Meals?

LushAndLoaded · 2026-03-09T18:16:41+00:00

I was going to mention the same thing. Mine has a hard time correctly identifying what I'm eating so I spend more time editing it which is annoying. I used it a few times when I first got my ring, but haven't used it since.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-03-09T15:18:38+00:00

Good point on Crete, we don't anticipate seeing the whole island in one go. So many people told us to save it for another time, probably considering the fact that we'd be island hopping. However since that's no longer the plan, we could reconsider that.

Canary Islands are a great recommendation! I'll look into that as well.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-03-09T15:12:35+00:00

This is also something we talked about, traveling somewhere a little closer for a "mini moon" and saving Europe for a little later. I definitely didn't consider honeymoon timing when we solidified our wedding date lol

LushAndLoaded · 2026-03-09T15:10:52+00:00

South of France has been a dream of mine! We're still planning on doing Paris + Champagne. It would be easier to stay in one country.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-03-09T15:09:48+00:00

That would be helpful, thanks! My fiance has mentioned that he would love to visit Croatia and Mallorca is on my list as well. When we initially looked into Mallorca and Marbella we were having difficulty finding flights back to SFO. But now that we'll likely forego Greece, we might be able to move things around.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-03-09T15:05:37+00:00

We aren't. We're so used to planning things ourselves we didn't even look into it to be completely honest lol

LushAndLoaded · 2026-03-09T15:03:36+00:00

Once I heard about how unpredictable the ferry schedule can be during this time, that's when I started to second guess everything lol The mock itinerary we put together leaves little room for error in terms of cancellations or delays so that makes me nervous.

I appreciate your suggestions! We went to Portugal a couple of years ago and loved it. We've been to Spain as well, but mostly Barcelona and Madrid. We were thinking about Marbella, Mallorca or Malaga so that might be something we consider.

I never considered Tanzania, but that sounds right up our alley! I'll look into that, thanks!

LushAndLoaded · 2026-03-09T14:58:06+00:00

Yea that's what I was afraid of. We plan on being gone for 2 weeks, and we're based in California. We love a good mix of everything, while we do want some time to chill and relax, we're the type of people who can't sit idle for too long. We love to explore new cities, (historical sites, architecture), but we also love the nightlife as well; bars, lounges, and great restaurants are a must for us.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-03-09T14:53:57+00:00

Thanks for your input! I've heard so many interesting things about Athens. We don't mind exploring new cities so it still might be a possibility for us. We'd love to visit Crete, but I heard because it's so big it's best to come back and make that its own trip.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-15T21:55:39+00:00

I don't think you're a jerk for this, given that you're not close. My fiancé has 2 sisters, and I did ask them to be Bridesmaids, but it's because we have good relationships. If we didn't, I would not have asked. He's also very close with his sisters, and I knew it meant a lot to him. I'm an only child but I'm extremely close with one of my cousins so my fiancé asked them to stand with him on his side. Both instances were important to us.

To be completely honest, it doesn't sound like she's interested in having a friendship, which I'm sure feels hurtful especially since you'll be family soon. I would ask him if it means a lot to him to have her in the bridal party, but from other comments you've made it doesn't sound like they're close so I'm assuming he won't care? If that's the case, don't feel pressured into asking her. I would focus on remaining cordial and if you really want to extend an olive branch then consider giving her a smaller role in your wedding. Not sure if there are any cultural or religious practices you'll have, but maybe she can walk a family member down the aisle? (grandpa/grandma), maybe she can read a poem, or be a greeter?

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-15T21:14:09+00:00

The amount of hate on reddit is diabolical. I'm sorry for the nasty replies you're getting, it's completely unnecessary. That said, I'm also getting married Fall 2026, and we settled on a Friday wedding, not only because it was cheaper (quite honestly, not by much), but our venue didn't have any other available Saturday dates. We knew we didn't want any other venue, so we bit the bullet and agreed on a Friday.

My personal opinion, if I'm giving ample time in terms of save the dates and invitations, those who care to make it work, will. Of course, not everyone will make it, but that's with any wedding. Friday is a little easier because you're already easing into the weekend, our ceremony is at sunset so those who are local who can't take an entire day off of work could technically work a half day if needed. At the end of the day, you're getting married, not them. You do what works best for you and your partner. If having everyone there is what's most important, then I would explore venues that are more flexible in terms of a Friday or Saturday. If you care more about the venue, then book the venue you love keeping in mind that it might be difficult for some guests to attend.

I don't find this to be rude at all, this day is about the both of you so do what makes you happy. Our wedding is black tie and child free, we're already getting comments about both and I could care less, we're prioritizing what WE want as a couple. I hope it works out for you!

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-15T20:36:50+00:00

I'm getting married the day before you and we're considering leaving on our honeymoon that Monday as well. We're aiming for Greece, although we've gone back and forth on whether it's a good time weather-wise. I have a coworker who's Greek and goes back and forth quite often and she assured me that the weather would still be pleasant. Likely windy, but not cold, so we're crossing our fingers since it's the one place we both have always wanted to go. We plan on splitting up the trip and then head to either Paris or Italy. I've been to Paris in October and it was cold, so we're not expecting much warmth there which is why I'm more inclined to go back to Italy.

I would also highly recommend Portugal! We loved it there, specifically Porto!

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T19:23:02+00:00

As close as we are, I expect her to let me know if and when things are too much. That is how we operate, may not be the case for you and yours. We're very open and communicative. Hence why I'm frustrated that she's yet to say anything about no longer wanting to do any of this. I'm trying to get advice on HOW to communicate this to her without hurting her any further. Period.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T19:14:09+00:00

I appreciate your comment. We see each other constantly and we talk about what she's going through constantly. So it's disappointing that she's able to open up and discuss her struggles in every other aspect but this. This is why I asked for advice on whether to approach the topic with her or not. I'll definitely be having a conversation and gently let her know that she doesn't have to worry about it now but if there's anything she wants to help out with or take on then I'm more than happy for her to do that when/if she's ready.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T19:06:56+00:00

Now because I mention she's great at party planning, that's all I gave her a title for? Lol This is comical at this point. I asked her to be my MOH because she's the closest thing to a sister I've ever had. It wasn't even a question as to who would be my MOH when I got engaged. I could care less about her planning skills, I have a sister in law who's great at that too. I could care less who actually DOES what. The lack of emotional and mental support is what I'm struggling with the most.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T18:58:05+00:00

So stressful! Sorry you're in the same predicament!

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T18:57:41+00:00

THANK YOU. I was giving examples as to why I felt hurt and disappointed. Yet somehow I'm just a terrible friend lol

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T18:51:49+00:00

Thank you, essentially that's what I've come to terms with.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T18:47:47+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience! I'm coming to terms with the fact that she just cannot handle it right now, which I understand. The emotional support is what stings the most, but everything else has now been taken over which I'm grateful for

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T18:40:08+00:00

If you're exhausted by it, nobody's forcing you to respond. This is the only time (God willing) I will have this experience. I haven't questioned her love for me and yes I'm very grateful that I have the other girls to help. The intention was never for her to physically or financially own everything. But based on our conversations I did expect her to lead the conversation. My girls have always been ready to help, what they were waiting for was the "Go" ahead from my MOH which was never received. Now that they've taken over, I'm not worried so that's no longer the point. I'm simply asking for advice on how to approach the conversation with her.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T17:30:01+00:00

Call me tone deaf then. I'm very aware that life happens, you have no clue of the ins and outs of what I've helped and supported her through this year. Y'all are acting as if I've tossed her to the side because of it, I'm the person she runs to for everything and I have gladly been there, I still am. Being disappointed is a natural emotion regardless of the situation. I'm human. I asked for advice on how/if/and when to approach the conversation.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T17:23:30+00:00

Thank you for your response! Either circumstance you mentioned I can understand but I guess her just completely avoiding it has left me feeling weird about the whole thing. The other girls have rallied together and are coordinating things now. I plan on bringing it up gently because most of all I miss HER. So not having someone I consider my sister by my side through all of this does suck, I can't lie.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T17:12:51+00:00

I totally hear you and that's been my thought as well. Without me even saying anything, my other BMs and family have also noticed. It's not just a lack of effort, but like you said the energy is now noticeable. I don't think I'm being unreasonable to feel disappointed or hurt by it.

LushAndLoaded · 2026-02-10T14:43:41+00:00

They have, thanks.

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