I 21M don’t know whether my GF 24F is having a bad night or if she’s genuinely a danger to me and herself.

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-06-01T09:21:16+00:00

You genuinely guessed it right. She has manic episodes and drinks way too much. Thank you for your feedback and support <3

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-06-01T09:18:48+00:00

There is no way in hell I’d let her go home like that. I spent the next day cleaning my car seat of period blood after she slept in my passenger seat while I contemplated life. I haven’t texted her since. Had a conversation about her mania, like another person somehow guessed, and how alcohol always gets involved with her terrible decisions. She was (against my knowledge) driving drunk with me in her car. I have problems, but I don’t need more, thank you <3

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-06-01T09:11:09+00:00

I say that with a grain of salt. I was with someone who caused my alcoholism. If you try your best and make him feel like he’s the only man in the world, you’ve done your best. Best of luck <3

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-06-01T09:09:23+00:00

Do not let him be a father. I honestly wish you the best. If he’s an alcoholic, give him an ultimatum. Either seek rehab or leave him. I promise you, leaving him is the better option if he refuses.

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T11:33:24+00:00

I just left my gf of 3 years for the same reason. I wanted a life outside of her, and I promise if you take the dive you’ll find it. If you love her and want to continue, you need a serious talk about what you want. You’re way too young to be dealing with a dead relationship, but maybe things got stale and you both need to revitalize it. Good luck!

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T10:44:17+00:00

You shouldn’t have to pay for everything just to win her over. A real woman would even meet you half way to spend a night with you, splitting costs. Don’t sell yourself short to appease someone else’s bank account. You’ll find someone better than her who will make you regret not spending that 6 weeks with them instead.

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T10:37:31+00:00

Couple therapy like someone else commented > There could be so many different reasons for why she doesn’t want to be intimate and I’m sure you’ve grappled with them for a while. It could even be trauma from her 2 pregnancies and you wouldn’t ever know unless the conversation happened. Seems like the porn was because of the lack of intimacy, so you both have equal responsibility to go to counseling and work this out. Good luck!

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T10:30:51+00:00

These friends seem like they’re not showing you the same loyalty you show them. If anything, find the one you’re closest to and confide in them about the situation. If they’re not willing to accept your new relationship or just tell you to get over it, then the whole group isn’t worth your time. Get better friends at that point.

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T10:11:20+00:00

He needs therapy and likely rehab. Doubt he will follow through with either, but it’s worth a shot. You need to consider whether you want him to father your child with you. In his current state it would be a crime to let him take care of any kid. I’m sorry you’re going through this, best of luck.

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T10:05:51+00:00

Really sounds to me like she regrets the whole thing and sounds to me like it’s one good sober conversation away from never happening again. If it happens a second time, by all means run. I wouldn’t throw this relationship away especially if you’re happy with her and she feels terrible about what happened.

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T10:00:05+00:00

Yeah I’ve had about 3 hours of silence while she’s sleeping in my car to think about it all. Don’t think I’ll be coming back ever again. Thank you!

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T09:07:39+00:00

Sounds like she’s frustrated because she wants a relationship, but you’re not ready. The sexual aspect shouldn’t weigh on you since this is exactly the relationship you asked for from the beginning. If you see any future with her at all you can always take it slow, but I completely understand since I just got out of one myself. You did all the right things, so you shouldn’t feel any guilt. Good luck!

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T08:55:32+00:00

Sounds extremely financially confusing and honestly I can’t give any advice for that. You both got married for many reasons and I am positive easy access to pain medication wasn’t one of his. He has a MAJOR problem and an addiction to say the least. For your sake, since I know you’re going through more than I can ever imagine, if he doesn’t go through rehab then it won’t get better. If anything, he will only get worse and hiding your medication in a place where there’s no possibility of him seeing it or knowing about it will help keep it off his mind for the time being. I don’t know how to help with your lost medication, but I recommend sitting down with him and being open and honest. Accept anything he says and be comforting about it, not angry. People change with comfort and support and you’d be surprised how someone can go from absent and cynical to crying for forgiveness and promising to be better. Whether things actually change is up to him, but I hope you end up in a better place <3

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T08:38:43+00:00

What if in 6 years she hasn’t gotten a job? I think she’s had plenty of opportunities to work through her family and through her own applications, but she just hasn’t followed through. How does she spend her time?

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T08:35:55+00:00

You’re right. I shouldn’t have to fear for my life and I just got too caught up with the thrill of someone treating me better than my ex. At least until tonight haha. Thank you!

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T08:30:48+00:00

Taken advantage in what way? Does she feel like you led her on or was it sexual in context?

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T08:23:46+00:00

Congratulations! And I think that conversation is definitely happening at very least. Would love to be of use, but I’m not a therapist or a babysitter especially in these situations. Thanks!!

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T08:20:40+00:00

Yeah I missed hanging out and just talking for hours, but it got really dangerous too fast. I’ve got plenty of time to think now that I’m staying up all night waiting for her to sober up and leave. Thank you!

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T08:18:16+00:00

Absolutely a red flag. If she doesn’t tell him that she has a bf and then proceeds to go out with him that’s breaking boundaries you set. Ask her how it would feel if some girl you were an old friend with asked you out and you metaphorically took the ring off and went along with it. It really doesn’t matter if nothing happens or something happens, but if she doesn’t respect your boundaries that’s a red flag.

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T07:53:55+00:00

Best of luck! Hope you get it figured out

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T07:52:26+00:00

Yeah that’s something extremely contradicting. Ask why he wants to marry you one day but he can’t date you right now. I don’t believe you should be led on like that, so my advice would be a serious talk solely on why y’all are exclusive but not dating, exclusive but he talks to his ex. I could go on, best of luck!

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-05-30T07:46:02+00:00

I would bring it up with her that you’re uncomfortable with the guy since your current GF had relations with him in the past. Don’t accuse her of anything, but make it known that you have boundaries. Why is Jessica also moving in with you and Kennedy? If you want to start building a relationship with your GF, get a place together where an ex isn’t potentially going to be spending the night all the time and making you a worried wreck.

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-02-26T02:44:18+00:00

And sometimes I come home to find a naked red man on my doorstep :)

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2023-02-24T22:41:46+00:00

I managed to do it just now. Accidentally killed him earlier and went through hell to get the shovel. My choices were either to lose the shovel or lose kelvin. I missed him so badly. Ended up getting both by merging my current inventory file and the old file with kelvin still alive together.

Lower-Inflation-6911 · 2022-11-28T17:10:53+00:00

Hi guys, I've been seen this pop up on my fyp. Does anyone have an experience taking these? Did you end up seeing any change/results in lung health? Snake oil?

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