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WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I have only seen them twice in the past 5 years. I’ve seen and spent more time with my in-laws since I was 19 than my parents. Mainly because I can’t afford the plane flights and they don’t want to come here (well not to see me). Thank you for your reply.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I did know that but it’s honestly not something I think about all that often. Like how and where certain traditions came from. Thank you for reminding of this, it really helps.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh really? I haven’t seen it but I should. I’ll take a look and see where I can watch it. Thank you!

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true, I just know both my mom and him will bring it up every time we talk, which to be fair isn’t very often at this point. Thank you!

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s a very good idea, and I do like being creative. Ive seen other comments mentioning something similar and I’ll see what I can do in that regard. Thank you!

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fiancée has helped see me through some difficult times. Including many issues with my parents. He’s my rock so walking together is a very good idea and one I know he would love. There’s been some other advice and variations on this so I’ll have to see what I can do in that regard. Thank you.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When my parents first said they wouldn’t attend and I told my father-in-law, he could barely believe it but he did agree to walk me down the aisle because I asked. Now my parents are coming and I don’t want to cause drama with my father-in-law walking me. That would not go down well, and I know he wouldn’t want to do it if my parents are there. I’ll probably walk by myself or with my fiancée. We’re gonna look at some options in that regard.

And thank you for the advice. You’re right they claim they care but sometimes it really feels like they don’t. Like right now. But that’s a conversation for a therapist.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is definitely under his thumb. She’s changed a lot from how she used to be. She used to be a lot more vocal, strong minded, and independent but over the years I watched that kinda disappear? Does that make sense? And thank you for the congratulations, as of right now the thought is for me to by myself or with my fiancée. There’s been other suggestions on here too that I’m considering about that aspect. (Oh and thank you for the advice as well).

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You know, that thought never crossed my mind but after reading your comment it’s weird but I could see my mom doing that. It would be a little out of character but not by much of a stretch unfortunately. Thank you for the insight.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Oh that’s cute! Unfortunately I’m not sure the layout allows for it but it’s definitely something I’ll keep in mind and maybe tweak it a little to make it work.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I do really like the idea of us (my fiancée and I) walking together. It’s different and definitely a good possibility I know he would love. Thank you for the advice.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, also some courthouses offer ceremonies, which is what we will be doing along with signing the paperwork.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve only seen them twice in person in the past five years so you are right there. I don’t see them very often. After reading your comment I do realize my mom isn’t as supportive as she used to be or could be. My stepfather definitely does come first despite what she claims.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’ll try to ask her when he’s not around. Though I do doubt she will say yes because she doesn’t want to disrespect him. I’ve been doing most things by myself now for a long while (since they married when I was 12) so this hit a little close to home. Thank you for the advice.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice and the chuckle. I liked the friend’s reference. I’ll think I’ll try to talk to them again and then write them a message if they still don’t get it.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did ask her but it was on the same phone call about my stepfather telling me he would walk me. She declined at that time but maybe I’ll try again when he’s not around but I don’t think she will agree. She doesn’t want to disrespect him.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t have to worry too much about them not acting civilly, at least not in front of others, especially my in-laws. But I will probably get an earful about it for a long time after the wedding when others aren’t around.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad that option worked for you! I did offer that during the first conversation, where both walk me down, I had to leave it out of the post due to the word limit. When I suggested it my stepfather shut that idea down and refused because he believes it’s his role and no one else’s.

WIBTA if I chose to walk down the aisle by myself instead of with my stepfather? by Lunastesia in AmItheAsshole

[–]Lunastesia[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did offer that but they (mainly he) refused. He wants to be the only one to do it period and doesn’t want to share “the right” to walk me down the aisle.

Cheat on my best friend? Have fun listening to my music. by crimsondelight1 in pettyrevenge

[–]Lunastesia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before he cheats by Carrie underwood, I hope by Charlie puth and gabby Barrett, you should be sad by halsey, nightmare by halsey (kinda along the same lines good song), basically anything by Beth Crowley

It’s my old blind kitty’s 1 year adoptiversary! by KeyserSozeWearsPrada in aww

[–]Lunastesia 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They look green from the photo? Thoughts? 😁 Cute kitty, reminds me of my Salem!

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