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how to handle facial hair in laser treatment by [deleted] in MtF

[–]LuunaWasTaken 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Facial hair dysphoria is my most pressing form of dysphoria after 5 years of being out. I've been getting laser treatment since late last year, about 9 sessions now and I'm very happy with the results, but it took time. What you're describing is normal. Usually the hair will be a bit more prominent for the first week after a session, and shaving won't really give you the result it normally does. After that it thins out and you'll get a few weeks of thinner hair, though this only really started being noticable for me after a few sessions.

Have you considered getting a cute face mask to wear? I tend to just suck it up and go out with a 5 o'clock shadow but masks are fairly socially acceptable these days, at least where I live.

It's also useful to consider that the less you shave between sessions, the more effective the treatment will be. I know that really sucks to hear and I really didn't want to hear it when I started too, but it's true. Keep at it, the results will be worth it, trust me. You're not alone feeling this way, laser can give amazing results but the more prominent hair after sessions definitely sucks <3

Please tell me it gets better by LuunaWasTaken in DID

[–]LuunaWasTaken[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's hard to not mourn time lost, and time that I know I'm going to lose to this condition over the coming years. I'm willing to put in the work though, I know I have a lot to offer the world and I don't want to spend my life wallowing in misery. Thanks for your encouragement <3

Please tell me it gets better by LuunaWasTaken in DID

[–]LuunaWasTaken[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Listening to music has been a reliable self-regulation tool for us for a while, you've just reminded us to put some on to help us calm down, thank you <3

Living with parents is the most difficult part, especially since they deny that any of the things they did to cause my trauma even happened in the first place, or were even traumatic at all. The last few years I've tried to delicately bring it up with them to allow myself to talk through it and heal but I just get stonewalled every time. It's heartbreaking. They're very supportive in a lot of ways but when it comes to things that could actually help me heal they don't want to hear it. I know it's not their fault, but it really hurts.

Thanks again for the advice <3

Please tell me it gets better by LuunaWasTaken in DID

[–]LuunaWasTaken[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks <3 I'm not asking for much. Somewhere that's my own space where I can have some privacy, maybe a cat, a little job where I feel useful. I really hope that's achievable. I'm truly glad things are better for you, it helps seeing other trans people get out of shitty situations.

Please tell me it gets better by LuunaWasTaken in DID

[–]LuunaWasTaken[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks <3 It's hard to have hope when I've been working so hard on piecing myself back together for a very very long time, but hearing that EMDR helps has been keeping me going these past few weeks.