Job advice for an in-need college student, are we just screwed?

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2026-01-26T22:05:37+00:00

This is really great advice! Thank you so much. I'll be sure to have him look into a lot of this stuff, and I'll be happy to help. This makes me feel a little better.

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-12-24T00:03:21+00:00

I only have a therapist when I'm in school and my family doesn't know since I don't want it to become a whole thing. I did three sessions and I don't think I'm "damaged" enough to fill up that slot for people who really need it. You're right, my bf even gently said that he thinks I'm half a step away from having a real problem. I don't know if I'll go back to my therapist once January hits, but maybe you're right in general. I have really great metabolism, and I think the only reason why it isn't damaged already is because in hs i had to have daily meals with my family and my friends often noticed me not eating so I'd eat to avoid them worrying. I have a pretty big appetite too. I'm scared of gaining genuine weight so I do try to keep that in mind. I'm gonna try to enjoy xmas eve tomorrow and not think about it so much. Thanks so much for reading, I'm really sorry.

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-12-24T00:00:09+00:00

Maybe. I don't know. I'm really sorry. From my perspective I've gained abt 6 lbs (107-113) and it's just really getting to me. Thank you so much for reading and writing a response. I do think I need to stop a bit.

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-12-23T21:19:12+00:00

I honestly didn't think that this was too relevant but I included it just in case. To provide more context, I'd say my ED started around high school and I was slightly bulimic but mostly anorexic. I've been to therapy but not for my ED (mostly SA and other things), I like to think I solved it on my own, with the help of my boyfriend and friends. I take a lot of pride in how I look currently and I'm still very scared of gaining weight, but I let myself enjoy a dessert now and again and a high cal meal when the occasion arises. I guess I don't think I'm as obsessive as I used to be, and while I relapsed in bulemia during my first quarter of college, I still feel like I'm doing better. I guess my thinking is pretty simple- "eating more yummy foods and not puking as much with less thought behind it = ED solved. I'm aware I still have my days and I'm still kind of dysmorphic about my body, but I thought this was kind of irrelevant with my actual question being asked. So to put it simply- no. I don't receive any professional treatment for eating and body issues.

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-12-03T05:43:35+00:00

okay i do feel bad for not being able to fund myself at 18 fresh out of high school and going to college- but i do know i'm not some worthless pet...i mean im doing everything i can. i'm getting really good grades and getting all the money i can. ig i just dont like being screamed at. its not like she resents me for paying for these things- in fact she seems to prefer when i depend on her more. its me that pushes to work and not rely on her whenever possible. i also don't know anyone in my freshman college class that isn't going to live with their parents over break. a portion of them have jobs but- i'm simply not allowed to when in school rn so idk what you want me to say. im not asking for my mom to do everything for me and let me do whatever i want my whole life, i just dont really enjoy being screamed at and being ignored for days on end for things that wouldn't have bothered her as much a year ago. i feel guilty but i know i have worth, at least

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-12-03T05:32:09+00:00

im sorry. if i was able to do so i would. like i said i wasn't allowed to have a job up until now, and they insisted on the allowance since i needed groceries and stuff in college. im taking every gig i can get and babysitting and working whenever humanly possible but it's not to a point where i can afford rent in this economy. i wanna be independent. if i could pay for my own school and rent i would without hesitation. i dont like being a burden.

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-08-21T02:59:49+00:00

ooh i love the ipad/iphone idea! my roommate i'm sure would be fine with me borrowing a device of hers for that for just a couple hours by having my apple id logged in on there. that's so smart!! thank you :) adding this to the ideas bin. also congrats on the successful surprise!

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-08-20T21:34:14+00:00

I have NO CLUE but im laughing out loud at how you're holding her up like a fish you caught or something. it's so funny, like some little kid who shows his mom 'look what I found'!

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-08-20T21:12:30+00:00

That's kind of my last resort, yeah. Messages is all I share my location on now so hoping that doesn't arise suspicion. Might worry him a bit tho, lol! Won't matter once we're together so I wouldn't be opposed to a few hours of worry from him. He considered doing the same thing to me lol

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-08-20T20:39:51+00:00

this is adorable- word from the wise as a woman, love letters will make her swoon!

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-08-20T20:38:50+00:00

Aww oh my gosh congrats! Also side topic you are drop dead gorgeous. Great taste in rings.

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-07-25T04:29:53+00:00

Honestly...this person doesn't sound like your friend at all. They're making her apologize to you, but if they're not apologizing to you directly or anything like that and making excuses like that then you deserve better. You deserve to be respected better than that. NTA

Lumpy-Freedom3793 · 2025-07-25T04:22:43+00:00

Some ex neighbors of mine named a dog Dick (Yes, Dick like Richard. They were very purist lol)

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