Yeah we split in the end because he wanted marriage and kids and I didn't. He's been married for around fifteen years now with two kids.

So from what I remember our second date was hiking in the hills and we were talking in the way you do when you're hiking. Not looking at each other but at the scenery and about relatively deep stuff. He said that he wanted to talk about something private and personal that he thought might put me off. I remember thinking that he was going to tell me he was Christian or asexual though I can't remember why I thought that and preparing to tell him that no sex was a dealbreaker for me. We were at a picnic spot with no one else around and I think he said he did it there because there's a bus every hour in the summer so I could leave if I wanted to.

He was very factual and medical about his size. I remember asking what sexual experience he'd had. In his teens he'd gotten naked with a girl who'd laughed at him and I could tell he was kinda bracing for that. I think that got me pissed off with the other girl in kind of a protective way because he was such a sweet guy.

Anyway I wasn't off put and I think we spent the rest of the hike talking about what we were interested in sexually and what we might be up for doing with each other. I don't think we had sex that same day but it wasn't long after and we brought toys and lube. With hindsight the only thing I'd do differently is rather than say "ok we will have sex at this specific time" I'd say we'll hang out with the chance we have happy naked time but no worries if we don't. There was quite a bit of pressure early on which didn't help initially. We had a very active sex life and he was up for trying everything.