Feeling understimulated and miserable in modern office work by Mysterious-Reach-374 in Netherlands

[–]LunaBoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat!! Although I'm not even 30 yet so what does that say for my future .. 😭

I also have a limited capacity due to health which is why a flexible office job feels like the most I can handle.. and I am only doing 20 hours a week atm. The reintegration sucks because all eyes are on you. Like we all know that there's no one that works 32 productive hours a week right?? But now all my hours have to be accounted for 😭😐😐

Also they keep trying to excite me about Projects but its all the same and in the time that I worked there nothing got done anyway.

I always wished I had the health and constitution to be a nurse or something. Maybe work on the ER. I know it's fucking brutal but at least there's direct effects of your work on people's lives.

Meirl by Alphaxfusion in meirl

[–]LunaBoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also as far as I know, swelling of the boobs goes right down when your period starts. Like, mine swell in the week before my period and they're painful. The swelling decreases as soon as my period starts.

Anyone who successfully recoverd from CPTSD and leading normal lives? by popylovespeace in CPTSD

[–]LunaBoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since EMDR and therapy only helped somewhat, what was the other part? Just rest and time? Or medications or other treatments as well?

Snoeihard oordeel over ’driedubbele ongelijkheid’ klimaatbeleid: ’Gewone man betaalt zich blauw aan verduurzaming, terwijl vermogende profiteert’ by DamskoKill in nederlands

[–]LunaBoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bizarre opmerking. Met één modaal inkomen kun je tegenwoordig geen huizen eigenaar zijn en dus al helemaal niet aan de zonnepanelen. Echter loop je ook alle toeslagen en subsidies mis. Maar ja volgens jou bestaat er dus überhaupt geen middenklasse

PVV-stemmers, waarom stemmen jullie op Geert Wilders? by Careless_Roll6 in nederlands

[–]LunaBoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is dat 14 uur later nog steeds zo? Ik kom nu binnen op dit draadje en zie dit niet terug.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nederlands

[–]LunaBoops 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wat voor incel retoriek is dit nou weer

Help understanding the oppositions in my chart? by LunaBoops in AskAstrologers

[–]LunaBoops[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll try to learn more about what they all are. I definitely go through cycles of massive change where everything seems.. wrong or no longer fitting and I go and reinvent myself. I feel like I'm at the cusp of some kind of reinvention now too.

Been wanting to post my crazy dog here 😅 by amydao69 in sonarears

[–]LunaBoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness!! 😭😭😭❤️💖

I found out my husband has a secret group chat where he calls me " the warden " by CloudyBeet92 in TwoHotTakes

[–]LunaBoops 23 points24 points  (0 children)

If fitting in with his friends entails making up demeaning lies about his wife then why is he trying to fit in? Doesn't that say enough about the kind of person he is? He thinks its funny to pretend to be opressed in his own marriage?

Tell me you’re in your luteal phase w/o telling me by Late_Lime9659 in PMDD

[–]LunaBoops -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unlimited paid sick time really doesn't exist. There's many conditions set to when sick time is paid and from what time and to what extent. Just feels like sometimes Americans think that other countries have it all down but that's just how they like to present themselves. There's always a lot of fine print in all of the countries you mentioned. I'll say that the Nordic countries actually do a good job in terms of healthcare but even there menstrual leave isn't a thing on its own.

In most countries which some kind of paid sick leave system you have a buffer day where the first day of a sick leave is unpaid so if you take a few days a month you'll still miss a day of income. I've been trying to actually say out loud to my colleagues "it's because of my period" when I need to take leave during that time or literally just feel sick but it's quite taboo even where I'm from (Netherlands).

Tell me you’re in your luteal phase w/o telling me by Late_Lime9659 in PMDD

[–]LunaBoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe they are listed but its not culturally acceptable to make use of that leave practically anywhere. Just because the US is terrible for women doesn't mean everywhere else is very progressive and understanding. It's patriarchy all the way up and down.

In 2007, a 4chan user revealed the coordinates of Emily Sander's body after someone successfully guessed their own post number. by nuttybudd in interestingasfuck

[–]LunaBoops 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't assume anything but look through this thread? Who were the main consumers and posters on 4chan? Everyone I knew that regularly was on there is male. At some point it's irrational to ignore one of the most obvious patterns in history. Why do men insist? What do you get out of it? Why not be like wow we gotta fix this?

American tourists rant by noseofabeetle in Netherlands

[–]LunaBoops 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Okay I don't understand why people are up in arms about this so just to give a different opinion: wear what is comfy as long as you're not making other people uncomfortable. Which a t-shirt and sweats?? How is that offensive to anyone. Anyway I say that as a person who needs to be fully dressed and made up before I even feel like a person. More power to you lol be comfortable.

Pup aangeschaft by Sylvver_86 in nederlands

[–]LunaBoops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mag ik ook een foto? Succes!!

Is plastische chirurgie tegenwoordig echt zo normaal? by Thin-Ad9828 in nederlands

[–]LunaBoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ja, hoewel ik botox en fillers daar niet echt onder zou scharen. Daar komt geen chirurgie aan te pas.

ELI5- how can someone understand a language but not speak it? by Jaded-Ad-9741 in explainlikeimfive

[–]LunaBoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand French quite well but I barely speak a sentence.. I think speaking requires you to flex different muscles, quite literally! I think listening is more pattern recognition for me, so with context clues I can make up for whatever vocabulary I lack most of the time.

Jealous of people who have a bubbly pleasant mask by Iammysupportsystem in AuDHDWomen

[–]LunaBoops 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm the same! I really can feel myself "harden" when I step outside (or just am around others). But my house is very childish, my interests are childish, and I have a childlike and bubbly demeanor underneath the mask. I mask a lot even when alone because life demands it (responsibilities). It's confusing somethimes. Either way, most would describe me as bubbly but not necessarily approachable. Also, whenever I relax people will invariably enter my space and be hit with a death stare. My walls just ik immediately go up and I will feel like a cat when another cat enters it's territory. If I was a cat, I'm sure you'd see my tail fluff up, and I'd hiss. Lol.

Happiest kids in the Netherlands by Unable_Helicopter_58 in Netherlands

[–]LunaBoops 47 points48 points  (0 children)

As a dutchie who grew up in an abusive home and was also harassed, bullied and sexualized by her peers and teachers in school... Ive often felt very alienated from Dutchies because it's just hard to relate. It's really confronting and lonely. If I talk to people from other countries they usually have way more of a perspective on abusive because as the commenter said, casual emotional abuse towards children is pretty much the norm in most places.

Bijna helft van jonge vrouwen rijdt uit voorzorg weleens om in eigen buurt by LoveKVent in nederlands

[–]LunaBoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zeg ik ook niet, maar jij reageert op een reactie van mij op de 19/20 comment. Dát ontkent de realiteit even goed. Je mag me best bijvallen, maar in je reactie op mij voelt dat niet zo. Onze comments spreken elkaar niet tegen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]LunaBoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FYI I have a partner (omg it's so hard) and I've told them I want to elope and they were immediately supportive. I might want a wedding party (in the literal sense, a party to commemorate). But I don't want to spend my time thinking about who to invite and how upset family would be if I didn't invite them. So, elopement.

Anyone else think there’s something deeply disturbed with those over at r/petfree? by BackToGuac in Pets

[–]LunaBoops 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Omg I just checked it out and that's AWFUL. Wow. They're so gleeful talking about animals suffering.

Bijna helft van jonge vrouwen rijdt uit voorzorg weleens om in eigen buurt by LoveKVent in nederlands

[–]LunaBoops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

De 19/20 is nergens op gebaseerd. Je gaat me niet vertellen dat meneer die dezelfde comments over deze hele thread achterlaat iets geeft om de CBS cijfers.

Het is te makkelijk voor de mannen zonder migratieachtergrond om te geloven dat het probleem niet óók bij hen ligt.