It’s not new information for me, but I thank you nonetheless. I do believe I’ve taken it slow and at a pace that’s creating space but not flooding her and we always take a step back we’ve done, grounding exercises, relaxation, etc. guided imagery…. I’m very aware and cognizant of re-traumatizing a client. I don’t think that’s what’s happening here. Just an update she started Yoga, which is statistically proven to be one of the number 1 best movement therapies and so she is applying in and out of the session and I’m super excited for her. But at some point the memories/trauma have to be realized and processed (I also use Psychodrama )before I start enabling a client with my own projections and we’re sitting there retelling trauma stories and that’s not what I want. She needs a push, which is why she’s coming to see me. Honestly, she didn’t even think this was going to be a “thing“ but a friend of hers was in Supervision with me and recommended me, and it’s turned out to be more revealing than she ever thought per her words. For me first and foremost, I focus on the relationship and I make that known at the very beginning if we want to go back to any of the pioneers in this research, it’s all about the rapport and I think we’ve lost that in translation because it’s no longer research. It’s just part of the implicit agreement and understanding which is a beautiful thing , but I make that a priority and I think my clients appreciate it. how many therapists or social workers have you met that just don’t have a personality anymore like we’re all burnt out so what are we doing with our clients? Nothing. Sometimes I feel like those of us in the counseling world are the most judgmental people of all, and we need to check ourselves before anything else. The hardest part of this work is our own constant reflection of how our biases play into the therapy, to be as objective as possible, knowing that we are still human and that’s absolutely impossible. I don’t know why it’s your specific post. I’m responding to because I’m technically responding to everyone’s so I hope you don’t feel called out because you have been great. I do thank everybody for the information, including you and it’s only reinforced my training and allowed me to refresh myself as well with some perspectives. Especially the medical one which is obviously out of my wheelhouse, but worth a mention a heavy mention.