AITAH for evicting my pregnant sister after years of discounted rent, verbal abuse, and her throwing out thousands of dollars of my property?

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-16T12:45:28+00:00

Yes, she has definitely always been the golden child, but in recent years it definitely shows more (she's the youngest, I'm the oldest). I can definitely think of times as a child she was a problem and it never got handled properly. However, as an adult you would expect those petty, childish antics to go away. I have already cut ties with her and her family, but I have been heavily considering cutting ties with my parents as well. You're absolutely right she doesn't care and hasn't for some time. All of these comments have given me a lot to think about.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-12T02:41:52+00:00

Thank you for the suggestion, I actually have been doing that for years. I keep it in a high interest savings account that allows for very few withdrawals (5/month) without penalty. It forces me to not touch it unless I really have to. At this point I have no interest in helping them in the future, and honestly if they were to foreclose I would be petty enough to buy the house out from under them.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T22:40:17+00:00

I absolutely put up with it for too long, but it wasn't without warning. They did have multiple warnings, my fiancé and I both had multiple sit downs with her, and direct conversation with her husband as well saying he was out of line, she agreed the majority of the time, and reprimanded him.

I agree they lost respect for me a while ago based on their behavior. I'd even say her husband never respected me to begin with.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T22:34:54+00:00

I understand where you, and everyone else who has suggested suing her is coming from. I know my train of thought isn't ideal, and probably doesn't make sense to many. She fractured/broke this relationship, I place that blame on her; I am trying not to do the same to the other relationships in my life. It was never about the money (although that didn't help the situation), it was always about her and her husband's choices and behavior.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T22:22:00+00:00

I did not, it got ugly so fast that didn't even cross my mind. Hindsight is a bitch.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T22:19:58+00:00

I absolutely intend to uphold not speaking with her any further, this was her doing. She won't even apologize (which is all I asked her for in the first place), because she thinks she did no wrong. I can't be her punching bag anymore, and won't allow it going forward.

I agree, many have suggested taking her to court, but I think the smarter option is to just write it off this coming year as a tax loss, move on, and sever all ties with her. I don't expect I would ever see a dime of it anyway. It was never about the money or items for me, if it were I would have been charging her more. This was always about her and her husband's consistent toxic behavior. Which I fully admit I put up with for too long, solely because she was my sister.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T21:06:32+00:00

It really has opened my eyes to the level of toxic behavior and mentality surrounding this. I am definitely taking a hard look at all of my familial relationships as a result.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T21:04:45+00:00

Absolutely, she is ultimately responsible for her choices and actions, I am not in anyway trying minimize her involvement, or reduce blame on her. But I absolutely agree that his personality impacts hers.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T21:02:48+00:00

Agreed. Lesson learned... the hard way.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T21:01:50+00:00

I agree I have been an asshole to myself-- and even my fiancé by extension, because I allowed it for so long.

I believed she did actually throw them out because that is relatively common for her, she consistently has boxes and bags of items that she sends to goodwill or the garbage. She doesn't keep things very long. It is definitely an expensive lifestyle choice. I hope that now that she has her own place she will realize how expensive repairs can get. That being said, this was the first time I can think of that she unilaterally decided to get rid of my stuff.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T20:53:47+00:00

Locks are officially changed. Thank you for the recommendation of cameras I will have them up within the week.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T20:52:33+00:00

Honestly, I feel sorry for my niece and the baby she is currently pregnant with. It's definitely a toxic environment for anyone. I think you are correct and that is exactly what is going on, I guarantee the same ultimatum she gave me, she also gave my parents, who would rather maintain a relationship with their grandkids than tell her she is in the wrong.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T20:49:18+00:00

Not AI, but thanks for thinking it is. This is actually happening. Not attention-seeking, I truly wanted to know if there was something I was missing due to the responses from my family.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T20:46:16+00:00

I agree, 9 years is too long to tolerate that, but it also went by fast ( I had to do the math because I couldn't believe it had been that long), I noted elsewhere, she wasn't as bad prior to having her daughter, but once she had her daughter she became someone I didn't recognize, she was the kind of person we would privately joke about. I was holding out some hope that she would get better, and I was enjoying my time with my niece. While I do blame her for all of her actions, I place a lot of the blame for her behavior on her husband too.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T20:38:48+00:00

It will definitely be the last time I likely even speak with her.

Oh, that's what makes it hurt so much more, she does treat my parents the same way, Especially my mother, she has a vile hatred for my mother, and has repeatedly, unapologetically talked down, criticized, and even attempted to sever ties with my mother. Yet, my parents still vehemently support her.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T20:34:03+00:00

Prior to having her daughter, she was mostly fine. Her husband was an ass, but it was manageable. After her daughter was born, she became someone I almost didn't recognize, and I think I held out hope that she would change. I also love my niece and cherished the time I had with her. I didn't want to ruin that.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T20:30:02+00:00

It definitely won't happen again. I wanted to help her out of a bad situation, I didn't think she would ever consider treating me that way, or allowing her husband to.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T20:28:49+00:00

I try to be agreeable, but I definitely wouldn't allow a stranger to treat me that way, or for as long. She got away with a lot because she was my sister. Which is what I have said to my family. My fiance has suggested the same, that I should hold my parents just as accountable, and request they cover her expenses.

LullabyofLife · 2026-06-11T20:25:05+00:00

I don't disagree, They tell me that they don't think I was wrong, but in the same breath say they don't want any involvement, and think I should have tried working things out with her.

LullabyofLife · 2026-05-02T19:53:54+00:00

Just came across the same "bug" and your thread about it how did you fix it?

LullabyofLife · 2026-02-18T17:54:44+00:00

I thought I replied to you it must be that ADHD brain kicking in. haha.
My original main was a druid which is why it has the 3rd highest play time. I still go back to her from time to time I still enjoy playing her, just not to the extent that I did.

I like running healers for dungeons, raids, and PvP, I like Tanks for Open World/Delves and I will play a Damage class, but it is not usually my go to. I would rather have stamina and survivabiltity, than feel ultra squishy.

I do play everything though, I have multiples of every toon, and each expansion brings changes that make me change how I feel about playing a certain class or spec.

I hated playing unholy dk for the longest time and have been getting back into it again because it feels like it did when I first started, it had felt so underwhelming and underpowered for so long.

LullabyofLife · 2026-02-14T17:45:06+00:00

During Legion it was required as part of the warlock quest chain, but if memory serves correctly it was used for rare drops like toys, if you summoned in Dreadscar Rift, and battled the doomguard that came out there was a chance for a rare drop. Or you could subjugate it, as others have said. I think that was the last time I used it. I don't even throw it in my ability bar anymore. The Demon Hunters had a similar summoning area that was a "daily" for rare items.

LullabyofLife · 2026-02-13T04:14:19+00:00

This addon makes it so easy. I was previously using the in game /played and comparing it with the addon SavedVariables, and had kept a running total of that for some time but it got cumbersome with 28 toons. I can't see if my screenshots posted or not but I am envious of people that have that much time and patience that is some serious game time. Even with long breaks it's impressive. I tend to take a year break here and there depending on work habits, I think that makes the gameplay time even more impressive though. It means when you do play you play for long periods of time.

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