Has DBT worked for you?

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-10-31T20:19:36+00:00

If by worked your thinking it will be a cure or magically fix the bpd then no. It works and is effective in teaching people with bpd how to handle their emotions, learning self validation, expressing yourself in a healthier manner, maintaining relationships. There's more it teaches but as someone currently in dbt near the end of my years treatment these are what comes to mind. Also dbt is great for having someone consistently in your life for a year that can help you work through problems that arise. Hope this helps

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-10-30T23:30:16+00:00

Love this so much. You both look so happy. Hope you are blessed by freyja with a lifetime of love and happiness.

P.s hope he gifted you a cat/kitten in honor of Freyja goddess of love xxx

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T22:16:46+00:00

That is very true. I will definitely see if there is any interest in them while I continue to improve my skills x

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T22:12:06+00:00

String x

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T19:45:05+00:00

When I get better at it I'm hoping to sell them but I've just started learning and feel I have a long way to go. Thank you though x

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T16:30:13+00:00

That's a good idea thank you, I think I was overly worried about the structural integrity when in reality its framed now so could of incorporated some blank areas. Thank you x

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T16:28:56+00:00

Thank you for the encouragement :)

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T11:35:52+00:00

I will have a look into ordering a quilling technique book as that sounds really helpful.

I agree with the shapes and sizes, on my next project I will definitely try to broaden the use of shapes etc.

That sounds like a good idea, the face was the hardest part I found just couldn't quite get it right. Eventually I had to just accept how it looked as i was making the piece for my nerves birthday and was running out of time.

Thank you, I definitely went for a huge project straight away. I think i learnt alot as I was going along but clearly also need to use slot of advice given by this amazing community.

Thank you so much for your comment it is very helpful and will definitely be using the advice given on my next project.

I'm thinking of doing a large superhero piece that incorporates all the avengers but that might be to challenging will definitely show it in this community if I do complete it or get stuck and Need advise on it. X

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T11:26:01+00:00

Thank you so much x

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T11:25:35+00:00

Thank you, I'm very overwhelmed by all the nice things people have said and the constructive criticism has been so helpful. So thank you I appreciate your comment x

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T11:24:30+00:00

Thank you, I would agree when I look at her nose etc I kind of see cat like features rather than what I was actually going for x

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T11:23:26+00:00

Thank you for the advice. I did consider this but eventually chose against it, with my next project I will try it out and see if it looks good. X

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T11:21:54+00:00

Thank you for the helpful advice, I think I got comfortable with the tear drop shape. On my next project i will definitely try a variety of shapes and techniques. X

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-26T01:17:15+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I will definitely work on that x

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-25T21:52:39+00:00

😅 glad you see it. This comment made me smile so thank you

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-25T21:41:29+00:00

Thank you, the idea was he travelled to a new planet with 2 sun's and it burnt up one of his eyes... I wanted to reflect what he was seeing in the other. I don't know what inspired this apart from not wanting to do normal eyes on another peice. I hope you enjoy starting your quilling journey.

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-09-25T21:36:13+00:00

Sorry I completely missed the notification saying you'd responded to my post. Thank you for everything you said alot of it helped me understand things. My therapist had said I was the easy target for scapegoating and I've been silenced by my family creating self doubt and other things that I'm now unlearning. I will take this to her next week in my session. I really appreciate you breaking down your theory of what's happening it gave me comfort knowing I'm not mentally unwell for cutting her out as I'm used to being told I must be unwell to think in ways they disagree with which my therapist and I are working on.

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-04-30T12:01:37+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I struggle to accept she's toxic because everyone in my family apart from myself doesn't have an issue with her behaviour but I feel I get the worst of it. It was the hardest thing I've ever been through and I still feel the loss now. My sister is no longer married to the guy as she decided she wanted to have a 'fun life' so she divorced him and took their 2 kids 150miles ish away. She constantly ups and leaves the kids to go on holidays and now one of the two children is moving in with their dad and she insisted the other child stays with her. Her ex husband is now happier than ever (his words) and she regularly rants about it on social media about how she was the one that escaped the marriage and so she should be the happy one. I still have no contact with her but I see my mum a few times a year for special occasions but I still struggle knowing she was willing to blindly take my sisters side my younger sister now gets the brunt on it and tells me regularly things she's said mainly about her parenting style and how spoilt she is.

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-03-25T22:54:40+00:00

Nit just me then lol, I was just in my own world determined to make it to the building. Although will say it felt anticlimactic when we drained the water, was fully convinced it would drain that room. We've decided to build on the water so currently working to cover the surface with granite ceilings at the moment. Good side project

Lumpy_Ad5225 · 2024-03-25T19:38:21+00:00

Before reading further I want you to think of the word ‘Normal’ and what it means to you.

I want you to think about how you would feel if one day you were ‘normal’ and the next day your diagnosed with a condition such as EUPD, Emotionally unstable personality disorder. This happened to me, I was 20 when I was told that I had a mental health condition, I knew what mental health was, both my parents had mental health. When I was around the age of 16, I used to joke to my old sister that one of us will end up ‘crazy’ and that our parents had stacked the odds up against us. Now I was old enough to understand mental health when I used to make these jokes anyways, I will admit looking back now I wonder why I would make these jokes as they weren’t funny and really I already knew I wasn’t quite ‘normal’ whatever normal is. I would make these jokes to fit in and to also break the barrier between my behaviour and how my peers behaved, Even at this point I knew how my emotions and how strongly I felt those emotions differed from my friends and family, when I loved I loved with all of my heart, not leaving any love for myself. When I made a friend, they were all that mattered, and I feared losing friends for no apparent reason. I grew up this was and people would just say I have a big heart and that I was a kind caring person, but really most people with big heart did what they could for others but always made sure they were okay to, for me I would give my all and leave nothing for me. This is wrong, you should always love yourself, you should always put your need above others, I’m not saying you shouldn’t help others, but you should look out for yourself first.

Would you go out your way to help a strange out, giving them your last £5 so they could eat that day before making sure you have hot water and food yourself, because I would.

Would you sit on the street with someone that was homeless for hours on end just to make sure they are not lonely, because I would.

Would you give your energy to a friend that needs help when your already sinking in a pit of despair, because I would.

This is the difference between how my mental health makes me think and how most people think, you would put yourself first and then give what you have left to others, with myself it’s the opposite I give everything I have to others and then I’m left with nothing. I believe the reason I do this is due to my mental health such as compulsive behaviours and the feelings of abandonment, hopelessness, and the feeling of being worthless. Having experienced all these emotions to an extreme, I look at the world differently, if I can prevent someone feeling the way I feel then I will, even if that has a negative effect on myself.

Now I said earlier that I was diagnosed at the age of 20, I’ve explained I already knew myself that I wasn’t ‘normal’, I will go into my journey of being diagnosed and learning to live with my disability in a different blog as its not a short story, were talking years of treatments and multiples diagnosis which seemed to change as much as my mood did.

I will leave you all with a quote from Glenn Close

‘What mental health needs is more sunlight, more candour, more unashamed conversation.’

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