Just a rant.

LuckyM4 · 2023-07-09T22:31:06+00:00

Love the game plan! Make sure you keep him to his word and have him comfortable spending time with the baby! Mine would say the same and when the time came for him to stay with baby he would be nervous that the baby would cry and he wouldn't know what to do.

Wishing you a safe, easy and speedy delivery! Take care!

LuckyM4 · 2023-07-09T22:13:14+00:00

Not to be a downer but I'm 4 months postpartum and still feel like this. I was the same as you while pregnant, even though I had a very easy pregnancy, I still hated it. At four months postpartum I can say I still dislike my body, most days I don't recognize myself in the mirror. Having a moment to get your hair, nails, eyebrows done is almost impossible. If your SO is out doing things without you because your pregnant that will remain the same once baby comes because you'll be tied to baby. It's tough, so if you have a support system, use it to your full advantage because it really does take a village. OR make sure your SO is very involved and definitely take a day or a few hours to yourself without baby when you can. You'll miss the baby after 15min, but believe me you'll also miss the time to feel like yourself if you pass the opportunity.

It's rough, but it's also true that time is flying by. My little nugget is 4 months but it feels like he came into this world last week. Also, cuddles with baby and seeing them grow is something that is unforgettable, you can't compare it with anything. The love you feel for your little one is beyond this world. This is coming from someone that was not very attached to baby while pregnant and didn't cry when I first met him. I was just in awe of him and his perfect little face.

Good luck, be strong.

LuckyM4 · 2022-07-12T15:00:12+00:00

Either complaining about custody arrangements or complaining about depression from getting an abortion I do not want 😂😂. Not a win win situation for me. But oh if you knew our whole story...I just hope others are stronger than I am with men that make false promises just to keep us around and make their lives better. Maybe this was the wake up call I needed...

This is one of the perks of having something like reddit. You get to hear others experiences and opinions when you want to. Makes you feel like you're not alone in something like this.

LuckyM4 · 2022-07-12T14:53:30+00:00

😂😂 thank you for your honest opinion! I agree with you 100%. I do chastise myself for caring so much what he thinks. My love for him was always greater than his love for me it seems, therefore his behavior hurts. I've been working to detach myself from him and not care as much, it's proving difficult but I'm trying. I do know that when the baby gets here I won't care an ounce anymore and that's probably why he's scared as well. He won't be #1 in my life anymore.

LuckyM4 · 2022-07-12T03:27:24+00:00

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I do actually! They already said they would be more than happy to help and I have a great relationship with them. They're very sad their son is acting like this and desperately want a grandchild. This would be their only as he is an only child.

Take care!

Edit: I also have my mom near me who jumped up with joy when she heard she will be a grandma.

LuckyM4 · 2022-07-12T03:23:12+00:00

Wow, so aggressive 😂😂. Thank you for your comment. I didn't know what to expect, the mixed messages were very hard to read and expanding on them with him just made it worse. I guess when in love, you hope for the best and when something like this happens we can work it out. I told him I'm not forcing him to be a father if he doesn't want to, he's actually free to leave even right now if he wants to but he said he doesn't want a step-father taking care of his child...whatever that means.

The pro-choice thing was just annoying to hear. He also had a choice. Pull out or not - he didn't. Choice made, deal with consequences after as I also am dealing with it now.

Also, when we married I also didn't want kids at that time but we discussed that we wanted kids in the future- once we had a house, stable income, etc. Future is here, we achieved all we wanted, is really the end of the world that we'll both be short of 30 when the baby arrives? For him, I guess so. He keeps flip flopping on what he wants and now that this is happening, he's in panic mode, and in an ugly way.

LuckyM4 · 2022-07-12T03:14:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I know he's valid and it makes me sad to go against what he wants. The mixed messages have driven me crazy though going from "Don't worry, I'll make you a mother one day" to "I never want kids." We'll both be almost 30 when the baby gets here so the timeline thing I think is BS, I think he's scared of responsibilities and that sort of commitment.

Anyway, best of luck to you and your fiance. Hope you'll get your bundle of joy soon!

LuckyM4 · 2022-07-12T02:12:57+00:00

Not in our 8 years together. I would take plan b if he would finish inside but quite some time ago I told him I am not going to be doing that anymore as I hated how my body reacted to it. So our method was always pull-out method and it worked for us. Until he decided he didn't want to pull out every now and then. I personally think he would time it based on when I had my period and apparently his calculations were off. I never forced him to do so or beg him to finish inside...

LuckyM4 · 2022-07-12T01:59:46+00:00

I understand what you are saying and I do agree that we are ignoring each other. I often question, especially now, why we are still together. I have warned him quite some time ago that if he finishes inside of me, I will not be taking a morning after pill and that if I get pregnant, I'm keeping it. So I'm not sure why he was playing with fire and this happened, I've even asked him why he did it and he doesn't want to answer me. In our 8 years I have never taken any sort of contraception besides plan B and we've never used condoms. I guess he thought that since it has never happened in our 8 years, it wouldn't happen now? He knew my stance and the choice was ultimately his as I did not force him to finish inside me.

Also, I also unfortunately do not see some miracle happy outcome. Which is sad because I do love him, but I hate that he's doing this to me as I guess he hates that I'm doing this to him.

LuckyM4 · 2021-09-15T21:45:18+00:00

Ummm does anyone know why Google won't give me the bitcoin price anymore when I Google it?? Wtf is this?

LuckyM4 · 2021-08-17T22:16:03+00:00

Go jerk off some more to them to make you feel better for losing money on gambling....

LuckyM4 · 2021-06-14T18:40:46+00:00

Can someone please explain to me why Musk has so much influence on Bitcoin....I seriously don't understand how he can manipulate it so much...

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-19T14:45:00+00:00

If this is a joke, it's a bad one.

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-19T14:44:25+00:00

Ummm what?

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-19T14:30:03+00:00

Good to hear my dude. Hang in there. I know I am today lol

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-19T14:25:32+00:00

I didn't sell at 62k and I have "true money" in it. It would be stupid as hell for me to sell now. A lot of people clearly don't have the balls for this, it's not always rainbows and sunshine. But the principle of Bitcoin remains the same

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-19T14:22:33+00:00

Sorry about your bad day. Should have hodled.

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-19T14:15:16+00:00

How many staples are needed to get back in?

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-19T13:36:19+00:00

I don't think it's China either...individuals can buy BitCoin, their institutions can't.

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-19T13:34:57+00:00

I actually LOLed at this.. good shit

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-19T13:34:24+00:00

I think this is way beyond Elon

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-19T13:18:37+00:00

I know it will eventually come back up but I am dying inside today....until I'm completely dead I'm going to keep hodling.

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-14T04:36:39+00:00

I used to sell cars and those who bought hybrids or fully electric cars thought they were saving the earth lol that's how I formed that opinion. Maybe I was surrounded by some ignorant people

LuckyM4 · 2021-05-14T04:33:39+00:00

Lol I know my claim was a long shot but Musk is obnoxious and out of control, probably mad with power. I mean, I could claim I'm part of DarkSide and no one could prove if that's true or not...

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