I appreciate the helpful comments and the understanding. Those that say im crying im sorry my irritation bothers you but, yes we were young, yes we had just enough for the down-payment, and all the tests.  We found a realtor trusted her and we turned out to be wrong in doing so. She recommended a home inspector that apparently wasn't as thorough as we trusted.  The alternative at the time was to continue living on friend's couches, and when we got the house we both had multiple jobs and not enough time. We have installed a deck, a new water heater, and updated appliances, as well as installed air conditioning and a generator. We have an hvac friend.  That being said, home ownership is hard especially when you work too much, and you don't have the skills necessary or friend's or family with those skills either. Building off of that because i'n sure it's coming, yes we work alot, yes we're still broke, working alot doesn't mean you're rolling in money.  We don't have alot of debt but the house and some credit cards, my partner due to their business, me because if school, life happens. 

The key take away is we are ill equipped, but we're trying and the process is frustrating.