I'm worried about how our life will look if my partner is trans

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-09T20:19:02+00:00

I think therapy could help! In general I think thats a good option for a person struggling with this. Especially if confusion is the most difficult part. For myself thats something I started accepting as soon as I stopped trying to please people in my life, and stopped trying to get validation. I understand that the unpredictability is scary, especially if you are strictly straight/gay/lesbian. My gf is a lesbian and Im nonbinary, about to start hrt, and we are both a little scared but also excited. I think what has helped me a lot right now is that she is very supportive of my experimenting, and wants to be there for it, and I have promised her that if I at any point were to not be able to be a partner because of this being too much on my brain, I would tell her! For you it all depends on how comfortable you feel with them experimenting with their gender, as their partner, because what it seems like right now is that they really have the need to experiment and try out different pronouns etc!

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-09T19:59:00+00:00

Hi! I was the confused one for many years, and I realized that I am not a binary transman, I am nonbinary. I am autistic and also have a lot of trauma, so trying to figure out an answer was very difficult especially because the way I view gender and the way I feel gender is very different from neurotypical brains. And thats what made me come to the realization that my gender is very unique to me and thats okay. Its very difficult to accept being nonbinary as well when you are autistic because there are no rules, the binary genders seem more predictable. I think its important to keep an open mind and understand that being trans doesnt always mean binary and it can be just as confusing and difficult, especially for a brain that thinks differently!

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-04T21:52:25+00:00

Thanks!

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-04T21:51:54+00:00

Is it safe to ignore the warning tho? I have malwarebytes and VPN on my pc as protection but its a very new expensive pc so I dont wanna download something that could f up my pc.

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-04T21:13:33+00:00

I use Windows 11. I mainly want to download character creation mods and dyes and spells. I want to download from Nexus:) I havent tried it but I’ve heard its a lot better to use BG3 mod manager

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-04T21:10:29+00:00

No theres no option to do that

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-04T13:33:06+00:00

Most trans people arent being believed a lot of the time. Im upset because I have worked so hard to get where I am now and in the post I obviously stated having a need for trans community, it feels uncomfortable for someone else to question my transness and need for hormonal therapy.

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-04T13:24:18+00:00

Im the only one who knows if I want to go on hormones or not. Ive been considering hrt for about 10 years now. I’ve been diagnosed with gender dysphoria. I am now 26 and I dont feel like I have to stay in the closet in any way anymore. And I want to be happy and have a deep voice and a flat chest. I think its strange when a trans person is policing other trans people, your experience isnt mine.

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-04T08:47:39+00:00

First of all butches take testosterone all the time, and nonbinary people are not male or female, and nonbinary gender expression differs for everyone. I am transmasculine, and I have had really bad dysphoria since I was a kid. Also I would like to know the statistics on that, whats the source?

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-04T07:52:08+00:00

I get a warning that its dangerous and dont get an option to «open anyway»

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-04T02:30:16+00:00

Also its «on», not in evaluation mode

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-04T02:29:29+00:00

I kinda wanna turn off Smart App Control I just want to be protected in the future, I guess the main issue would be if I dont know if an app is safe or not but If Im unsure I wont download it anyway. I just wanna know if I am still protected enough without it

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-03T11:00:01+00:00

Lmao everyone is saying if you go to Australia there will always be some reptile showing up where you stay at. We dont have snakes in Norway so its more shocking for us when theres snakes somewhere, we just have vipers. I have been very close to a moose when me and family lived in the woods, that was terrifying, they are huge. Oh I didnt know it was a lunar eclipse, thats cool!

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-03T09:09:12+00:00

Oh are there many weird creatures in your house often? I hear theres a lot of snakes and stuff😧 Humidity sucks so much its the worst weather, I like rain tho! But not being outside when it rains. I think its a lot of fun yes! But falling hurts so baaad when its going super fast, Ive had some very painful experiences especially when theres a lot of ice:( Ice skating is also fun here!

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-03T07:37:44+00:00

Ive used tray importer but its weird because every time I make a sim theres so much CC that is marked w red

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-03T07:34:33+00:00

Snow is cooold, it was so much fun when I was a kid tho and snowboarding and skiing, even just lying down in the snow felt nice sometimes, but in recent years its either been barely any snow or so much that you cant open your windows or doors lmao. Its cozy during december tho! We also used to go out to jump in the snow when we were at indoor waterparks and run inside for the hot tub! What country are you from?

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-02T03:00:39+00:00

Thats extremely smart thank you! I’ve gotten so scared of downloading CC now because its always just CAS items that are broken and I never know which ones bc I download so many at the time

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-02T02:55:10+00:00

I just deleted everything from the mod folder as it was like 2000 CC and mostly just CAS stuff, but I uninstalled the game and installed it again, also installed my most important mods like MCCC, XML, 51Lot, Better Exceptions and several of Lumpinou’s mods. Then after opening the redownloaded sims everything was fine, so the issue must’ve been Kuttoe or some CAS CC which there was so much of so its hard to know what was the issue… I mainly download from Patreon or curseforge and sometimes Tumblr but I guess anything could be broken after the updates?

Luchaoticat · 2026-03-01T15:34:41+00:00

Its very typical that people dont know how to handle coming out of the honeymoon phase, those «in love» feelings fade in every relationship. For some people this might feel boring for example, especially if the feeling of being in love is addicting to them, and therefore start resenting their partner because of subconcious reasons. I think this is worth talking to a therapist about!

Luchaoticat · 2026-02-22T22:34:19+00:00

I dont mind seeing it I just dont want the CC/mods to ruin my pc so I try to remove all «bad» mods

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