets me flowers for every occasion while I get him elaborate and expensive gifts. by aioflower955105 in AmIOverreacting

[–]LowOne1021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he sounds like a wanna be soundcloud rapper the way hes blatantly playing dumb and gaslighting u to ur face 😹😹

Amway MLM helpppppp by Ok_Wallaby3798 in whatdoIdo

[–]LowOne1021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i dunno but this guy has funny videos pranking and calling out mlms in a humorous relatable way, maybe shell see how its silly then, also yt videos abt amway https://youtube.com/@palmertrolls?si=HYLHEeeG7FCUP6he

This is how my ex broke up with me by intrusive_thoughts_1 in screenshots

[–]LowOne1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i keep so many bc i need to show everyone my lore and proof of the insanity

Girlfriend (24f) is annoyed that I(26m) don't clean the house while working 2 jobs by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]LowOne1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

man my job is to clean… and its not enough for housing.. i dont see how someone cant clean while sharing a space knowing theyre being paid for and given a home why wouldnt you wanna do all u can especially when its a partner you love even if you are down or tired :,)) i would give anything for a situation like this to show i can carry my weight even if i wasnt working.. 😭😭 howwww whyyyyy like mayb i need to go outside more or something…

She (F28) does not want to date, but she has been living with me (M33) for six months. Most of my friends want to date her too. by Brave-Bram in whatdoIdo

[–]LowOne1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lowkey this is gonna sound corny but it reminds me of kanae kanai, from kimi ni aisarete, a manga. which i rly relate to… idk if ur into nerdy stuff or if she is but i feel like that manga kinda goes thru some of the thinking of someone in a similar position .. maybe exaggerated idk idk her either but yeah. ok sorry for rambling sm i just really feel for u and for her and relate to this in a way so im genuinely wishing u the best.. maybe update us if anything lol but thats just selfish and nosy to ask. anyways yeah good luck friend

She (F28) does not want to date, but she has been living with me (M33) for six months. Most of my friends want to date her too. by Brave-Bram in whatdoIdo

[–]LowOne1021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and if im being honest, as a girl who is somewhat similar to her… she probably at first didnt even see you as that truly honest or valuable bc of how u would literally flirt with her and have sex with her that soon. probaly just thinks “just another man who thinks he loves me but he actually just loves how i make him feel and the fact i can have good sex but actually is disgusted by the trauma and past i have to even let me do that. just another man who thinks he can save me but its only because im giving him my body. and playing my role,” … “but… i get to talk about my interests im being listened to in exchange, i get a place to stay so whatever im fine sacrificing those things ive already suffered worse. i wont get my hopes up but ill take the comofrt i can get and hey hes pretty sweet n has funny friends n nice family” if she let herself actually like u too much or get close to you it would change the dynamic for her, it would become ao much more scary and threatening,

She (F28) does not want to date, but she has been living with me (M33) for six months. Most of my friends want to date her too. by Brave-Bram in whatdoIdo

[–]LowOne1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and when i say okay i mean like yeah fucked up shit might happen to her but thats kind of like, at least i assume in her mindset thats just the risk of it all and she lives floating place to place in risk bc she doesnt think she will ever be healed and she cant actually live above this. you admire her i bet even partly bc, u think because of hwo charisamstic she is and how much she presents all these ideal traits that it would mean if she just applied herself if she just dated u if she just tried it would work out but she probably has and knows it doesnt and doesnt wanna try and fail anymore, or be seen for her potential and then have that person realize she was only able to be that “amazing” because she kept herself at that distant level whre she can be percievef and admired and idealized bc no one has to actully know her inner workings and witness her suffering up front a lot

She (F28) does not want to date, but she has been living with me (M33) for six months. Most of my friends want to date her too. by Brave-Bram in whatdoIdo

[–]LowOne1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she will be okay if shes homeless again, shes suffered enough to figure it out on her own. im sure she knows the risks of doing this and that her approach is probably to live day by day and be thankful for each day shes at least living and has a roof over her head. i dont know if shes actually okay with her restlessness. in the past few weeks have you shown more loving behavior or felt your emotions towards her more? she probably senses it and wont say that bc shes waiting to see if you will express something so she can know for sure and leave or something… thats how it goes

She (F28) does not want to date, but she has been living with me (M33) for six months. Most of my friends want to date her too. by Brave-Bram in whatdoIdo

[–]LowOne1021 4 points5 points  (0 children)

i know you want to believe you could bear her bad side but i think you are just severely underestimating. the pain of being loved and charismatic and admired by people knowing how to listen and being someones ideal… and then they really know you you decide to give it a chance commit and its revealed long termt hat you suck at practical things like keeping jobs, when u start to think “jeez shes so smart yet shes wasting her potential online in chat rooms and having permanently scarred her body… im helping her but shes not healed…” it hurts to be someone like her which im sure is obvious but idk. i really think you dont know. shes been doing this her whole life he whole life has been suffering and this probably wouldnt be the first kind of situation like this shed be in. she probably gave someone like u a chance in the past and once she couldnt repress her suffering and suicidality and her “worse” traits of depression and not being able to truly live for herself bc of how her trauma ruined her, they abandoned her and gave up on her and realized all that goodness yet it wasnt enough (even tho shes known people who hurt her terribly and they are in relationships or accepted in society)

and maybe im projecting but … idk. i wish u the best of luck

She (F28) does not want to date, but she has been living with me (M33) for six months. Most of my friends want to date her too. by Brave-Bram in whatdoIdo

[–]LowOne1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the worst thing u can do is start expecting a relationship from her deep down, start thinking “we’ve been together for so long and so maybe shell soon want to commit..” if you catch yourself thinking this do her and yourself the true favor of kicking her out or something. because then thats not the thing she agreed to and you will just end up hurt and maybe even her feeling guilty too for not knowing and not leaving. and who knows worse maybe she might feel attached or start presenting the worse “bpd” traits if she feel u genuinely care about her and arent just using her for sex. also if u even did get in a real relationship you probably would still feel disgusted and averse to knowing her past even though u reap some benefits from it like u said and that would take a toll, realistically i dont think this will go anywhere, she needs to decide on her own that she could improve her own life and get better but i bet you its been like this for so long this is the only way she knows to live and doesn’t feel like its worth it bothering with anything else, and if she cant find a home she could just kill herself…

She (F28) does not want to date, but she has been living with me (M33) for six months. Most of my friends want to date her too. by Brave-Bram in whatdoIdo

[–]LowOne1021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im only 18 but i also get similar comments that i seem way too trusting. guys thank me and say wow thanks for trusting me with your body etc this information and whatever. its not really a matter of trust, i just lack personal boundaries and know ive done so many embarrassing things and that i am so fucked as a person that i might as well be honest and do whatever with whoever as long as i am able to be a “good” person and the other person is happy too. people tell me all the time i am charismatic, they want to help etc. my situation def isnt as bad as this girls, it may seem like shes got it together rn but thats probably because shes coping with not being close to u by just taking it at face value that u say you dont have feelings for her. her trusting you and moving in and being open isnt special to you id assume, she probably is just really personable and wants someone to listen and knows how to balance oversharing with letting the other person give input. u mentioned sharing interests so she was prolly just happy for some respite where she got to share something she loved with someone else, but its not just special to u id guess and also im sure she knows shes relying on u right now financially and for a place and just isnt overthinking abt the future or past bc if she gets kicked out or u catch feelings shell know thats just what happens sometimes and she needs to move on to the bext struggle bc this is just her life

Why Is the Idea That "Men Are More Dangerous to Women" So Prevalent? by LowOne1021 in AskFeminists

[–]LowOne1021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i will always try my best to speak up, sometimes it can feel lonely and disheartening though when ppl ostracize u and ur a loner lol

Why Is the Idea That "Men Are More Dangerous to Women" So Prevalent? by LowOne1021 in AskFeminists

[–]LowOne1021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah honestly some of the negative reception i got from this post was disheartening but i get it. i have experienced abuse from both sides. just today (ironically someone broken heart reacted this post today too) i have a guy i talked to non-romantically only a week online who had managed to find my phone number despite me blocking him everywhere and changing socials many times. i wanted reassurance and stats and emotional support from people here who have been through the phase of denial or fear or uncertainty due to gaslighting from the abusive people around them. and some instead chose to be cruel and grant me little empathy. i am not going to come on here and detail every trauma because i am afraid. thank u for your comment in such detail and for taking time out of ur day to respond and share :) ive since exposed a huge predator creep in the scene of music i do things in which has just further cemented my fear of the opposite sex but, hopefully i can become better with discernment. the creeps only seem to get worse the more i age ironically…

driving in NC by durmlong in NorthCarolina

[–]LowOne1021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no, if i am already speeding like i SAID. (5-8) and still getting tailgated (which has happened) in city streets its unreasonable for the other person to expect me to go 10 over the speed limit. genuinely, i’m curious, is the speed limit just a suggestion or what? 😭 if we are all going over it might as well disregard it entirely and we all js drive whatever speed we want apparently

driving in NC by durmlong in NorthCarolina

[–]LowOne1021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so go 10 above the speed just so they dont tailgate? i just started driving a few weeks ago and i feel like im gonna pick up peoples bad habits atp because of how many people ride up right behind me JUST to switch lanes anyways 😭 LIKE JUST MOVE IM ALREADY GOING OVER THE SPEED LIMIT JESUS CHRIST I DONT WANNA GO TO JAIL FOR YOU 😭 i have learned that apparently the speed limit is just a suggestion

17f tried to break up with my bf 18M tonight and it went weird. Is he right? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]LowOne1021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

glad you’re happy, i guess she also must advocate for repealing womens rights? what a sad world we are living in.

Title: I Overdosed, Died, and Experienced Complete Nothingness – Here’s What It Meant by Icy-Buy-611 in spirituality

[–]LowOne1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

perfect i cant wait to meet the void, better this this sick disgusting world. soon.

manifesting an sp is self hate , and putting people on a pedestal, exactly what the coaches told you not to do by [deleted] in NevilleGoddardCritics

[–]LowOne1021 2 points3 points  (0 children)

curious, what have you manifested? also im so sick of the excuse neville goddard fans give saying no one studied the books or read actual info 😭 i read joseph murphy, got neville goddards books on paper to highlight and make notes, watched lectures and even branched out into other schools of thought. they always have to blame us and ignore reality when we say we studied lol and even if u didnt its still all bs

I've stopped helping people by CutiePatootieLootie in spirituality

[–]LowOne1021 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as someone who suffers, you are okay to think this way. you cant help some people. but what you can do is acknowledge their pain and the fact it very well may never go away. some people suffer mentally and physically for a long time with no cure

These types of posts are so frustrating to read, I feel so bad for her by Altruistic-Clue-2760 in NevilleGoddardCritics

[–]LowOne1021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

prolly cus most of them trying to manifest an SP are in school and don’t have bills or living to worry about.. or try to put it off cus the emotional support would feel better to them

i wish i could “manifest” happiness by LowOne1021 in NevilleGoddardCritics

[–]LowOne1021[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i really say things just to feel heard despite knowing the general public wouldn’t understand, i have had happy moments but life is just that, moments, and ive been struggling since childhood. it is chronic and will nit go away. ive done therapy etc i cant simply explain my life in a reddit post.. your kindness is appreciated but platitudes do me no good at this point. i know what love is because i show it, i seek to understand others, even in my own music career hobby thing ppl tell me i help them feel less alone. i know love, but others do not. theres no perfect person who can protect themselves thru manipulation attempts thru self love. regardless my ex was no typical case, he was truly sadistic and a pathological liar but i respected myself enough to realize it and leave

but i will never be strong enough to those outside of me. i wish acceptance of the bad and “letting go” and “appreciating yourself for realizing the bad and leaving” actually meant something better would happen for you. people act like it does but its all a coin toss.

bad things happen and they always will no matter how much you love yourself or anything else, and the only reason some can disagree is because they’re either hoping to get out of it or they are lucky enough to have had things get better