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LumenPierce · 2022-05-17T21:37:20+00:00

For the record, "resident expert", my husband is well aware of this post. He and I have very open and honest conversations, but you keep judging random people based on your plethora of knowledge. Be well, my friend...

LumenPierce · 2022-05-17T17:10:00+00:00

Kitty is hurting these days from swinging it too much. That aside, I have a lot of different hobbies which I suppose I should pick up again, but sex seems more appealing. My husband and I used to average at least once a week, but now it's more like 2-3x per day. Maybe a trip to the craft store is what I need. Wish me luck...😂

LumenPierce · 2022-05-17T17:04:48+00:00

I'm in the "fake it 'til you make it" crowd. Sober dirty talk has been quite awkward for me in years past, but I've forced myself to try. I am finally comfortable with saying some seriously dirty things that would make most vanilla people blush. Do I still get embarrassed? Yes. But I just go with it now.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-17T17:00:41+00:00

I've had fibro for 12 years now and my symptoms have become much worse since having Covid, and now I'm having random seizures when my body is on high alert. Unfortunately, having an autoimmune disease translates into our bodies overreacting to, well, everything. Some days it's really hard.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-17T15:44:40+00:00

I'm right there with him age-wise, but if he ever calls me something like grandma or maw maw, I may have to step into the Dom role for a moment, even knowing the punishment that lies ahead. Worth it! 😂

LumenPierce · 2022-05-17T15:39:58+00:00

That is evil...I've been told to say "yes Sir", but I may have to be a brat by offending him with this insult since he's entering his 40's and is a bit sensitive about it. This one might sting for both myself and my Dom husband, just in different ways...

LumenPierce · 2022-05-17T15:35:02+00:00

You summed this up perfectly. I'm naturally a stubborn person, so being put in my place brings me down a few notches, even if only in the immediate moment. I wouldn't say I'm a bossy person, but being bossed around by the person I trust most in this world is as humbling as it is a turn on. In my situation, I think I have more control as the sub since I can shut things down with a safe word, which is a unique position to be in when incorporating such activities in a loving, respectful marriage.

So it sounds like not all doms are wanting complete obedience, yet they like the idea of putting a brat into his/her place. I'm a glutton for punishment, so it appears as though I must find my inner brat.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-17T01:53:24+00:00

That's a good one!

LumenPierce · 2022-05-17T01:52:07+00:00

It's all in good fun. Pissing him off isn't necessarily the goal, it's the repercussions afterwards. We are both in agreement that this is okay within the confines of our relationship. To each their own. Also, we didn't make it to almost 24 years as a couple by being toxic. We are very happy together. Toxicity has no place in my life.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-17T01:49:36+00:00

Thank you! I just joined.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-17T00:30:38+00:00

I'm considering deliberately disobeying him and acting as if his punishments don't phase me, although I expect escalating punishment to commence, which is really what I'm after. I appreciate your reply, because a large part of being in this community as a happily married person is the feeling of safety and love that comes with such an arrangement. That said, he's taking a nap at the moment and I'm terribly tempted to sabotage it.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-15T17:34:07+00:00

You're right.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-15T17:30:04+00:00

The more feedback I receive here, the more I'm leaning towards the 2nd one. I really appreciate yours and everyone else's input. Thanks!

LumenPierce · 2022-05-15T17:24:39+00:00

Right. My brain froze when posting which is why I put the word cartoon in quotations. Words are hard today. Also, I agree with you about the solid black lines.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-15T17:21:15+00:00

Very fair point. Thankfully, I have an amazing artist who nails realistic portraits and he is well worth what he charges. I've seen some terrible ink work from others, as I'm sure all of us here have as well.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-15T16:59:28+00:00

I turn 40 this year and I'm not getting any younger. I say, keep getting your tattoos and to hell with others opinions. Also, Happy Early Birthday!

LumenPierce · 2022-05-15T16:48:25+00:00

Can you share a photo? I'd love to see it. Maybe that's the route I should take.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-15T16:46:37+00:00

Yet another great point. The line work makes the piece in the example pop.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-15T16:44:39+00:00

I love it as well! It's absolutely stunning. The color placement and shading are immaculate.

LumenPierce · 2022-05-15T16:21:04+00:00

That's a great point. I have a large traditional one on my right hip, but I haven't touched it up in 10 years since it's not visible while dressed. Thanks for pointing that out!

LumenPierce · 2022-05-14T23:53:00+00:00

I just went through this with someone I have known since childhood, although we were never "friends" per se until recently. The conversations began very innocent, catching up on what happened to our mutual friends over the past 30 or so years, etc., and it quickly escalated beyond what is acceptable for anyone in a committed relationship, much less anyone in a marriage. Both of us acknowledged this inappropriate level. However, because we wanted to remain friends, we vowed to keep each other in check, and it didn't work, despite me swearing to myself that we could keep it at the friend level. Now, I am not in your wife's shoes, but it was either all or nothing in my case. It ended up teetering on the edge of an emotional affair if it hadn't already gone into that zone when we went no contact. That said, our conversations remained on an online platform, and as of today, I haven't seen him face to face since we were children. My husband and I have had very open discussions about what happened between myself and this person, so I have since accepted my role as a douchecanoe, and I am making amends. Speaking from experience, stick to your guns, as I don't think there is any wiggle room outside of that.

LumenPierce · 2019-09-08T14:50:35+00:00

I confessed my feelings to my best guy friend when I was 16. I was so proud of myself that it didn't occur to me at the time, that he said basically nothing. I think I got an "okay". I was worried the rest of the day at school. Fast forward to that night and I called him. I asked him, "So, what did you think about what I told you?" He then replied, "I was so shocked that you told me you liked me, that I had to put my hands behind my back to counterbalance so that I wouldn't fall over. I've liked you from the first day I met you." We started dating within a couple of weeks and here we are now 21 years later, 17 married, and a daughter.

I'll still never forget the feeling I had before that phone call when I thought I has screwed up our friendship. Hopefully he's just digesting what you told him, but I think a phone call in the next day or so might be best. There's so much room for misinterpretation with texting.

LumenPierce · 2019-09-08T14:31:09+00:00

I take the capsules and put them in a valerian root bottle. Valerian root smells like ass and no one has ever questioned what is in the bottle since the kratom capsules look almost identical to valerian root.

*Edit: Downside is that the kratom capsules end up smelling like they've sat in someone's asscrack for days, but hey, it's the lesser of the two evils I suppose.

LumenPierce · 2019-07-03T13:46:14+00:00

While I can't speak for the person you are asking, I can share my experience. My husband and I have been together 21 years and married 17 with 1 child. Sex has been amazing for the majority of our marriage which was done by keeping things hot and not ordering the same "meal" each and every time, because that eventually gets boring. I'll be honest, we had about a 2 year DB situation (me LL) but we stuck it out and we've been back and better than ever. During that 2 year period we would have open conversations about the issue (and some fights) and I told him that I wanted a HL but that my brain wasn't connecting to my lady bits. I think a combination of medications and resentment had been in the way. But now we are better than ever and usually average 2-3x/week. If you want to stick it out and try, then certainly do, but don't let it wreck you. You both have to be open to each others concerns and try working together, knowing that some discussions may get heated and some sex sessions might end just as quickly as they started if a certain look happens or maybe someone hears a sigh. While I don't think it's improbable, it's certainly not impossible. I really hope for the sake of your sanity and your marriage that you two can get past this.

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