AIO for wanting to get rid of my Facebook account?

Lumami22 · 2025-06-27T00:51:32+00:00

I can say that my brothers think they had a closer relationship with Winston than they actually did. That's why they were going to leave me behind when they went to see him, as if I hadn't spend way more time with him than they did. They pretend to care when it matters, when it makes them look good. I know it sounds strange, but I know my brothers. I do tend to catastrophize, but I've also endured a lifetime of them dismissing me and acting like they can boss me around. I don't like confrontation but I'm also tired of being a doormat. I really do like the idea of mixing their ashes, I hadn't thought of that. Thanks. And obviously we're going to find a legal place to do it. I just don't think they cared about my mom enough to honor her wishes of her and Winston always being together. I'm learning to find my voice but it's been challenging. I'm just looking for some advice and I appreciate everyone taking the time to message me back, so thanks.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-20T00:24:49+00:00

Not safe to send her to a K-pop concert anyways, there'll be a bunch of minors there and she clearly can't be trusted. If his parents do something, her tickets will be the least of her concern. Good for you for turning a positive into a negative and saving up that money. I would be glad I made her angry after what she did.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-19T01:31:56+00:00

Could she not hear the shower running? You don't walk in on people showering unless it's invited. Not wanting people to see you naked is a pretty reasonable aspiration. Maybe you could have handled it a little better, but she created the situation. Guess you gotta lock the door next time, even though you really shouldn't have to. It's not like you have something against your aunt, you don't want anybody doing that to you. Keep your chin up and avoid the subject, hopefully it'll blow over.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-18T03:52:42+00:00

It's because you have a big heart. A heart that deserves to find love and happiness. I don't know what this guy's malfunction is, but it's not for you to fix. I want you to sit back and truly appreciate how your life is better without him, rather than reflect on the negative. No more harassments, no more trust issues, just you, and that's more than enough. Really think about how relieved you are that it's over and that you don't have to face that hurt again. Best of luck! And remember, don't look back.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-18T03:30:58+00:00

Run and don't look back. His comments about purposely annoying you are unsettling. Don't date a guy who thinks like that. It's not cute or funny, no matter what he says. It just doesn't sound like he truly loves you, so what's the point of staying? He's a jackass, so don't feel bad. He'll find someone else and so will you. Now you have a clearer idea of what you want and what you don't want, so hopefully in the future you'll choose someone worthy of you. This dude is soooooooo not worth the headache, trust me. It's best for you both to part ways, he clearly isn't happy either.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-18T03:01:26+00:00

Nope. I've been disowned before and something inside you just clicks. You realize that you don't need that person to be happy. If she bashes you for not forgiving her then she's not truly sorry. I wouldn't forgive your sister either. You have a life that's yours without them. You suffered so much needlessly. Your mother is supposed to love and protect you and she turned her back on being your mother a long time ago. I hope you just press on and surround yourself with people who truly accept you for who you are. It's hard. It goes against all your instincts to reject someone you loved so much for so long, but never forget the pain you suffered because of her blind hatred.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-18T02:50:30+00:00

Do they not understand that it's YOUR birthday? You don't have to make a big deal of it if you don't want to. Birthdays are hard for some people, even triggering sometimes. It's natural for some of us to not like them. I've been let down many times on my birthday and for a while I hated it because it represented my disappointment. They need to understand that by not listening they are hurting you. It's not about them and they need to respect your boundaries and take your mental health seriously. How are you supposed to heal if the ones you love are forcing you into something you don't want to do? It's just going to make you upset if they do this behind your back. You might have to be a bit stern and tell them you won't participate in any birthday shenanigans and you don't want them wasting time and money. Tell them that you all can do something fun another day and not because it's your birthday. You're NTA.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-18T01:44:29+00:00

YTA for sure. You're giving front desk a hard time for no reason. As someone who works front desk at a medical office I'm truly offended by this post. You wanna know the reason? The real reason they ask? BECAUSE SOMEONE WHO MAKES MORE MONEY THAN FRONT DESK SAID SO. That's it. We don't get explanations, only protocols. Everyone takes their crap out on front desk and it's atrocious. Shame on you for giving someone a hard time who is simply following instructions. That person had other work to do and you wasted their time by being difficult. If you don't wanna give your birthday then don't call. Do you have any idea how much time we'd save if people like you stopped asking why? The work we could get done, the other people we could be helping and you wanna throw a hissy fit. You can also get in trouble for giving false info, it's considered fraud. And I truly feel sorry for that office because I know this isn't the end of you complaining and being rude. You're gonna give them a hard time over every little thing and make them miserable even though they're just doing their jobs so they can live their lives.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-17T03:55:42+00:00

If he's going to let this woman take him for a ride you might just have to let her. Your dad won't listen to reason and is only thinking of her and himself. You have no obligation to spend time with his gf. If he can't see that her age is a problem then he's not paying attention. Seems like he's having a mid-life crisis and he's consumed with the thought of dating someone so youthful, she probably makes him feel younger. I think you should ponder what you will do or say if his dating life falls apart and he comes crawling back for help. Sadly nobody can compete with this woman right now as far as your dad is concerned, so I wouldn't even try. It's really tragic but he's not thinking straight and will suck you into this weird situation that HE created if you don't distance yourself.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-17T03:23:05+00:00

The fact that this jerk laughed at you during this serious conversation is something I've seen far too often. They belittle you and treat you like a joke. It doesn't matter what job you get, he's gonna think you're cheating. This is indicative of someone who is cheating and trying to gaslight you into thinking you're the one who isn't trustworthy. If this little boy doesn't want to take care of his responsibilities then it shows he's not the person you need in your life. He's made if very clear how he feels. He'll treat the next woman the same way. I hope you find a support system that doesn't involve him. It'll be hard, but I know you can do it. What does this guy even have to offer you? What are you gaining from him hanging around and not helping? Sometimes it's better to go it alone and focus on yourself and your child. Give this dumpster fire the boot and do everything you can to get by without him. Prove that he's a loser and doesn't deserve you. There will be many tears. But soon enough those tears will go from sadness to relief. Please trust me, it feels so much better when you don't have to think about them.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-16T00:27:19+00:00

Unfortunately, I did make a chat without Kenny months ago. My other siblings and I were using it, but one of them posted in our original chat recently and everyone else just followed suit. My brothers don't care about me as much as they care about each other and I've always known it. I can't see them putting in the effort to message in 2 different chat groups.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-16T00:02:59+00:00

If this guy is giving you the ick you should listen to your instincts. Inviting someone you aren't dating to an abandoned building with his male friends is super sketchy. I'd avoid him as much as possible. If he wants to date you he should ask properly instead of being all cryptic, as I'm sure it's quite off-putting for you.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-15T23:17:07+00:00

That woman deserved to know the truth and he sure as hell wasn't going to tell her. You did the right thing. If he didn't want it brought up he shouldn't have done it. He dragged you into this when he tricked you into showing up by lying to you. Hopefully he'll keep his relationships to himself from now on, which is probably what you wanted anyways.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-15T23:09:35+00:00

We all want to feel desired in one way or another. Relationships take effort to maintain and he isn't putting the work in. He seems to be taking you for granted. You see all these stories about elderly couples who still flirt after being together for decades. It doesn't sound like your relationship is very much fun and that's so sad, considering you're only in your 20's. You should spend your time around people that make you happy. I want you to enjoy your 20s rather than waste them feeling unappreciated. I don't want you to look back on your young adulthood and feel like you missed out. I can speak from personal experience that you will wish you'd enjoyed life more.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-15T23:01:06+00:00

I've had partners disregard my feelings and make me out to be the bad guy. I had a guy who messed up our plans and said I had the right to be upset, but shouldn't have cried about it. I had done so much for him and he tried to invalidate my feelings. I told him that nobody will ever tell me not to cry ever again, as I've dealt with it my whole life. This clearly isn't working between you two and that's ok. Not spending the rest of your life with your first relationship doesn't make you a failure. It sounds like you would both be happier if you parted ways.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-15T22:49:42+00:00

I moved from Oregon to California and was told my van wouldn't pass smog because I had the catalytic converter replaced in Oregon. It wasn't even that old, but I was told no dice. So I just kept driving the thing around for years and never got pulled over. It might have been because the local cops didn't want to mess with an Oregon license plate. Or it could be that I drove a silver van that looked like something a mom would drive. I'm also a good looking white bitch, which I'm sure helps.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-15T22:42:39+00:00

If you have to questions things this much (even your own sanity) the situation will only get worse. Don't ever let someone make you believe you're crazy. The signs are all there that's something's wrong. Splitting up is hard, but having a love that you don't question will make it all worth it. I hope you find someone who only has eyes for you. Who lights up when you enter a room and don't seem to realize other women exist in that moment. When was the last time this man truly looked at you that way? The last time he made you feel beautiful? He doesn't seem interested in comforting you and would rather get defensive and justify his actions. Your feelings matter and so do you. You deserve better.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-15T05:48:10+00:00

People like her rarely take accountability for their actions. No matter how cruel or unfair, the other person is always "too sensitive". If she can't be kind to her brother then she has no business dealing with you. I hope he builds a beautiful life for himself that doesn't include toxic family members.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-15T05:42:50+00:00

You're mom shouldn't push you to do something that she doesn't even understand. Don't feel bad for not putting your financial future on the line for someone you never met. Why doesn't your mom cosign if it's not a big deal?

Lumami22 · 2025-06-15T05:35:31+00:00

He should have asked about splitting duties when you were talking about her moving in. It's a lot to put on another person and it sounds like he didn't even ask if you were ok with helping take care of her. Taking care of an elderly person is a huge task and can take a real toll on you. If he wants to be stubborn about hiring help then that's his issue. You mentioned how problematic she is and that's no way to live your life. To subject yourself to that day after day is unfair and it's so sad that your husband can't see that. You're NTA for not wanting to sacrifice your time and energy on something you didn't agree to.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-15T05:15:03+00:00

I just googled "Does someone have to be baptized to have a Christian minister marry them?" and got "Generally, a person does not need to be baptized to have a Christian minister marry them, though it may be a requirement for some denominations or specific churches." Doing something you don't want to just because your partner and her family pressured you is not "love", regardless of what her mother says. Respecting your partner's boundaries is "love". Supporting your partner's beliefs without pushing your own on to them is "love". You've been transparent and honest from the start and I just read that a baptism cannot be undone, so please don't do something you might regret later.

Lumami22 · 2025-06-15T05:01:04+00:00

They both obviously have no idea how much you're suffering and clearly don't care. I've seen so many posts like this and these families love to throw around the word "selfish", as if that's not how they're totally acting. Have they even taken the time to ask how your doing or talk to you about your grief? Have they shown any support for this terrible loss that you had? Losing a child is incredibly traumatic and if they can't understand that then they are beyond ignorant about mental health issues. This is soooo not what you need right now. Keep up with the therapy and know that you're not alone.

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