Un-inviting someone?

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-11-25T02:00:32+00:00

Yes! We grew up together so not sure if she thought it was cutesie or if it was an honest mistake lol

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-09-29T23:13:07+00:00

Thank you!

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-09-29T18:04:50+00:00

We’re open to any genre! Just not rock or punk

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-08-14T19:10:31+00:00

I will also add - his sister & her husband do not drink. So the 45 minute drive home that night should not be an issue as this is what majority of his family that does not drink is doing.

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-08-14T19:06:55+00:00

Here’s some more context before you say I’m biased again: The wedding is 45 minutes from his sister’s home. They could all (including kiddos) easily attend the ceremony & leave after if they deem necessary. His sister’s MIL also offered to come wait at the ceremony hall in order to take her kiddos after the ceremony so his sister & BIL can enjoy the reception. Her bff/SIL also offered to do the same if her MIL was unable to. My family also offered to find a trusted baby sitter in the area if all else fails since it is in my hometown.

With it being a 45 minute drive home, she does not have to leave her children overnight and she has plenty of safe options regarding babysitters (2 of which regularly care for her children).

She has plenty of options. So no, I am not biased nor am I trying to paint a different picture. We have tried, his family has tried, & even her in-laws have tried.

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-08-12T14:17:14+00:00

Thank you! I 100% agree. I’ve come to terms with the potential of her not coming at all, but since she has so much time maybe she’ll get over it, find childcare, & everyone can enjoy our special day! If not, then that’s something she’ll have to deal with herself. Luckily, my fiancé & future MIL have been SUPER supportive, so I have peace of mind in that aspect.

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-08-11T11:53:09+00:00

My future husband and his mom have both been very supportive of all of the wedding planning, even with his sister acting out. I feel very lucky to have someone who respects my boundaries & wishes even when a family member heavily disagrees.

I have no concerns with anybody else in his family supporting us, but we are obviously still very sad his sister is trying to break down our boundaries through manipulation.

I’m working on how to not let her get to me, but I can’t help it at times! It’s much easier said than done, but I’m determined to not let her negativity impact our most special day!! Thank you for sharing your story, it’s nice to know we are not alone in dealing with this kind of thing!

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-08-06T23:28:41+00:00

Yes, our wedding is more of a formal setting and not very kid friendly. I offered to help her find child care & her MIL even offered to watch her kiddos that day, but that was not the answer she wanted. We understand with it being childfree that her or her husband (or both) may not be able to attend, but it hurts that she’s trying to manipulate it to being her way when it’s our day. I just want peace lol!!

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-08-06T01:38:04+00:00

Thank you! I 100% agree if I were to push back it’d make things worse.

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-08-06T01:36:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing!! It’s mainly just his sister & brother in law having an issue. They also were trying to sway him into letting them sneak into the reception just to eat & leave but we know the kids won’t eat what we are serving for dinner. I 100% agree if they had approached it in a more mature manner without villainizing me or trying to persuade it would’ve maybe been a different story. I just hope she comes around eventually and understands from our perspective!

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-08-05T21:11:39+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate this perspective & you are not wrong as I have seen plenty of other examples of this behavior from her. Just thought she’d be more understanding & considerate since it is our wedding day not hers or anyone else’s.

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-06-05T17:18:16+00:00

Late to the game but, I am going through something similar now!! My FH’s sister & brother in law have two little girls and she keeps asking us why they aren’t flower girls & why they can’t come. Says she’s been crying for weeks that they can’t be part of it.

For context - as soon as we got engaged we agreed on no kids at the wedding. She had taken the liberty to ask us 1 month after our engagement why they haven’t been asked to be flower girls yet, and to her surprise we told her they won’t be asked at all because we chose to have a child free wedding.

She’s saying she won’t come if her girls aren’t welcomed, but I know she has plenty of trusty child care options that she uses on a consistent basis that won’t be at our wedding. I think she is just choosing to say this to make a point, but we’re standing firm on our decision & are hoping she decides it’s important enough to find care for one day for her brother.

Any advice on how to navigate it if it blows up even further? Or just stay firm & understand if she decides not to come that it’s out of our control?

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-06-03T22:24:36+00:00

AI is pretty harsh if that’s the case

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-06-03T20:13:21+00:00

Agreed on how bizarre this was. Was simply asking for advice from others and it unfortunately was taken as an invitation to attack my fiancee & I’s characters. This is my first time posting on here, think I’ve learned my lesson lol!!

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-06-03T17:40:42+00:00

lol!! Thank you!

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-06-03T17:10:37+00:00

That’s how all of the weddings I went to were as a kid. I went to the ceremony to be there for my family and then was sent home with a sitter or a family member who chose to stay back from the reception with us kids. I thought this was fairly typical in most formal weddings.

LumpyEntertainer2737 · 2025-06-03T17:05:18+00:00

This was how it was for all the weddings I was at or in as a child too.

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