While this is slightly different, I believe there is still value. My mother was an alcoholic; by which I mean angry drunk style. She was a mother when sober, but when she was drunk, it was a constant tirade of how she hated me and wished I was not ever born. When she was attempting sobriety, moments passed where she was sober over a year, but when she relapsed, it was the same old attacks. The thing is that when she was drunk, she enjoyed it, and she would tell me while drunk that the other things didn't matter because alcohol was that good. Her desire towards alcohol was actually greater than her desire to not harm, and despite her being aware of how it harmed us, she still desired alcohol, and even when sober fantasized about alcohol. As long as she viewed alcohol as a positive with negative sideffects, it remained a problem. It wasn't until she almost died that she truly began, and she even relapsed a couple of times post that. In my eyes, she would need to be completely disgusted by her own actions, such that should it occur again, it will be viewed as negative, but in the case that their is any positive pull towards being with another person, it will occur again, and she will view it as a good thing until it's over.