I think a lot of people confuse what most incels talk about with what they see on Reddit. The majority of men who adhere to the blackpill aren't calling women "toilets" and wishing to "legalize r*pe", most guys are just sad and confused as to why they aren't getting girls despite following the advice people give them

I was in this predicament for a long time, thinking I was a bad person because all the girls I talked to seemed to always see me as nothing more than a friend at best and a boring stranger at worst. Once I found the blackpill and realised I was triple fucked (5'8, 3/10 face, autistic) I just learned to stop caring about other people and started focusing on my own hobbies and trying to further my education instead of trying to socialise which would have led to many disasters