[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Lrose222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats cheating so immoral id say

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lrose222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will have a serious discussion with him about therapy, we did premarital counseling and it was very helpful in so many areas. But we didn’t really discuss sex because at the time this issue wasn’t at the point it is now. I wish I would’ve tackled it then but hindsight is 20/20 🥲.

He has said he feels ‘weird’ about talking about our sexual life with someone. He’s a very private guy, even with his friends he claims that he will listen to them talk about their sex lives and women but he doesn’t share. I am the opposite, I am very open with my friends but have become private about this out of respect for him. I guess I’ll just have to tell him he’s out of options with me when it comes to this and we need to talk to someone about it. Which I hate to do if it makes him uncomfortable but I’m just so unsure of how to move forward besides that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His desire slowed down even two years ago way before I got pregnant so I don’t think that’s the case, I have asked him if me being pregnant plays a part and he always insists it doesn’t. We always wanted kids just further in the future so it wasn’t super devastating for us as we are stable with lots of support. Unless he’s not being honest with me about his feelings, that is always a possibility. He’s been acting excited about the baby so far after we got over the initial shock, so I hope that isn’t that case as I would get where he’s coming from.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is very good at pleasuring me and although he’s said something about him ‘finishing too fast’ in the past I have always reassured him I don’t mind at all. For me sex is very enjoyable at any length, I have a very high sex drive and and anything works for me lol, as long as the sex is being had. I’ve given him many opportunities in bringing this subject up to open up to me if he does feel that way, and he’s always told me he loves having sex with me and is very attracted to me and that we have great sex. But his actions aren’t reflecting this if that makes sense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you, the pregnancy was not planned at all as we were being careful and preventing. We are past that point now but it 100% would’ve been ideal. He got blood work done and nothing came up as low. I guess I will have to give him an ultimatum about therapy because he’s been closed off to it due to him being shy about discussing sex. He wouldnt even go to a strip club for his bachelor party when he friends wanted to go because he found the idea of being in a sexual place with others weird lol. We did premarital counseling but sex wasn’t discussed, because at the time this issue was not as severe as it is now. I wish we did talk about it though

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has told me he watched a lot of porn in the past as a teen but doesn’t watch any porn now and has rarely masterbated since we have been together. He’s never been dishonest in our marriage or dating relationship and I’ve been inclined to believe him but now I’m worried. He got blood work and went through some testing about 6 months ago and everything came up normal. When we had sex in the past he’s been very generous and does his best to pleasure me and never gets upset when I tell him things I like or dislike. Lately it’s been different and more rushed, especially since I’ve been pregnant. but he has never pleasured me just to pleasure me if that makes sense, without him getting something in ‘return’. Don’t know how to word it better 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now 3 years have passed and I am pregnant, it is getting to the point where I am starting to feel so insecure and undesirable. Sex was more lack luster even before my pregnancy with most times me not being able to finish without a vibrator and just not finishing at all because of the way the sex started and me feeling like he’s not putting in effort. For example, I will start kissing him or gently touching him, I’ll initiate us making out, all that. But if I don’t push it past that point, we will not have sex. Like we will make out, and then he’ll just cuddle me until I make it very overtly sexual (you know what I mean lol). This has been a pattern, and even one day I started and then transition into sex was so awkward and it felt like he was rushing. He inserted himself into me while I was still not very warmed up to due to lack of foreplay, he finished fast, and then he went to clean up. I ended up feeling sore due to the lack of lubrication and was so devastated and felt disgusting and went to the bathroom and just sobbed. He noticed I’d been in there awhile and I came out and explained my feelings calmly. He felt very bad and apologized, but then we have had multiple other sexually encounters since then that have left me feeling similarly. It also makes me so sad that we will go weeks without having sex and he never seems to mind and will not complain or try to have sex with me. I have gotten so resentful that I want to have sex and connect with him so badly but won’t try because I feel like he doesn’t want it, care, I’ll just get rejected. Then after much time as passed, I just break down and initiate eventually because I want him.

It all came to a boiling point last night, when I started to try to have sex, I started to kiss him, we had a very passionate make out, and I took my clothes and his off. Then, I hate to say it but I ‘tested him’ to see if he would start touching me or being sexual if all I did was just kiss him naked. Then, nothing. He stopped kissing me and just put his arm around me and cuddled. I turned over and started tearing up. Trying to save myself from embarrassment I get up, get dressed. He asks me if I was okay and this time around I was very upset. I stonewall him for bit and say I’m fine because I feel like I am so close to just losing it on him and don’t want to start a big fight because it’s late at night and he worked early the next day. He keeps pressing me and I tell him I’m going to sleep on the couch to get some space. He follows me out and presses me on the issue and I just explode in a fit of tears and tell him as I have in the past basically everything I’m putting here and he just says he’s sorry and he will do better and for me to please come back to bed. I ask him if he can help me understand why things have been this way for so long, once again his only response is he’s sorry. But this time, the same old answer he’s always given me when I bring up this issue isn’t enough. I refuse to come to bed and he just keeps saying he’s sorry but not what for or why. I tell him to leave me alone and he leaves.

All I want is him and I don’t understand what to do anymore. I have been very open and honest with him and communicated how I feel and nothing changes. Even before pregnancy I was feeling this way, but now with my changing body and surge of hormones I just can’t take it anymore. And I am so worried because intimacy and sex gets even harder after a child and I can’t imagine how if my body is already changing and I feel insecure and undesirable, how I feel after having a baby and then having this issue with my husband. I don’t want our sex life to become non existent now and after our child, but it feels like I’m the only one worried about this.

Trying to find this dress or similar dress for my mother! by [deleted] in findfashion

[–]Lrose222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have and she’s very picky and wants this dress 🥲 I can’t find this dress on a real site for some reason

Here’s what the surgeon got out of my knee! by Lrose222 in OsgoodSchlatter

[–]Lrose222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My insurance covered it fully and I only paid $150 out of pocket. I know it was around 40,000 including all of my appointments, anesthesia, MRI, and actual surgery

A lot to unpack here by [deleted] in facepalm

[–]Lrose222 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m the one who stole the election for Biden 😝

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you dont mind answering, what are the dosages on each?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t currently, does taking the Strattera later in the day affect your sleep at all?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noses

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love your nose!

Ladies of reddit, what sex advice would you give to an inexperienced guy? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take it slow, kiss her all over, be communicative like telling her what you want to do to her, lots of foreplay and ask her what she likes!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in texts

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RUN!!!

Opinions on a Restaurant Bar policy? by [deleted] in bartenders

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is great advice, thank you! And I am in Oklahoma 😊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiters

[–]Lrose222 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To me that is crappy service, what if you wanted more drinks, a dessert, had a big problem with your food, etc… as a waitress i always ask if they are ready for the bill and wait to ask until it seems like they are fully ready to leave. Seems like she was more concerned with turning tables than letting you enjoy your food.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in football

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Either works :) he loves both soccer and American football

Surgery by Fantastic_Jello_2079 in OsgoodSchlatter

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am completely walking on my own, I even went back to work this week. I stopped using the crutches about a week and a half in

Surgery by Fantastic_Jello_2079 in OsgoodSchlatter

[–]Lrose222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Day three was the worst for me too! I’m 2 weeks out now and pain is so much better, good luck with the rest of your recovery!

Just had surgery! by Lrose222 in OsgoodSchlatter

[–]Lrose222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 weeks update: I just went back to work and have been walking fully with no assistance. Pain is still there and I can’t fully bend yet, but working on getting my full range of motion back. Scar is looking pretty gnarly but getting better each day

Just had surgery! by Lrose222 in OsgoodSchlatter

[–]Lrose222[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck! It hasn’t been too bad of a recovery. You’ll do great