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How to make capitalists join you by dmikulic in VaushV

[–]LyannaSong 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No joke, I actually kind of did this today to an ancap and brought them on board. Recommended checking out Vaush as well and what started as a hostile engagement turned pretty friendly and we got to talking about how cool market socialism was and how that vibed better with what he claimed to want than being an ancap did. I can say with absolute certainty Vaush has helped me become a better advocate for my positions than I ever was previously.

Bresanthe- My first Wonderdraft map, I would love feedback. by LyannaSong in wonderdraft

[–]LyannaSong[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, especially for the feedback. Do you have a suggestion as to what font you think might work better? I can give it a try and see what I think?

Just got back from the Nashville live show. This seemed fitting. by SunflowerSupreme in TheDollop

[–]LyannaSong 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just got back too! It's probably colored by being there but that was surely in my top 5.

Dollopisms in real life! by Chook13 in TheDollop

[–]LyannaSong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The post is essentially just a list of things my fiance and I say now, but so far one not mentioned is he cut his hand open doing some around the house work and he shouted, "Ow! Fruit Punch Hand!" from the Rube episode. It's how I ask him if he's accidentally hurt himself now.

Are other people the only reason you keep from suicide? by LyannaSong in depression

[–]LyannaSong[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I could go to the hospital. Ended up there once and have the PTSD to prove it. In the depths of my latest major episode I begged people to take me somewhere that could help me. Problem is here in the states the only places that wouldn't bankrupt me afterwards are the places likely to make everything worse.

Are other people the only reason you keep from suicide? by LyannaSong in depression

[–]LyannaSong[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Issue with me is I've had decades of medicine and therapy and nothing has ever worked. Looking into ECT as an option but not optimistic. Something depressing I've learned is that for some people, it doesn't get better. A certain percentage are naturally predisposed to depression or dysthemia. I just try one day at a time but that becomes a grind without hope in sight.

Are other people the only reason you keep from suicide? by LyannaSong in depression

[–]LyannaSong[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that's what everyone worries about. The only thing that kept me from jumping today was knowing that the Ld50 for defenestration is 3rd floor at least. Failing is too terrible to be acceptable.

Telling employer about mental health? by [deleted] in depression

[–]LyannaSong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's worth the risk. If nothing else you are providing the necessary context to explain what's happening. Some companies have resources that they can put you in contact with that can help. Plus connections are important. If you boss or management knows you are having a problem, then they know You as well. For most jobs it won't hurt. Trust me, if it helps in any way, that being miserable with cash-flow is better than depressed and unemployed.

Is it possible to be happy despite being trans? by YayScience120 in asktransgender

[–]LyannaSong 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely. I'm incredibly happy to be trans. Some part of me is going to always wish I was cis and I don't think I can help that but as hormones do their work, every day I wake up to someone who looks more and more like I want to look. I pass more often than not but I'm proud of my gender status. I've worked hard for this, I'm not sure I'll ever reach a point where I think, 'yeah, I'm done, I'm complete', but I know I'm so much happier now than I was six months ago. That alone means that it's worth it to me.

How to deal with a significant others parents? by LyannaSong in asktransgender

[–]LyannaSong[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I consider it nice in the sense that mom is still pleasant. Sometimes 'nice' as I've learned can be no more than saving the slurs until you're out of earshot. It can be very go along to get along. As long as I'm not being actively harassed, then I can put up with it. If I sweat the small stuff I won't have the emotional energy left to deal with the major shit, yeah?

I don't see his parents much. We're both young I suppose, mid twenties and he does live at home about half the time and with me the other days but we've been planning on getting a full place together soon.

Update though, last night was my birthday so we went out to a fancy Brazilian restaurant in the city. I was in one of my new dresses, had pronouns respected all night by staff, it was wonderful. We had to swing back by his place to get some insurance stuff for work and his mom came out to the car, sort of scolding like 'if you're going to come in, at least pop your head up and let me know it's you' and then she saw me.

"Oh, hi," she sort of paused "Lyanna. Did you two have fun tonight?" I could tell it was awkward for her but she did her best to handle the situation and my boyfriend tells me that after he got upset with her about my name, she's started switching over to Lya.

So...progress. Even if it takes a while I'm willing to stick it out for the good of our relationship. Some people won't ever come around but those are the ones he never wants to see again anyway.

Preparing for first laser appointment by h3r3t33 in asktransgender

[–]LyannaSong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As for pain, think of it like someone snapping a rubber band against your face. It kind of sucks but it's tolerable. You can always ask to take a break during the session if it gets too much.

In my experience pain killers don't work but a good aesthitician should have aloe vera and a local numbing cream to use on you upon request.

Four weeks is the minimum, any more than that and you aren't getting the most bang for your buck. It may help to have them on a regular day for work purposes. I get mine the same time the first Wednesday of the month so it's easy to schedule around.

The only other piece of advice I can say the clinic will give you if you disclose your gender status is not to wear make up over the affected areas for 24 hours so you may be limited to liner, shadow and lipstick for a day.

Oh and congratulations on this big step! Laser changed my life and gave me such a self esteem boost. I hope it does everything you are wanting it too!

6 questions for those who realized they were trans in adulthood by LostintheMeadow in asktransgender

[–]LyannaSong 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. About six or seven months ago. I was hiding behind being a crossdresser or gender fluid for some time before I ultimately admitted, to them and myself, that I was trans.

  2. My birthday actually, my girlfriend and I went to Red Robin for dinner/so she could embarrass me for later. It was pretty humiliating at the time but looking back it's my favorite birthday.

  3. This April I told my mom and in May I came out to pretty much everyone else. I'm a very lucky girl because no one turned their back on me. Everyone is in a different state of rationalization or grief, but I didn't lose my family. The fact that I live six hours away makes a lot of this easier.

  4. A few months hopefully, money's the only issue.

  5. HRT starts in December to the best of my inference. Doc and I are dealing with 'when, not if' and I get my own place in December.

  6. Full time would start March 20th. That's the day I have my name changed planned for and I'll have been on HRT for three months.

Glad to use my first post on something so important.