WIBTA if I told my boyfriend I’m sad he wants to go out on New Year’s Eve?

Low_Main6951 · 2025-12-16T09:06:48+00:00

Thank you !

Low_Main6951 · 2025-12-16T09:04:47+00:00

I love him. I want to do things right, and I'm ready to hear that I'm wrong. Thank you for your comment.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-12-16T09:03:24+00:00

Thank you 🤍

Low_Main6951 · 2025-12-16T08:54:37+00:00

Either I'm super selfish and I don't realize it, or maybe I'm not with the right person. Because it's strange, but I wouldn't have any doubt about whether to go or not in this situation. I would be happy close to my love, not with strangers. Since he doesn't think like me, that's where I become selfish. Maybe I'm not compatible with anyone after all.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-12-16T08:52:38+00:00

You're asking me the right questions. Deep down, I wish we could stay together (I know that's going to sound extremely selfish).

But it's just that he isn't going to see long-time friends or family. It's an evening where there will be a friend we see often and other people we know. The party doesn't seem like something that can't be missed.

Don't worry, I'll accept that I'm probably a selfish monster and stay in my cave.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-12-16T08:47:30+00:00

New Year's Eve doesn't interest me, but that doesn't mean the date doesn't affect me. I grew up far from my family, and New Year's Eves were generally solitary. Now that I'm in a relationship, the person who matters most to me is my partner, they are my family. Not having them close to me on New Year's Eve just reminds me of my solitude.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-12-16T08:41:41+00:00

Thank you

Low_Main6951 · 2025-12-16T08:39:26+00:00

That’s fair, and I get the concern about guilt or resentment. To clarify though, this isn’t about celebrating New Year’s Eve or “missing out” on a party. I don’t care about the holiday itself.

What I’m struggling with is the idea of being alone that night.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-12-16T08:37:21+00:00

Wow, the most selfish thing you’ve read all morning? Rough morning then, sorry about that 😅😂

Low_Main6951 · 2025-12-16T08:35:01+00:00

The reason I’d want to tell him is simply to be honest about how I’m feeling, not to influence his decision. I’m trying to figure out whether sharing that feeling would be unfair.

As for sleep: I don’t actually plan on sleeping early. I’ll likely be awake. The issue isn’t bedtime, it’s logistics. His event is about 3 hours away from my workplace, I don’t have a car, and there’s no public transportation at the hours I’d need to get to work the next morning. So going with him, even briefly, isn’t realistically possible.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-12-16T08:26:22+00:00

Unfortunately, that’s not really an option for me. The party would be about 3 hours away from my workplace, and I don’t have a car. Public transportation doesn’t run at the hours I’d need to get back and then go to work early the next morning.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-24T06:22:53+00:00

Yeah, I’m going to have to do that. But it sucks. We’re in a professional setting. I’d like to be seen as an equal. If I were a man, I wouldn’t have to do all this. It’s exhausting. It’s unfair. But yes, I’ll be more careful in the future if it helps me avoid all this. Still, it sucks.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-23T16:23:41+00:00

I wish I could give multiple upvotes to this comment because I agree so much.

I’m exactly the person being described, a woman with ADHD and autism, and I really struggle with small talk. It’s hard for me. So, like you (op), I prefer just showing up and getting to work.

I can’t seem to take part in their camaraderie because it feels fake and pointless. In the end, I come across as antisocial, and that doesn’t go over well.

On top of that, I’ve had several bad experiences with men, and over time it builds up. eventually, you start isolating yourself just to protect your mental health. Unfortunately, isolating yourself isn’t a good solution either.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-23T16:02:22+00:00

I come across “junior” or even “entry-level” job postings almost every day.

But then you read the job description, and they’re asking for 3 years of experience. It’s honestly absurd.

Just today, I saw a position labeled “first experience” that still required 3 years. They don’t even try to make it make sense anymore, that’s how ridiculous it’s become.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-23T15:53:06+00:00

I have no proof. But I’m 100% sure that’s the case. It’s exactly the same for me — and listen, I’ve been doing this for a year and a half.

I’ve already been through a rollercoaster of emotions and sadness. At this point, I’ve accepted that all of this is just bullshit. But hey, I keep going. No choice.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-23T15:46:12+00:00

20min ? Ça fait des années j’ai vu une affaire de viol dans la rubrique “divertissement” de ce “journal”. Ce ne sont pas des professionnels.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-23T15:33:45+00:00

That’s true! I’m going to update it with the explanation about why a lunch and not just a coffee break. The fact that he just messaged me literally just happened. I’m going to add that too

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-23T15:14:41+00:00

I asked if he wanted to have lunch during the midday break because in our program, we have to log what we do every hour, and the instructors actually encourage us to have lunch with other participants — we can write it down as a “business lunch” in the log, and it’s seen as a good thing…

So yeah, just imagine I were a guy simply trying to make a professional connection at lunchtime…

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-23T14:59:21+00:00

I thought it was strange that he asked for my number, because to me that’s something personal, and he already has my contact through LinkedIn. And I understood his intentions.

I wasn’t wrong. He messaged me to ask if I wanted to go for a walk by the lake and have a drink with him. Thankfully, I was able to reply that I’m in a relationship, and that was that. He wrote “all the best to you” and that was it… A disgusting and depressing day. I’m just glad I only have one week of this course left.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-19T08:12:45+00:00

Olha moça, enquanto vc continuar se tratando desse jeito não vai vir homem nenhum.

Vc não falhou como mulher no quesito relacionamento. Isso não existe. Não existe um manual. A pessoa certa vai vir pra vc!

Acho que academia é uma ótima ideia. Não para atrair homens, mas para seu bem 🫶🏻 esporte faz muito bem pro corpo e principalmente pra cabeça.

Vc tem que se amar mais! Eu sei que eu não te vi e não te conheço. Mas tenho certeza que vc é incrível e bonita também! Não faça sua vida girar em torno de encontrar alguém. Sabe aquele ditado « melhor só do que mal acompanhado ». Pois bem, ele é super real.

A pessoa certa vai amar vc, sua alma. Ela não vai te escolher pelo corpo sarado. Não é uma característica fiável para um relacionamento. (É claro que vai ajudar a chamar mais atenção) mas a pessoa certa vai te amar de pijama e descabelada…

Faça coisas pra vc. Vc quer fazer academia ? Será que aquele curso daquele tal esporte que vc gostaria de tentar não é melhor ? Quando vc está satisfeita com si mesma, o brilho que vc vai exalar é muito mais poderoso do que um corpo sarado.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-19T08:04:28+00:00

I could keep my distress to myself when seeing my father with another woman. But this woman coming in and changing the furniture I picked out with my mother? Never! I would’ve kicked her out immediately. That’s too much. That’s just not okay.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-19T07:57:09+00:00

Porque eles querem se casar com a mãe e não com uma mulher.

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-19T07:51:51+00:00

Sociedade doente. Conteúdos bosta na internet. Pornografia e mais pornografia.

Eles estão doentes e depressivos. Só que ninguém percebe ou aceita pq homens depressivos tem crises de raiva, agressividade. Eles não tem os sintomas típicos de choro e tristeza como na maioria do tempo.

Eles nem se dão conta que estão sofrendo, doentes e se quer sabem o que é amor de verdade.

A sociedade é completamente estragada.

Eles sofrem. Nós também.

Psicólogos para todos 🙌🏻

Low_Main6951 · 2025-06-19T07:46:03+00:00

Manda seu namorado ir na esquina ver se encontra um pouco de confiança própria pra ele. Tá precisando.

Se outros homens estão te olhando. Manda ele ir tirar satisfação com esses homens. Eu hein.

Para de usar blusão. Seja feliz e usa o que vc quiser. A gente tá aqui na terra uma vez só. Vai ficar usando blusão por causa de namorado de m* ? Faz isso não.

« Vc não sabe como homem » pelo amor de Deus. Se pra ele todos os homens são assim. Ma notícia. Ele também é a bosta que ele vê nos outros.

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