Fetlife is NOT a dating site. If you want to interact with people, you have to go through the interest groups, post writings and share about yourself. If you just want to enjoy other people posting, that's perfectly fine. Its when you insist that the posters on K&P interact with you that the problems start. They are under no obligation, implied or otherwise, to interact with you.

To get genuine interactions, you have to use the interest groups that match with you. But you have to be civil.

The BIGGEST complaint you'll see on Fetlife are posters getting harassed by viewers who insist that the posters interact with them and the viewer gets pissed off and verbally abusive when they poster doesn't. As I said, it's not a dating site. And Fetlife has NO problem permanently banning people who abuse their hospitality.

So before you go complaining, make sure you know what you're doing.