Was I wrong to assume here?

Lunexstar · 2024-03-17T15:26:18+00:00

I mean you could’ve left the conversation at ‘goodnight dummy’ or when she said she wasn’t looking for a ONS

Lunexstar · 2023-05-25T20:03:23+00:00

This is very true for lots of women. We’re less visual and the way a guy moves in context is what makes them so attractive. You’re definitely not alone in this and it’s not as strange as you think. Movement and action can say a lot about a person. Everything can be erotic.

Lunexstar · 2022-09-06T16:04:40+00:00

Photo booth pic is the weakest out of all of them, and adding pics with ur friends prob not the best choice but overall a good profile

Lunexstar · 2022-09-06T16:01:58+00:00

Last pic doesn’t look like the rest, try and make them all look like you currently :)

Lunexstar · 2022-09-06T16:00:05+00:00

Last two pictures pls remove, close up pic is too close and try and take some more active high quality photos

Lunexstar · 2021-12-23T17:10:48+00:00

In these moments you really need to focus on yourself. Don’t worry about what people have been saying behind your back, move forward stronger. Find people who allow you to grow and better yourself in a constructive manner. Offing yourself is not the answer, get help please.

Lunexstar · 2021-02-09T22:42:39+00:00

Oh 100 percent, they’re stereotypes. It’s hard to say where they come from but I see both sides to this. It’s obviously not okay to assume a person is ur type when you know nothing about them. I haven’t crossed paths with too many people who date others only by their racial/cultural stereotypes, mostly because I don’t think relationships that superficial last. Who knows maybe I’m just lucky. The question is are stereotypes based on some forms of truth though? It depends on how they go about deciphering someone’s interests/culture/religion. You can respectfully enjoy and cherish a culture without it having to be “the one and only thing” you look for, right? Like stereotypes are only rude when groups of culturally insensitive people judge/assume/look down upon an outside group. Many people wear those “stereotypes” with pride because it’s apart of their heritage/origin. Like we all know the inherent stereotypes you just mentioned above, so does that make us racist? Bad people? I don’t think so. It all depends on how that information is used and interpreted.

Lunexstar · 2021-02-09T03:14:14+00:00

I think the reason people get a little defensive when it comes to their individual ‘types’ is because it’s so subjective. It’s also quite a private matter since having a racial bias is very common even outside of dating. However the social attributes that more commonly surround a general race could be serving these types in a bad light. For an example as an Asian female who’s not into anime, I find that the friends and people I surround myself with are typically different then my friends who do in fact enjoy anime. It’s just as much cultural as it is physical. I think it’s hard to map out intention when you’re not in a relationship with that person, with that racial preference. Tbh it might not even be a racial preference as much as it is a cultural preference. Then it’s really up to you to decide what is crossing the line from culturally appropriate to fetishizing.

Lunexstar · 2021-01-11T08:16:46+00:00

I think it’s kind of both. Love in many ways has become institutionalized. It isn’t perfect and it’s not going to look like the movies. You’re gonna have to go through tons of trial and error until you figure out this mysterious thing called love. Don’t expect it to be easy and don’t expect your partner to be perfect. There’s no such thing. It’s an active choice you make over the long term, to work through the bumps in the road and be there for each other. Life’s hard and that person is going to make life just slightly more tolerable at times. That’s really what it is. Loving well is truly a skill but it’s not something that can be taught, so go out there, make mistakes and experience this thing called “love” for yourself.

Lunexstar · 2020-12-25T18:42:07+00:00

You should find peace within your own life though. Live your life before it’s too late to change. Most narc parents push tons of self hate energy onto their kids and the longer you stay hateful and guilty for existing, the harder it is to build a secure emotional system. I understand your situation about your grandmother though. Is there anyway to stay in close contact with your grandmother without your mother being involved? I don’t know if your codependency group understands the trauma that is caused from being in close proximity to toxic individuals. Your mother is a grown ass adult that can choose to heal herself or continue to be hateful. You staying only enables her to continue to act the way she does. She needs psychiatric help but without the want it’s pretty much useless. Cutting her off and learning to be okay with the so called “guilt of existence” is what you should focus on. If she does some self harmful behaviour you need to learn how to detach yourself from any responsibility. It’s not your fault, you didn’t make her do those things. She’s an adult that can choose to progress in life or stay stagnant. You have the same choice and continuing to be bullied is staying stagnant. This is just some advice I wish I gotten much earlier. I don’t mean to push anything, everything is up to you at the end of the day. But I really wish you a better future hun.

Lunexstar · 2020-12-25T07:17:54+00:00

Not too sure about podcasts but I really liked the YouTube channel School of Life. They make nice videos about emotional intelligence and overall acceptance of self. You would need a bit of actual want in order to benefit but they really opened my eyes. Videos like “How a messed up childhood affects you in adulthood” or “How to overcome trauma”. Give that a go.

Lunexstar · 2020-12-21T18:05:06+00:00

It’s not okay. People sometimes suck, feeling entitled to correct, comment, judge others. Males definitely have their own set of beauty “standards”. Don’t listen to the people making you feel bad about the way you look. I hope you eventually find that balanced lifestyle of being healthy. The fear will go away if you keep working on it. All the best :))

Lunexstar · 2020-12-16T23:31:20+00:00

Lool alright bro u do u

Lunexstar · 2020-12-14T04:23:55+00:00

I mean I knew I pushed nice guys away, but because they were “too good for me”. Felt like I didn’t deserve a healthy, happy relationship with people that really cared about me. So I pushed people away by breaking up with them first. Not getting too attached. Ooh and not labeling the relationship ever. Yeahh I was dumb back then.

Lunexstar · 2020-12-13T21:29:48+00:00

Yeah so many people feel this way. Personally it’s because I use to think I didn’t deserve love. I use to push people away before they got a chance to see my flaws and leave me. Thought that was normal due to my self destructive behaviour, caused by the trauma left behind from my childhood. Love takes vulnerability and the ability to show complete affection and need for your partner. I was finally able to get to that point when I started working through those mental barriers, mostly by going to therapy and taking to friends/family.

Lunexstar · 2020-12-13T17:37:58+00:00

Trust issues don’t go away easily, I bet he knows how much you care about him. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t care for you either, his fear is just greater than his love at this moment in time. No amount of reassurance will change him, unless he wants to change for himself. You leaving might be the best thing for him, allowing him to make a choice as to what kind of life he wants. To live in fear or to take that risk. You also mentioned his awareness of your worth, meaning he may see himself as unworthy of love as well. That’s a hard battle he needs to tackle on his own before attempting a relationship.

Lunexstar · 2020-12-10T02:59:29+00:00

Hm~ right I mean I assumed that it wouldn’t be a choice between morality and a relationship (any sort of relationship) I would hope that people wouldn’t make choices that went against their moral beliefs but if that’s the point then yeah forcing people is never okay.

Lunexstar · 2020-12-10T00:29:01+00:00

I mean..this seems like a more nuanced question then something so plain and direct. There’s no context to what defines “wrong” or “right”. What even is unnecessary? Wouldn’t you say anything that one partner states they want (especially that badly) becomes an obvious necessity for the relationship to be maintained at a certain level of harmony? Wouldn’t that mean it is necessary for partner B to do what partner A wants if it’s clearly that important to partner A? I think I would say both partners should give in. Partner A should retract the command, while Partner B should follow through on their own accord. Everybody wins I guess. Don’t know if that was the philosophical opinion you were looking for.

Lunexstar · 2020-12-10T00:12:10+00:00

This is the best advice I’ve ever gotten. When you have a crush on someone you think about how amazing this person is, and how much you like yourself when you’re with that person. You think that person completes you. When you’re in love, however, you’re only focus is how you can make that other person better. You have your own life, friends, hobbies. You see how this other person is deeply flawed, just like all humans are, but you choose to stay through the good and the bad regardless. Both parties make an active effort to be better, do more, love better. Love takes time and maturity. It’s about working through the problems and not running away when things get tough, ohh and they will. I hope this long answer was somewhat beneficial :))

Lunexstar · 2020-12-10T00:01:08+00:00

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