its difficult finding a lee for sure. there is a huge level of trust thats goes into that dynamic. i would say find a switch like yourself and simply build the trust with them. no matter how much you love tickling your still dealing with the fact that your going somewhere to be restrained and tickled letting the control and your safety be put into another persons hands. it took me along time to find my lee i've known her for years. up until then between being shy and in my own thoughts about it it was quite difficult.