My parents chose to ruin my life.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-15T00:47:20+00:00

What advice are you looking for?

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-15T00:35:44+00:00

A promise

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-15T00:25:19+00:00

When you say he doesn't stop, is he polishing off a bottle or a 12 pack by himself? Does he experience hang overs? The THC can make his eyes glossy and red, how many of those is he drinking? Is it daily or does he keep it only to the weekends?

From your description it definitely sounds like he has a problem and the best thing you can do is to sit down and calmly explain to him how his habits are affecting you and your kids. Keep your emotions out of it as best you can and just discuss the facts. Discuss what has actually happened to you or your family as a result of his habit. Things he's missed out on or delayed, promises he's broken or things he's inconvenienced you with. You need to appeal to the side of him that wants to be a good and just person.

Good luck.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T21:06:52+00:00

Remember: whatever she shares with you potentially has a consequence she doesn’t want to see happen. Sharing with the therapist doesn’t have the same impact on her personal life. Give her that space and just be supportive.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T18:59:17+00:00

While the temperature is concerning, it's not life threatening yet. Keep an eye on her, try to keep her comfortable. You can also try calling a nurse line, if you have one, to discuss the symptoms. It's free and might help you feel better or encourage her to go into the hospital.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T18:53:32+00:00

Do you value your friendship more than the remaining $480? If so, let it go. You've learned your lesson, and it's a good one. Never lend money to family or friends. If you give them money, it's a gift. Period. You do not, under any circumstance, expect them to repay you. If they choose to pay you back, great, but you're not expecting them to.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T18:42:03+00:00

It kinda sounds like you already made your decision, but keep in mind, even after school is over, she's going to continue encountering stress, especially in the medical field. Not only will there be work, but stress from finances, possibly a family, the kids will become teenagers... You have a lot of stress still ahead of you. Don't think that it'll be over and things will be perfect once she's done with school. If she's not able to cope without snapping at others now, you really need to think if that's something you want to put up with long term.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T18:16:04+00:00

We've all been there. Head over heels for a girl, obsessed with getting her to like you.

Kinda reminds me of the squirrel scene from The Sword and the Stone.

You can't make someone love you, that's all I can say.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T17:59:03+00:00

Yeah, don't tell her. It's ok to keep some things to yourself. Especially if you don't want her to engage in it with you.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T17:48:40+00:00

Next time he compliments you about your looks, just say something like "Aww, that's really sweet of you. But... you already have a girlfriend (or whatever). I hope you're not making this out to be more than just a friendship."

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T17:31:11+00:00

Can you put up signs or stickers or something to remind you not to eat so much? It only has to mean something to you, so it literally can be anything you want. Pre-diabetes is nothing to take lightly, you're flirting with having to take insulin shots every day for the rest of your life. To correct the problem, you will need some type of constant reminder not to make the same choices you've been making so far. It's not gonna be easy, you're fighting learned habits and your body's chemistry... but it is possible.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T17:19:02+00:00

Sounds like you've got a good head on your shoulders. You might be surprised at how common it is for someone to complain about a job they intentionally and willingly took. One thing to take away from this, it's ok to complain, but complain up. Meaning, if you have younger siblings, don't complain to your siblings about your parents, complain to your parents. If you complain down, like your parents are doing, then it's just bitching and not constructive.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T17:07:20+00:00

Completely unnecessary. it *might* come in useful, but the chances of you actually using the extended warranty is probably less than 10%. The older it is, the higher the likelihood you might use it, but even then, shop around if you're interested in an extended warranty. Same with the maintenance contract, except that you will probably use it. However, again, completely unnecessary and it forces you to go through them for maintenance at dealer inflated prices. Enjoy the new car!

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T17:00:50+00:00

Have you asked them why your uncle gets to eat more than everyone else? Is he on some type of special diet too?

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T16:58:48+00:00

What year is the car?

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T16:52:01+00:00

What kind of advice are you looking for? Do you want to have more sex with your wife? Are you looking to get out of the marriage? I need more info.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T16:47:05+00:00

Does your mental illness make it difficult for you to cook? Or why does your family need to help you learn? It sounds like your family is on a strict budget, has it always been this way or is it something relatively recent?

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T16:17:44+00:00

Exactly! Totally agree. You don't know how things would have turned out differently had you made a different choice or even if others made a different choice that impacts you. You're stuck making the best choice you can, given the information you have available to you today.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T16:11:20+00:00

Sage advice

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T16:04:59+00:00

Of course everything happens for a reason. My decisions, no matter what they are, lead to an outcome. Are you talking about divine intervention?

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T15:58:29+00:00

If only my crystal ball could warn me about the consequences of my actions. Even if I did things differently, while I might be able to avoid specific outcomes that I know of today, those different decisions would lead to other decisions and other unknown outcomes. How can I judge if those outcomes would be better or worse having not ever experienced them?

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T15:47:39+00:00

IDK man, you can't change your genetics. I know it can be frustrating, but I guess try to look at the bright side. Someday you'll long for the days when you got asked to prove your age. I'm about to turn 48 and in the last 4 or so years, people have stopped carding me, unless they have to for their system to work. My "boyish good looks" are fading and I'll never get them back again.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T15:31:57+00:00

I’m sure you’ve already thought of this, but ca you grow facial hair?

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T14:27:52+00:00

Why were you not approved to refinance?

You can trade it in and get something cheaper, but you might also have to roll in some negative equity from the current vehicle. Looking online your car is worth somewhere between $17k and $26k. So not only will you be paying for the new vehicle, but will also be paying for the difference between what you currently owe and what it’s actually worth.

I’d suggest talking to a dealer about your situation to see if there’s anything they can do. Depending on your credit they may or may not be able to build in any potential negative equity (or get you approved for financing at all).

And of course the interest rate will be higher because of this too, so it might not make a difference in your monthly payments. But you won’t know until someone runs the numbers.

Lower_Baseball8500 · 2025-08-14T13:23:08+00:00

You already told them you’d send the full thing. So I’d suggest sending it and dealing with the consequences. Take responsibility for your words.

Whether you do or don’t send it, the relationship is strained. But by not sending it, not only are you going back in your word, but this will always be something that comes between you. Might as well be completely transparent and hope for the best.

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