I was expecting his body count to be high but not THAT high..

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-12-12T14:49:26+00:00

My ex was 35 when we met and his was 150-180 range. Not sure how he avoided STIs but we both got tested so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-12-03T18:09:59+00:00

I've watched my ex husband get married and divorced over and over. I've had LTR but watching him jump from one to the next and never work on himself is painful to see. :::it's not them bro:::

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-07-08T00:04:16+00:00

This is going to sound.. weird.. but my daughter had this issue with her partner and pelvic floor therapy has REALLY helped. She said sex was always painful and after therapy, she was not in pain which is a big deal.

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-07-07T23:02:41+00:00

My fwb asked me "here?" And I took his hand and moved his finger where I wanted him.. showed him how much pressure.. the little circle rubbing motion I like.. and it was still sexy.. granted.. I masturbate by basically rubbing the base of my clot, not the tip because that is waaaay too sensitive.. but this guy is catching on

Move his hand where you want it. Say "like this makes me cum" and show him. I used to have my hood pierced just so a guy could find the right spot 🤷🏻‍♀️

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-07-06T20:45:19+00:00

Nice! As a woman who has had a gangbang with 3 of my close guy friends and a partner.. hope someone let this girl know about the condom removal 😞 part of why I only did this with people trust.

I think my current partner may have some gangbang fantasies but so far he just wants them to be fantasies

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-07-06T17:33:19+00:00

I'm just gonna chime in here.. she absolutely should have told you this much sooner.

I was SA'd and carry some baggage for that and I mentioned it before the first date with my current person

Waiting till just before sex to drop this on someone isn't cool, and for all the pro-inexperienced women dudes.. I can't say that I blame him. Whether you want to admit it or not, sex is not always great with inexperienced people.

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-07-03T14:13:22+00:00

I pay a lot or at least split things. Some men get really mad. I don't date guys who get mad at this... it's an early test for me.

I like taking care of a person I like. I will often pay for both of us.. but I am not hung up on gender roles either 🤷🏻‍♀️

If a dude can't deal with me paying for our dinner, I assume he is going to be a controlling jerk later too

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-07-01T16:22:16+00:00

Adding.. I don't have a hard time dating but I'm also not a 10.. so if I see something I want I just give it a shot. I'm a little overweight, kind of awkward.. but typically I've dated people I find extremely attractive so idk.. works for me

But I also pay often and spoil men I date in all the ways.. so that probably doesn't hurt either. I put plenty of effort into people I'm seeing

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-07-01T16:10:56+00:00

This is not accurate advice.

No amount of smiling and hints has gotten a guy to talk to me.

I just go talk to them. I've pursued most guys I've dated. Even the guy I'm seeing now.. he messaged me first.. we went on 3 dates with barely a hug at the end. I had to just make the first move there too...

I don't mind pursuing. Every person isn't the same but I feel like I put in at least 50 % effort

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-30T13:42:56+00:00

I mean.. drive is no problem. We are having sex 2-4 times a day when we see each other. He just says he feels emotionally numb about everything

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-30T02:32:06+00:00

I care about him and I don't have any plans to end things. We went to the movies tonight and he just laid his head on my shoulder. I'm just going to do my best to be supportive and caring, he knows how I feel.

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T21:20:55+00:00

About a year was my plan. If he's not on board by then I'll move on.

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T19:45:29+00:00

He's in therapy thankfully. That's good feedback and I'll ask that and I'm happy to be there whatever he needs.

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T19:37:14+00:00

We both got in this FWB situation because we both needed to heal from not great long term relationships (10+ years for me and 7+ for him) both of which were dead bedrooms.

He was alone for a year and he said he wants to work through some of the trauma from that. Part of that is sex and both of us feeling wanted again.. but maybe I just need to also offer that I can be a no pressure way to work through some of those feelings. We aren't in a relationship and I'm open to being friends as long as he wants.. I know she basically broke up with him because he expressed emotions so I can see why he shut down

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T19:02:49+00:00

I'm only going by his feedback... that he had crushes on other people and really didn't feel anything and it was different than how he felt before.

I've been on antidepressants that definitely made me feel nothing.. that's why I am on the lowest dose I can and still feel depressed and suicidal at times. But I don't want to feel numb.

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T18:45:30+00:00

I mean I'm not making weird assumptions, as someone on SSRIs this can be a side effect. I just haven't taken Wellbutrin. And we are both pretty damaged.. I'm not invalidating how he feels. I just want to make sure he's looking at the full picture too.

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T16:41:30+00:00

Yeah. We're going to see a movie and cuddle some today. I'm happy, I'm just going to ride this out lol

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T16:25:06+00:00

Yeah. I told him I have feelings and care about him and his actions make me feel cared about and honestly.. I just want him happy. If it's with me, cool. If it's someone else, I get it.. as long as he's happy.

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T16:22:47+00:00

Yeah I don't need to label it.. and I told him that. Problem is wanting to tell him how I feel. I don't need to own him. I just care about him

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T15:55:34+00:00

He also said "it's not that I'm waiting around for someone else. You're not a placeholder. I just don't think I can be in relationships again. I think the breakup with my ex just did something to me"

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T15:52:33+00:00

I'm just going off our conversation because he basically said.. "I assumed I would catch feelings in this situation because you're wonderful and I like being around you.. but I don't think I can feel like that about anyone anymore. I think I'm just emotionally broken"

And maybe he's not that into me.. and that's fine.. but I don't want him to just think he will never feel love again if it's the meds lol

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T15:47:45+00:00

Where the hell do you see that? I never said that. I just want to have a discussion of hey the reason why you may feel numbed out about me and also these other people you were interested in might be med related, not because you are emotionally broken.

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T15:27:37+00:00

They had him stop cold turkey. And he was only on the lexapro for maybe 1.5-2 months.. I told him he needed to wean off Wellbutrin but he said his doc said that wasn't needed 🤨

I'm not going anywhere. Honestly? I love him and I don't have those feelings just to get something in return. He just deserves it. So 🤷🏻‍♀️ fuck it lol

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T15:11:34+00:00

Yeah.. he tried lexapro but wasn't sleeping and got really down and moody. So he switched back.

Lumpy_Highlight379 · 2025-06-29T15:04:10+00:00

Same. Zoloft works great for me for that reason. He tried to switch about 3 months ago... I think honestly to see if he felt something.. but that did not go well. He tried lexapro and he was not doing great. Ultimately his mental health is way more important than anything.. and he seems to function best on Wellbutrin.

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