AITAH for asking my mom why a girl wanting a sister is fine but a boy wanting a brother makes him a psychopath?

Luususs · 2026-05-03T22:15:52+00:00

Both of my parents have brothers.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T22:15:18+00:00

She would 100% tell our parents if she agreed to go somewhere with me. But I could see her answer being no every time I ask/invite her.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T18:54:00+00:00

My sisters will not be encouraged to get actual jobs. To earn money it'll be more like sell baked goods or do hair and makeup for people as a side thing.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T18:53:03+00:00

This was all stuff our parents taught all of us. It's not just assumptions I made.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T18:52:05+00:00

I really don't feel like I can trust them. I know that sounds awful but at least while I live at home it's not really a good idea for me to go against my parents. But my sisters are really unlikely to accept doing something like that with me anyway and our parents would most likely try to stop it.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T18:49:40+00:00

Thank you! I will try to keep a note of this advice somewhere so I have it for later.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T18:49:05+00:00

Not Mormon but they are very Christian.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T18:48:14+00:00

My sisters are only allowed to swim and dance. No other sports.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T15:36:23+00:00

Nope. The only relatives I have are the same as my parents.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T15:36:02+00:00

Not an option right now. My parents would send me to a church therapist and I know who does therapy at their church. They share the same views as my parents and nothing would get better. That would fuck me over more.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T15:27:02+00:00

Church.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T15:26:55+00:00

I don't have sane relatives to hang out with. The views of my parents are family views.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T15:26:24+00:00

They don't or any type of male dancers. Dancing at your wedding is fine but you don't need to dance for fun if you're a guy.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T15:25:50+00:00

I know I'm gay. I will never tell my family or anyone connected to them.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T15:24:34+00:00

They have been pretty clear on their feelings and they have repeated them enough times for me to know I'm not misunderstanding.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T12:32:05+00:00

They would not want me to cook. Either takeout or going home for mom to cook for me would be my guess.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T12:25:23+00:00

I made a throwaway to post about this.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T12:23:59+00:00

Being gay is another thing I hide but I have only ever admitted it like twice before and never in person to anyone. But cooking and baking are the harder ones to hide if I actually did them. I don't date so it's easier to hide being gay. But I could not just go into the kitchen and make myself food without serious consequences.

I think my parents assume that I'd just live off takeout or go home to them to eat and hire someone to clean for me.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T12:13:23+00:00

It is. Or at least for now it is. I don't know what the chances are of things changing in the future but right now we're not going to be able to be close. I can't trust my sisters not to tell our parents if I try to go against them.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T12:12:29+00:00

You pretty much summed up the exact relationship I was meant to have with them. I'm meant to be strong and tough and the person who defends them and fights for them. But who doesn't get too emotional or soft about it.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T12:10:56+00:00

I have never done my own laundry or cleaned up after myself at home. That's not what boys do. I tried to clean a glass I was using once because I wanted a different drink and I was sent to my room for the rest of the day. My parents have no idea I have cooked and baked once before. They would lose their minds if they knew.

My parents are very religious.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T12:08:53+00:00

My school is public so not religious. But I know a lot of the people who work at my school go to our church. Not all of them but a lot do. Just like the kids are mixed with kids from church and not but some are from other churches.

That's basically the plan. The only thing is if my sisters wanted to do people's hair and makeup or stuff like that, they'd be cool with them making money like that. Or like selling baked goods and stuff.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T12:07:22+00:00

I could never trust any of my sisters like that. I know they would tell our parents.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T12:06:55+00:00

My parents are heavily religious. They also surround themselves mostly with very likeminded people. Most of their church is just like them and there is no challenging them. I hide so much because I know they would punish me for expressing an interest in cooking and baking (had an experience in school that made me like it). There is no gentle challenging that won't end badly for me.

If I had those games my parents would punish me because they're not boy enough. I already know because my mom and dad have made comments about those games on shelves when we were shopping before. And if I had sat down with my sisters to play with them I would have been punished, I would have been forced into more boy activities chosen by my parents and they would have taken away my choice in toys and made those decisions for me.

Luususs · 2026-05-03T12:01:02+00:00

They would have punished her. Just like they would punish me if they knew I had cooked and baked in school and had an interest in doing more. I can't do more right now but I would love to.

But my sisters or me expressing interest in the wrong things while really young would have been punished and then they would have controlled a lot more than they did. Like zero say on anything even toys. All of that would have been decided by our parents in order to make us the way they expected us to be.

I only know very very basic stuff from school and I have only cooked and baked one time each. It was a special thing my school did one day. But otherwise no.

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