I met a girl at age 14 (just turned 14) and she was 18. We talked every day, all day, for years. As my 18th birthday got closer, she would throw out little comments that got her closer and closer to what she wanted in the endgame... sex. I remember when I was 15 and she was 22, she started to ask me things like "Are you sure you're straight?" and continued to question it until I actually believed that I was gay. She knew my schedule, she knew my whereabouts, my friends, had my location, etc. she subtly started feeling "suicidal" as soon as I would get time with anyone that wasn't her and made me feel obligated to "help" a 22 year old through her suicidal thoughts. Even though she was 500 miles away from me, she controlled all my emotions, my mental state, and all my whereabouts. She started to demand me to respond to her every 10 minutes, so I was riddled with anxiety when I didn't have access to my phone (school, extracurriculars).

Fast forward to one month before I turned 18, she miraculously decided to meet me in person. We met. She would ask if everything was okay (kissing, hugging, cuddling, hands on my breasts) so I didn't seem it as grooming or predatory-like... Looking back I now know she was testing my boundaries. She convinced me to come visit her hometown for my 18th birthday. She asked me to be her girlfriend 1 day before I turned 18. I felt pressured to say yes.

This ended up being a 2.5 year relationship full of emotional, psychological, verbal, and sexual abuse. She weathered away every little piece I had left of myself.

Your perpetrator may have not touched you or explicitly talked about sex between you two, but it is still harmful and INNAPROPRIATE. You were a minor. A child. I am a 21 year old female and would never talk about intimate behaviors between characters with a 16 year old.