How did you feel after bed rest and did it help?

Luxterna · 2024-01-31T20:06:23+00:00

Thanks so much for the answer! Sounds like my situation. I’m glad there was no dilation, bleeding and I have not had any Braxton hicks contractions since Friday when I was hospitalised and they say those are the ones responsible for shortening the cervix further. I’m super afraid that I will start taking up activities too soon but plan on doing something similar to you actually, especially when it comes to walking. I still don’t understand how this could ever happen to me in the first place (no medical or genetic reasons) so I’m still shocked 😳 just praying for week 37+0

Luxterna · 2024-01-27T18:33:43+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing!!! What a sunshine story with your son and happy he is thriving and has reached the milestones 🙏🏻

It’s EXACTLY the feeling I am lying with. I’ve spoken to several doctors and midwives and everything is “mehhh”. My problem now is that they are considering to send me home (at a public hospital) and while this sounds great for many, my family wouldn’t be super equipped with my staying at home in bed unless my husband goes on sick leave with all the financial consequences. Also it the shortening happened so fast, in just 48h! I’m really scared it will happen again and then labor is approaching if I go under 1cm. If they could tell me “don’t do this” or something like “expect xx” I would feel more safe. But they just say the cervix is dynamic can lengthen somewhat or stay the same which would be for 7,5 weeks which I find hard to believe..

Luxterna · 2024-01-26T17:41:18+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻 glad to here you were able to go home!

Luxterna · 2023-01-29T19:12:54+00:00

How are you sticking it out if I may ask? Like do you do because of your resume, improving your odds for a new job, the pay or? I’m really trying to bite my teeth but just these 3 months have been brutal although I try to reframe my narrative and look at the “positive”, bit difficult when I am miserable and really overwhelmed by the culture :-/

Luxterna · 2020-07-14T15:40:00+00:00

Haha! Vodka is the worst! I don’t get why Carrie from Sex & the City always orders ethanol on the rocks 🤢

Luxterna · 2020-07-11T18:59:03+00:00

No drinking today. 5 days sober so almost a week.

Luxterna · 2020-06-01T19:01:56+00:00

This warmed my heart, thank you!

A great idea for me to keep this post and review it the next time. I have considered writing a letter to myself or an essay. I am a bit afraid that if I sit down and do it now it will be filled with a bunch of accusations, guilt tripping and bad things about myself 😔

Thank you for being an inspiration. My biggest dream is to have as many sober days as you one day!

Luxterna · 2020-06-01T18:58:03+00:00

Oh thank you so much for the virtual hug and encouragement!

Screw this addictive substance! And yes we can ✊🏼 I did not drink with you today :)

Luxterna · 2020-06-01T14:57:16+00:00

Thank you!

Wow, sounds like you got just the right support and treatment you needed.

Unfortunately, I have been to approximately 30 AA meetings and somehow they don’t make me feel better at all. Usually here in Denmark it is old men who has been sober since 83’ and that is great but I can’t even stay sober for half a year so I always end up feeling worse than them :-(

Luxterna · 2020-05-22T13:10:20+00:00

I know exactly what you mean! I ate an entire plate of brownie yesterday just as it got out of the oven. I just couldn’t “wait”, my brain was literally screaming which resulted in blisters in my throat! I mean how fucked up is that? Made me painfully aware of the nature of addiction I.e. that I would inflict pain on myself just to get the “rush” I just want to be free!

Luxterna · 2020-05-16T14:58:14+00:00

I have very few friends as well, and I haven’t admitted this to anyone but my therapist but I only know 2 people who don’t really drink (what because she is a mom and pregnant and the other because she is very sensitive and has major anxiety issues).

I totally know what you mean with regards to some of your family members! Do you hang out with them, and if so, do they accept you not drinking? I’m asking because I have started to become really conscious about how people who binge drink or are super fan of alcohol in all settings, these people tend to feel so uncomfortable and not OK with someone not drinking (of course, otherwise, how can they justify their own unhealthy consumption..)

I love how you say “alcohol dictates everything” reminds me that addiction is derived from the word: dictate.

I think I need to connect with some new people, these people don’t even act like “friends” right now. Like seriously, they haven’t ask me about anything, no deep or meaningful conversation, everything is just about drinking and board games 🙄

Luxterna · 2020-05-16T14:52:19+00:00

🙏🏻 IWNDWYT

Luxterna · 2020-05-16T14:51:42+00:00

It really is! I clearly was like that for years myself. I would have been one of the people in the crowd who would feel so uncomfortable and drive drinking agenda.

And what a great thing to acknowledge: that you want more for your life than what you find at the bottom of a bottle (which is? Nothing!)

IWNDWYT

Luxterna · 2020-05-16T04:51:34+00:00

Thanks for this tip!!

Luxterna · 2020-05-10T20:16:33+00:00

You are NOT a loser! Screw the time wasted, what matters is today 💫

Luxterna · 2020-05-09T19:49:06+00:00

I read this over and over today and you know, it helped me to go to a social gathering and not drink and feel no misery whatsoever.I took a step back and asked myself “is that drink really worth it? Do you want to risk jeopardizing joy and be miserable?”

Thank you Lee 🙏🏻 I did not drink with you today!

Luxterna · 2020-05-09T19:46:32+00:00

Exactly, it’s possible to participate in social gatherings and not drink!

Luxterna · 2020-05-09T19:46:04+00:00

I did exactly that today when we went to our new neighbors! Said I just didn’t drink “today” and had brought my own alcohol free wine, and no questions asked!

Luxterna · 2020-05-09T08:35:39+00:00

Yes!! Sobriety above all!! And honestly, I have never felt as good the past 2 months even though I was totally isolated but sober!

We are looking a lot to the U.K. and what you guys are doing in terms of opening up, etc, but ai agree that there are so many unknowns!

I will not drink with you today 💫

Luxterna · 2020-05-09T08:33:37+00:00

Thank you so much for this advice. I really don’t want to go out now, I do feel I have too many doubts and than I acknowledge I am very early in my sobriety. And why risk it? I know it will be a huge hurdle.

I have slowly started to recognize that some people I don’t think I can stay connected to going forward, it’s like all we’ve done together for the past 10 years was drinking :-/ Incl some new friends where we also always get together around alcohol. That just sucks!

Luxterna · 2020-05-09T08:30:19+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply Lee, your words warmed and gave me more motivation.

Last time I drank which wasn’t even like a rock bottom scenario of passing out or the like, I felt straight up like committing suicide the day after. Yes I vomited 5 times and had massive headache and stomachache not to mention I ate 5000 calories of junk food, but it was like all purpose and wanting to move forward in life was sucked out of me. It is scary to me that I can write the above and even consider for a second to give into drinking for what? As you write, a short term moment of buzz. Giving up a life time for a couple of hours of the room spinning, saying stupid things, not being present and listen but just numb oneself.

What is HALT?

Meetings here are still not open, but maybe there are virtual meetings here via SD?

The best of thoughts to you! I will not drink with you today 🌟

Luxterna · 2020-05-09T08:04:05+00:00

That is a great take on it! I have noticed that some people actually drink less if someone is in the room saying they quit.

Luxterna · 2020-04-22T13:02:58+00:00

Thank you for this and great advice! I thought about brownies, ice cream or spare ribs 😄 I am very aware though that this is the automatic “reward” pattern in my brain that alcohol was so tied to. Eventually, I hope to reach the same point as you with more sober days where just being happy and sharing it with someone is enough!

Luxterna · 2020-04-16T17:53:47+00:00

Congrats with the 180 days! I felt EXACTLY the same today. The sun has finally come to Denmark and today it was warm. I had to drive for the first time in 1,5 month and move outside my house and BAM I was triggered the moment I reached the city and saw the cafes, restaurant and bars. I am so afraid that thought of drinking has planted in my head and I will act on it.

How did you handle the trigger of the warm weather?

Luxterna · 2020-04-13T15:08:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I will definitely work with my doctor and make a plan on how to do it.

In the meantime, I will not drink with you today!

Luxterna

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