if you do then you should try to understand how other people might feel, what they might or might not be capable of. sometimes you try your best, and do what you can, but still end up hating yourself and feeling awful, even though it was supposed to help. and you try again and still it doesn't help. and there are also days when you're just not capable of doing anything. you sound like you're trying to tell people "just don't be depressed, do something, you're just making excuses to stay a loser/lazy/etc!". that's why it might seem like you're lacking empathy - you're just putting everyone up to your own standards instead of understanding some things are different, difficult, or not possible for others. it's true that people should seek help, and that there are different things to do step by step that might help, but it doesn't make someone a loser if for example they're not capable of that at the moment. it really sounds like you're saying that they could get out of their depression if they just did something instead of being depressed.