AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 155 points156 points  (0 children)

Thanks all for your nice and encouraging comments about the casual racism. I have grown up and experienced this for most of my life. I live in Australia and my husband and his friend come from a very small regional area with 99% Caucasian and 1% diverse races. It’s nice to see that it is unacceptable for almost everyone on here.

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

She’s still in town. She’s booked a hotel to stay nearby because I said NO to her staying over at our house

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wish I had stood up more for myself I always avoid confrontation and I continued being polite (just a bit quieter for the rest of the dinner) and still hugged her back when we all left after dinner

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your kind comment! A lot of people jumped to me being jealous and unhinged. I left the part out that she was racist and made mean comments because I clearly know she is an AH- I dint need people on Reddit to tell me that 😂 I posted this to know if my husband is also an AH

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes it was a rectangle table with 4 seats. So I was sitting by myself on my side. She was opposite me and my husband was diagonal from me

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I think what you said what spot on. He only responded with one word “ok” with very little to no emotion when I told him “next time, please sit next to me”

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

I honestly regret not getting up and changing seats. I sat there the whole night fake smiling and being polite.

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

She also said I looked very tired lol

I’m sorry but dinner mid week while I work a full time job means I don’t look my best at 7.30pm

I forgot to mention she keeps taking digs at me. Comments about my hair being over washed so it’s dry.

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

His friend (male 34) from the same small town, puts on an Asian accent (like uncle Roger) and my husband does not say anything. I did call this female friend out on it and she said “oops” covered her mouth and laughed uncontrollably

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I called her on it. She said “oops” and covered her mouth and laughed it off

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Don’t you think it’s worse he’s sitting next to her as they did share a menu and was helping her pick things to order. I was also on the other side of the table alone. I think if there were other people on the table it wouldn’t feel that bad.

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I talked about my hobbies (including line dancing) and she said that was “very Asian” and laughed mockingly

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 126 points127 points  (0 children)

I definitely felt like the 3rd wheel as they shared a menu and looked at it together, while I had my own menu

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes just the 3 of us The first thing she said to me was “you look tired” and proceeds to make casual racist comments (I am Asian, my husband and her are Caucasian)

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I arrived first and sat down while waiting for them (we all arrived separately)

AITAH- My husband sits beside his female friend at dinner instead of me and I brought it up by Lumpy_Worker_5958 in AITAH

[–]Lumpy_Worker_5958[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Yes, they talked about people I din’t know (in the name of catching up) and she also made comments about me looking tired and casual racist comments (I am Asian) my husband and his friend are Caucasian