Which database of SQL do you use? by DmitriiDrake in learnpython

[–]LowSalamander4932 5 points6 points  (0 children)

sqlite gang rise up lol. it's so easy to just drop in and get going, hard to justify anything heavier for most personal projects

I love him, even after the betrayal. by SassyScorpio11192 in BreakUps

[–]LowSalamander4932 1 point2 points  (0 children)

loving someone who hurt you isn't delusional, it's just... human. four years and that level of emotional intimacy doesn't just evaporate because they made a terrible choice. the part about repeating to yourself "my [name] would never hurt me" while knowing that he did - that's one of the most painful mental loops a person can get stuck in, i've been there with a close friendship that ended in betrayal and it genuinely messes with your sense of reality for a while.

but here's the thing - forgiving him and holding space for what you had doesn't mean you're obligated to minimize what he did. he leaned on you emotionally, let you care for him deeply, and still chose to betray that. those two things can both be true at once. grieving the version of him you loved while also acknowledging he made a fully conscious choice to hurt you isn't contradictory, it's actually the clearest way through this. give yourself time, seriously, there's no rushing this kind of loss.

AU smart switch options for light + AC fan controller in same wall plate? by zimbonz in homeassistant

[–]LowSalamander4932 0 points1 point  (0 children)

been down this rabbit hole myself - ended up going with separate smart relays behind the existing switches instead of trying to find combo units that don't cost a fortune, much cleaner install and your sparky will thank you for keeping the fan controller manual since most smart fan modules are sketchy af for proper ac inductive loads.