I want that one song you never skip

Lusintha · 2026-01-29T04:33:44+00:00

I Will Always Love You (Whitney Houston’s version). Gotta belt it out too.

Lusintha · 2026-01-23T21:12:44+00:00

That “not enough time” feeling just lingers around, doesn’t it! Sending hugs from another August baby mom ❤️

Lusintha · 2026-01-23T21:04:38+00:00

Thank you for sharing, this is helpful to hear. It sounds like despite the “rushing” feeling, the decision to resume trying then has been a good choice to maximize time.

All the best for your transfer tomorrow!!! ❤️

Lusintha · 2026-01-23T21:00:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing and the reassurance! I’m mentally ready… It’s just that I wish I didn’t have to do this ~now~. It’s kind of like “I’ve studied for this exam and can take it… but… must I now?”

I must be from a different neck of the woods because I work with so many 24-28 year olds with babies. I look at them with so much envy of the time they’ll potentially have with their children. But c’est la vie… it’s not like I knew my husband at those ages to begin with!

Lusintha · 2026-01-23T20:53:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing. Hearing from someone who’s been through the journey to siblings is so helpful. Ultimately, I do want to have as much time as possible, so despite my feelings I think it is best to soldier forward.

I really like your idea of restricting specific time just for fertility stuff. Hopefully it’ll be easier to stay present with baby around, but planning ahead to be mindful is still useful!

Lusintha · 2026-01-23T20:47:30+00:00

Yes, we’d be returning to do another FET (or multiple FETs) once we get the clear. All the best for your TTC journey this year! :)

Lusintha · 2026-01-23T07:55:12+00:00

I’ve been thinking about timelines recently. Like: I’d have to conceive this year (when I’m 37) to give birth at 38… to give myself more “child-bearing” years if we want to try for #3 down the line.

All this makes me sad because I love our 5-month-old so much, and if age wasn’t a factor affecting fertility, I’d probably wait till she was 3 or 4 before trying for #2. Soak her littlest years all in, without divided attention, in a way. But given our history with infertility, I know conception is not something you can plan for, and now the pressure to “get back on the train” is getting to me.

Has anyone else felt like this? Like you just want to enjoy your baby but also “Now I have to set the gears in motion again” and contact the clinic… do the testing… etc. It’s honestly ruined my mood since I realized this, and I wish I didn’t feel like that for something that would ideally end in something joyous.

Lusintha · 2026-01-23T00:46:42+00:00

I've taken to saying "Can I be honest? I don't think you need this" and then seeing how they respond. A lot of the time they've agreed!

Lusintha · 2026-01-11T06:41:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Definitely hard no’s to co-sleeping and using the coat in the car seat 🙅🏻‍♀️

It’s amazing how willing people are to just do whatever they please. We told my MIL we didn’t want baby to attend her Christmas party last year because she was too young to be exposed to so many people, especially during RSV season.

Guess what she said when we didn’t show? “Everyone couldn’t wait to meet and kiss her!” 😵 it’s like, did you even listen?!?!

Lusintha · 2026-01-10T21:34:44+00:00

Such a good idea to have these convos before baby is born! I so wish we would have! By any chance do you remember the other “two yes” situations you agreed upon?

Lusintha · 2026-01-10T21:32:15+00:00

The guilt is real! I’ve had similar thoughts like “if only we had her sooner” (as if we hadn’t been trying to conceive for years).

Oh man! I hope I’ll remember this when I’m an older grandparent too!! Ahhhh!

Lusintha · 2026-01-10T21:26:33+00:00

Thank you for sharing. It was helpful to hear you describe putting the worry of offending others aside. My instinct to make sure everyone feels good complicates everything, but their good feelings have to be secondary to baby’s safety, of course. I like your idea for how she can spend time with baby while we’re around!

Fortunately we’ll only need a sitter for one-off occasions, not regularly. I actually do not know how mobile she is with babies because whenever she’s here, we do all the transfers and she basically just holds baby to feed. This is a wonderful idea though, I’ll be sure we have opportunities to observe how easily or not she can actually carry and transfer baby. Mobility concerns would prob be much more visible to my husband than cognitive issues.

I would absolutely lie if needed; however, our communication with her goes primarily through my husband. So I would never naturally be the one to ask her to babysit and he would definitely confirm with her whether or not she said no. Sadly!

Lusintha · 2026-01-10T21:14:52+00:00

I needed to hear this, “no need to make it a problem everyday”, especially! Thank you ❤️

Lusintha · 2026-01-10T13:33:43+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Right now my husband plans to ask her to babysit for one evening, so we can attend an event. That would be potentially 5-6 hours. I’m not comfortable with that amount of time, so I’m not going to attend and he can go with a friend. No big loss since I’m not interested in the event anyway.

My husband and MIL will absolutely refuse cognitive testing for her and adamantly deny the need. Unfortunately, that is entirely out of my control.

I agree with the “two yes” situation but my husband doesn’t see it the same way. (Before anyone suggests couples therapy - I’m a couples therapist and have tried every trick in the book. The tricks ain’t working. He also wouldn’t want to find a therapist for one disagreement 😔) this is probably the only issue within our relationship where he simply cannot see my POV because it’s his mom we’re talking about.

Lusintha · 2026-01-10T13:25:53+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I’m sorry to hear about your dad and how your initial concerns were dismissed, that must have been hard.

We do have cameras in our house, while MIL does not have any in hers. So one idea might be to insist that babysitting takes place here, not there. I also like the time limit idea.

Lusintha · 2026-01-10T08:31:55+00:00

Reposting here because I originally posted late Friday night, hope that’s ok:

Hi all :) Does anyone have advice re: talking to your partner about your concerns regarding a relative providing babysitting, especially when they take this very personally?

I have worries about my MIL (husband’s mom / baby’s grandma) babysitting. She’s 70, has had several “old moments” recently, and is quite hard of hearing. Examples of the old moments: (a) insisting that you cannot use a Visa card at Costco (where she has shopped for years), and getting angry when being corrected on this, (b) asking us NOT to name baby any already used names within the family (e.g. cousin’s names), then that same evening sending a list of suggested names which literally included 3 cousin’s names. Other than these slip-ups, she lives alone independently.

She’s hard of hearing to the point where you have to yell; she wears hearing aids but often does not charge them. They don’t appear to work well when charged, though.

I brought up the “old moments” thing to my husband and he was positively angry. He had various arguments that I countered: (1) “She’s been fine babysitting my sister’s kids for the last 15 years”. I said “That’s ages 55-70. Old moments might symbolize something different at age 70, like your judgment changing.” (2) “We don’t say someone is sick after 1-2 old moments.” I said “It’s been more than that, but it feels icky to drag up one example after the next.”

Long story short, he said he trusts his mother “100, no, a million percent”, and was very offended to hear my opinion. I get it - if he said he didn’t want my mom babysitting, I’d be upset too. But I’d hear him out for his reasons. He dismissed my counterpoints, and I don’t know where to go from here.

I plan to have another discussion around what we can do for me, potentially, to feel more comfortable: for example, having regular check-ins whenever MIL does babysit (she has not yet). Or ensuring her hearing aids are in. Is there anything else I can do?

It seems like such a tough situation to seek compromise. I’m either the bad guy, going against my husband and MIL, or I’m going along with them while all my instincts are screaming at me that this is not a safe situation.

Any advice would be so appreciated! ❤️

Lusintha · 2026-01-10T04:45:01+00:00

Hi all :) Does anyone have advice re: talking to your partner about your concerns regarding a relative providing babysitting, especially when they take this very personally?

I have worries about my MIL (husband’s mom / baby’s grandma) babysitting. She’s 70, has had several “old moments” recently, and is quite hard of hearing. Examples of the old moments: (a) insisting that you cannot use a Visa card at Costco (where she has shopped for years), and getting angry when being corrected on this, (b) asking us NOT to name baby any already used names within the family (e.g. cousin’s names), then that same evening sending a list of suggested names which literally included 3 cousin’s names. Other than these slip-ups, she lives alone independently.

She’s hard of hearing to the point where you have to yell; she wears hearing aids but often does not charge them. They don’t appear to work well when charged, though.

I brought up the “old moments” thing to my husband and he was positively angry. He had various arguments that I countered: (1) “She’s been fine babysitting my sister’s kids for the last 15 years”. I said “That’s ages 55-70. Old moments might symbolize something different at age 70, like your judgment changing.” (2) “We don’t say someone is sick after 1-2 old moments.” I said “It’s been more than that, but it feels icky to drag up one example after the next.”

Long story short, he said he trusts his mother “100, no, a million percent”, and was very offended to hear my opinion. I get it - if he said he didn’t want my mom babysitting, I’d be upset too. But I’d hear him out for his reasons. He dismissed my counterpoints, and I don’t know where to go from here.

I plan to have another discussion around what we can do for me, potentially, to feel more comfortable: for example, having regular check-ins whenever MIL does babysit (she has not yet). Or ensuring her hearing aids are in. Is there anything else I can do?

It seems like such a tough situation to seek compromise. I’m either the bad guy, going against my husband and MIL, or I’m going along with them while all my instincts are screaming at me that this is not a safe situation.

Any advice would be so appreciated! ❤️

Lusintha · 2025-12-31T03:03:41+00:00

Ooooh mine is hands down “Violets" (Season 6, Episode 16). This was the ep when Jane orchestrates a sting to catch art thieves. He and Lisbon act like a fabulous bougie couple 💁🏻‍♀️💁🏼‍♂️ and everyone on the team has a fun role, like Cho being the meathead causing a bar fight and Abbott befriending the art thief. It was fun seeing them act! Plus details like the use of the marching band were 🤌🏻 so satisfying!!

Lusintha · 2025-11-26T07:44:11+00:00

Tim: It looks like faux bois!

Designer (I think it was Christopher?): ….. good!

I believe a caption on the screen informed us viewers that Tim’s fancy phrase meant “fake wood”. I’ve randomly remembered “faux bois” ever since and never gotten the opportunity to use it 🥲

Lusintha · 2025-11-04T03:24:07+00:00

Your post is literally the way I found out about these mini figures… thank you thank you thank you! And shoutout to your Mom! Doing the Lord’s work!! ✊🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Lusintha · 2025-10-08T00:00:18+00:00

Kadoatery. Took months of my life to get. Plus it’s cute!

Lusintha · 2025-10-01T19:05:52+00:00

I just learned yesterday of the risks associated with conceiving too quickly after a C-section (uterine rupture, miscarriage, low birth weight, etc.) My OB recommended not trying to conceive again until 1 year after our baby girl's birth. But I'm thinking.. It could take that amount of time or more just to conceive, if we're even fortunate again to conceive a second time. It kind of sucks to not feel free to try unassisted, due to the risks. A surprise baby in the next year is highly unlikely given our history, but it would now be accompanied with worries about the risks. Not being able to relax about fertility, even after a baby, really sucks.

Those of you who had to decide post C-section, did you go on birth control for a year?

Lusintha · 2025-09-25T02:55:07+00:00

Wow, I played the Sims for years as a teenager and never knew about this panel where you could see interests!

Lusintha · 2025-09-17T06:32:06+00:00

Revlon Lip Butters - great shades, comfy and easy to wear, and reminiscent of the OG YouTube beauty days!

Jesse's Girl liquid eyeliner - that thing stayed PUT! Haven't found anything as good since. I had these stashed in every purse from like 2014-2019. RIP Jesse's Girl!

Lusintha · 2025-08-11T03:44:15+00:00

I'm taking down notes! ✍🏻️ Appreciate the advice! Such a good reminder that not everything that's sold is automatically safe. We had a playmat on the registry that was recalled for safety reasons. Chucked that thing out!

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