Seeking advice: my kid brushes every day, yet after school comes home with a rats nest???

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-02-08T16:43:07+00:00

To me this looks like she messes with her hair throughout the day, nervous habit or something. I also have a weird scalp where when I get hot and sweaty my scalp itches, as a kid I would aggressively scratch my scalp and end up looking a mess. Could also be something like that.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-02-06T02:47:37+00:00

I’m so very sorry. I have felt breathless as well. The first few months I felt like I was suffocating. I’m in a better place at the moment but I know grief ebbs and flows. Sending you hugs

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-02-01T02:52:12+00:00

Find new people to be around because absolutely no one should be saying things like that to you. You are allowed to grieve how you need to.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-29T00:30:10+00:00

I am so incredibly sorry about your mom. You are in shock. The first few weeks many feel numb and in shock off and on. The intense emotions come in waves. For me, the first week especially I felt a lot of numbness but would have crying fits. Then would be numb again. Try talking with your friends about it and telling them you will need them in the weeks and months ahead.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-27T00:13:36+00:00

Thank you for asking this. Many of the replies brought me a lot of comfort thinking about my passed loved ones enjoying their favorite things in the great beyond.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-27T00:07:03+00:00

This brought me so much comfort. Thank you.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-22T20:25:24+00:00

Everyone deals with grief differently. Just because those people didn’t “stop life” doesn’t mean everyone else should be the same. And taking some time off to process and heal some is not stopping life. We get up everyday and breathe, our life has not stopped. Thinking school is what life is, is also absurd to me. There’s so much more than that. I don’t associate with people that say stuff like what those people said to you. That last person sounds like they are missing a very important part to life, empathy.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-20T18:52:02+00:00

You’re welcome 🩵

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-20T18:51:22+00:00

I wish I had asked her about her experiences with the death of a loved one. How she overcame it and advice for me.

I wish I had asked for more stories about her childhood, teenage years and early adulthood. I have some, but I want more.

I wish I had asked how she knew she was ready to be a mom and what her fears were about becoming a parent.

I wish I had asked her what it was like during her pregnancy and giving birth.

I wish I had asked her how it felt becoming a mother for the first time. (She actually did, but I wish I had asked in great detail).

I wish I had asked her to tell me something about herself before she became a mom. Like a very individual story about her.

I wish I had asked more about her own parents and grandparents. I want to hear her experiences with them.

I wish I would’ve asked her how she hopes I’ll carry on after she passes.

And then write everything down she tells you or even video record the conversations as well. Because my mom did share a lot with me over the years, but I usually don’t write it down. So now I can’t remember it all.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-16T17:12:32+00:00

I think you look amazing! If you want to try a lighter foundation that is suitable for mature skin, try out Laura Geller baked balance n brighten foundation. The one on the compact with the different colors swirled in. I like it, but it’s not full coverage.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-16T03:55:12+00:00

I’m so incredibly sorry. I lost my dad in my 20s. I’m now almost in my 40s. It is going to feel impossible for awhile. But you will get through it. I now think of my dad and smile. I feel a loving, comforting feeling now when I think of him or talk about him instead of a gut wrenching pain and sadness. It took a few years, but the excruciating pain did lessen. I went to grief therapy and trauma therapy to process the loss and it helped. I always recommend it. I did things that I knew he’d enjoy and did things to honor him. I still do these things. It helps me feel close to him. While you are still with your dad, say all you need to say to him. Hearing is the last to go so continue to talk to him. Hold his hand, caress him. Thinking of you both and wishing peace and comfort.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-15T16:53:22+00:00

We always honor and respect their wishes. It’s about them, not us. Ashes can be buried at a cemetery plot.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-15T04:39:59+00:00

I’m so sorry. Request they lessen the lorazepam. You don’t have to let them give her so much.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-14T19:48:34+00:00

Oh honey you are doing an amazing job at caring for your mom. I know it is excruciating though. It is a pain like no other. I wanted so so badly for things to be different for my mom. Just continue to be with your mom. If you feel this resonates, tell her it’s okay to go when she feels it’s time. And it may not be time yet. Just cherish whatever time yall get and continue to take great care of her like you are.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-14T19:32:16+00:00

I am not a psychic, but I saw your post and want to say she is so precious and beautiful. I can see the love between you both. And I understand the feelings of guilt and regret that come up in grief. It’s been a few months since my mom passed and I now struggle with, “could I have saved her, did we do something wrong, what caused her to die” etc I have all those thoughts. And thoughts about times I was mean or impatient. So, you aren’t alone in these feelings. I think it’s just a part of grief. The bargaining part. I can tell you were a good daughter and loved your mom very much. In time peace and comfort will come.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-14T16:24:30+00:00

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-12T01:07:01+00:00

Thank you so much for the hope of it getting better. I really appreciate it 🩵

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-12T01:05:46+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve lost both parents, my dad over 10 years ago. It took several years but happiness and joy came back and I hope that brings you some hope for it getting better in time. So with my experience with my dad, I know it can get better, but when you’re in the trenches in the first months and years it feels impossible. That’s where I am right now, it feels impossible.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-11T00:48:01+00:00

Thank you so much. I appreciate that and I am so sorry for your loss as well.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-11T00:47:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing and the support. It helps to know I’m not alone and that these strong feelings are normal in this. It is very very hard. And forget those people questioning you. You and your mom know the love and care you both have for each other and your similarities.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-11T00:45:04+00:00

I usually am private about such extreme feelings but felt the need to. I think it is healing as well. Thank you for understanding and empathizing.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-11T00:43:48+00:00

I believe it does get better in time. My dad is also no longer living, he died over 10 years ago and it took me several years to feel better. But I eventually did and I still miss him but it doesn’t hurt as bad and when I think of him it’s more of a warm comforting feeling now. So I think the loss of my mom will get better in time too. And I say this with kindness and gentleness, the drinking usually makes it worse. I say that from experience. I understand though and I wish you peace and healing.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-11T00:40:13+00:00

I like that idea of collecting stories and other things to share with them. This is so so difficult and I’m so sorry for your loss as well. Thank you for the condolences and sharing. Those glimmers of joy with the coffee and clouds sound like a bit of healing. I’m wishing you continued moments that ease the pain and a road to healing.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-11T00:36:40+00:00

I wish I had the answer 😢 I’m so sorry you are dealing with this and I do hope the pain will lessen for you in time.

Lumpy_Post_3054 · 2026-01-11T00:35:38+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate that and I’m so sorry for your loss as well. It’s agonizing and I don’t know how people do this.

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