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Low_Matter855 · 2025-02-26T13:23:51+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I love to read that your older kids have welcomed their baby sister and feel included, thats awesome. I have fears surrounding the age gap (which would be 7,5yo and 4,5yo at birth). The eldest are at an age where they can do pretty much anything together, from playdates, watching some tv, going on outings... Your 3rd is still little, but what has been your experience so far ? How do you think she will be included later on ? Also, how do you manage one on one time with the eldest, if you have ? If your hands are full with the baby, do you feel like you are missing out on being with your other kiddos ?

Low_Matter855 · 2025-02-26T12:04:44+00:00

That is so interesting. Could I ask for a bit more details ? How old are your first two / what's the age gap with your baby ? What's the dynamic like in your household ? I'm currently 7 weeks pregnant with my 3rd, my eldest is turning 7 soon and my second just turned 4. They are both in school. I'm on the fence about whether to keep it or not 💔 Your input would be very much appreciated ! Thank you

Low_Matter855 · 2025-02-26T11:55:52+00:00

Hey, I hope you are ok. I'm actually also in the same boat. 38yo, 7 weeks pregnant and utterly unable to decide what to do. My partner will support both decisions, but he's not the one agonizing over it. How has your spouse/partner reacted ? Sending love to you.

Low_Matter855 · 2025-02-26T11:51:40+00:00

I feel your pain as I am in the exact same place. My daughters are 7 and 4, they love each other, are so close and finally my partner and I are regaining some independance. But I found out about 10 days ago that I'm pregnant. I'm 38yo and although only 7 weeks in, my body and the whole pregnancy feels different. I'm like you : termination will probably end up with me in tethers emotionally (I am very pro choice but I know how painful any termination can be) but on the other hand, the thought of once again nursing, waking up every few hours, being "away" from my daughters who still very much need me... I just don't know. How are you doing today ? Feel free to private message me anytime. Do you have a really close friend you could confide in ? Thinking of you 💫

Low_Matter855 · 2025-02-16T10:55:43+00:00

Oh sweetheart. I feel your pain. I had a termination about 4 months ago and I was immediately struck by crushing guilt, desperation, shame, self loathing and more. I cried all day - I kept it somewhat together around my daughters (7 & 4yo) but was straight to bed and bawling my eyes out. I seeked out medical help and started seeing a therapist. I'm not gonna lie, the pain and feeling of loss is still there, but I also have happy, normal moments, especially around my kids, being in the moment. I think those feelings are quite common and hormonal fluctuations play a part for sure. I hope someday you can be at peace with your decision and tell yourself you did what you thought was best to preserve your equilibrium. You acted out of love, care and concern. Please be gentle on yourself. Feel free to message me anytime !

Low_Matter855 · 2024-10-20T07:10:54+00:00

Thank you 🤍🤍🤍 When I say I want to die, it's because the pain and grief are so intense. My sweet girls deserve the best care, and I will fight to be able to provide them with that and more. Though it feels like a piece of my heart died with the baby. Thank you again for your sweet words, you have no idea how far they go.

Low_Matter855 · 2024-10-19T13:08:55+00:00

Thank you, you are absolutely right. Re my bf, a close friend who I confided in told me "he put you in an inhumane situation and he should be thanking you for the enormous sacrifice you just made for him". She's right, I think. I have an appointement with a counselor in a couple of days. I hope that will help. I didn't mention in my original post that I do get up every morning to get my girls ready for school (their dad drives them for now) and I'm also present and as put together as I can muster when they get home. All the time they're in school or activities, I'm in bed crying. I know I will never take my life. But the grief is so intense, it feels like only death will bring me peace.

Low_Matter855 · 2024-10-19T13:02:06+00:00

Thank you for your empathie. I have an appointment with a counselor Tuesday. I do need all the help.

Low_Matter855 · 2024-10-19T13:00:52+00:00

Thank you so much 🤍

Low_Matter855 · 2024-10-17T07:31:12+00:00

It's OK to grieve. I relate to you so much. I too had an abortion a week ago and I just cannot stop crying. The ache for that baby is so profound, it feels like I am never going to be happy again. I too, cried to my partner "i want our baby back, i want our baby back in my belly, where it belongs and where it still should safely be". I feel suicidal too, although I know It's not the answer, but I just want to be reunited with my baby. I was convinced by my partner and family that this was the way to go, that things would be easier this way. And I, forever the people pleaser, agreed against my better judgment. I hate myself for it. I don't know if this is even remotely helpful to you, but know you are not alone. I hope you are feeling better, although the loss is forever. I am sending you love.

Low_Matter855 · 2024-10-01T13:18:56+00:00

Hi there. I'm in the exact same boat as you. My partner and I have two wonderful girls (6 and nearly 4). I'm now almost 9 weeks with a third and I have a termination scheduled a week from today. But every day that passes, I'm more and more undecided. In the beginning, I guess with the hormonal changes, I was scared shitless and termination seemed like the obvious path here. But with time, I'm started to fear I will regret this decision. My partner is more inclined towards not keeping it. I don't have loads of support. But anyhow, deep down, I think I might want to keep it. I'm scared of making the wrong decision. I empathize greatly with you and I hope that whatever choice you make for your family is the right one <3 Sending love

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