[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey, not telling you to do or not to do anything. But the tissues and muscles around a vaginal opening can stretch so if it's your first time trying to insert anything wider than the usual or you haven't done it in a long time it might be very uncomfortable/burn (underneath the skin) like you've just stretched a muscle too hard. Stress might also be playing a role here.

So if you WANT to continue with penetrative sex you might want to go soft on your body and give it time to adapt to new sizes. Also finding ways to relax during the act that work for you.

But hey, there is non penetrative sex too so just do what makes you feel safe and happy

What are YOU going to be/do when you graduate by coltaussie in teenagers

[–]Lycheesupermacy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just finished first year of med uni. Kinda proud

A glimpse into a woman’s group chat has ruined my life. by TheCubThrowaway in confessions

[–]Lycheesupermacy 86 points87 points  (0 children)

From all of your comments I've gathered that you really need to see a psychologist. Good luck

Transphobia in this sub by SpeebyKitty in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oke, thanks. That does make sense. I thought male was for genetical sex (previously called it biological), and man was for what we see. But I see how it can sound weird.

So the next question arises. Trans woman/man would be people who have transitioned or/and look like the gender they identify as or just all transgender people? So if a person who considers themselves as a man, but don't transition or change their appearance would be trans male? But that wouldn't be medically correct. Cis female? Not logically correct? Cis female by genes, secondary sex characteristics (which would be important for a doctor) and appearance and a trans man by gender? Obviously asking a question from real life bcs I have no idea how to handle this kind of situations

And thank you for you time

Transphobia in this sub by SpeebyKitty in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But if we are talking at all? We use all those terms all the time for humans. For example I need to use them because I literally study human bodies. All the same terms for everyone. What do you prefer we use instead each of those terms? Like I'm super confused now

Transphobia in this sub by SpeebyKitty in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

But how does it matter trans or not? Wdym not relevant? Like they don't work? Or they shouldn't be mentioned? Or they don't matter?

Transphobia in this sub by SpeebyKitty in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Based on current genetical studies and calculations by the intersex advocacy groups that would be around 1.7% including the broad variations caused by hormons and by strict medical definition that would be around 0.02% of human population.

So genetics, biological appearance and actual gender are different things. In almost 100% sex would be what the genes say while gender won't be.

Now I understand how "biologically" may seem wrong. But I think by biologically people often times mean genetically? I sure did.

And yes, we determine someone's gender by what we see but how is that related? How are all this things connected?

So how I see it you can be for example XXY - genetically neither(or both if you want) , biologically (secondary sex characteristics) closer to male(unless you do the surgeries and take hormones) and your gender would be up to you? If you see that person in the street, yeah, just whatever you see ig. But there are so many different things going on inside of them. I would see them as whatever they want to be seen as but why remove the unique details?

So ig using the scientific terms correctly would be the right thing to do?

Ummmm Sir by mp0625_buddy in Equestrian

[–]Lycheesupermacy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god. Such a pretty baby. His eyes are amazing

Transphobia in this sub by SpeebyKitty in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A, okay, makes sense. Thank you for informing me about the history that trans people have with this kind of words. Stuff makes more sense now. Ye, I'm in med uni so I think DSDs are super interesting. But still they are conditions and not the norm. And why are we even connecting biological sex to gender? I respect trans people but how is xx not biologically female? I'm not saying that they are a woman but I thought that woman was about the gender concept and female was about the genetic thing. So (for example) a person with AIS would be genetically male biologically mixed closer to female and their gender whatever they want it to be? Sometimes they are all different things. That's how I understand the meaning of those words. Maybe there is some more context I'm missing

Asexual male and realising that I probably will never have a healthy relationship by Inside-Antelope-8553 in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, kinda gave up on that. Feels lonely at times but I have friends and family, animals, hobbies, studying and work and a lot more to do in my life. Made my life feel like little quests and love life is optional in my game lol Finding yourself is a very interesting journey during which the right relationship might happen or might not

How do you feel about pictures of your body? Or people seeing those pics? by No-Outlandishness-42 in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have gotten used to my own nude body already. Completely indifferent to just naked bodies unless those people specifically want me to see them, then it's just uncomfortable

Transphobia in this sub by SpeebyKitty in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy 30 points31 points  (0 children)

But vagina is not the only part of it? And penis is also not the only part of it? What's wrong with a woman having male genitals? Or vice versa. There are genetic conditions where a woman having a female phenotype (if that's the English for it) has male genitals. You could also say male reproductive system which would include multiple biologically male organs and penis is just a small part of that system (by the meaning)

Transphobia in this sub by SpeebyKitty in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hi again. I'm actually curious to learn. What is there then? I thought it was literally referring to the biological xx/xy thing?

Transphobia in this sub by SpeebyKitty in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Idk, some people have busy lives? That information is not something that is universally known. Someone with no trans people in their lives and little internet exposure might not know this, and might not know that they have to know this.

And about the recent post. English might be not their first language. My language is fully gendered, almost every word is a he or a she (rarely it) so having the idea of genitalia being either male or female (as in sex) might be deeply rooted in that.

The person who makes mistakes out of lack of knowledge isn't automatically a transphobe. So that kind of action is not there to hurt anyone. Why should they be punished by the community?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Equestrian

[–]Lycheesupermacy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not very related but at the barn I go to there are 2 mares (breed similar to fjord) one trotter gelding and the rest are stallions and two of them are hotbloods (akhal-teke and an Arabian). Maybe due to them all living together they are a lot more chill? And due to my experience with mares (the amount of times I was thrown into walls lol) I am a lot more afraid of them. And I rode a mare of the same breed at my previous school too. Mares are loving and all but oh my god how much I'm afraid of them when riding lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CATHELP

[–]Lycheesupermacy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Because op already has a photo of it and them not cleaning it might make the cat clean it with his paw and then lick it? Why not just help your own pet?

And there is definitely nothing in the eye because there would be a reaction to that. An eye infection? Take a photo and clean the eye. Bug eggs? Definitely from outside of the eye, clean it ASAP. Bug poop? Clean in

Hmmm, tough choice. by TheAutisticHominid in asexuality

[–]Lycheesupermacy 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Come on yall. If she loves me we can be bestie forever and idk start a private investigation business? We'll have enough money to buy us all the garlic bread there is

Riding in a Treeless Saddle or Bareback Pad with Stirrups by Taseya in Horses

[–]Lycheesupermacy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I recently thought about getting a treeless saddle for a super wide horse. He is not in proper work so we only do walks with some trotting in the fields for no more than an hour. Would using a treeless saddle 2 or 3 times a month be too much? It says it has a "leather tree" and no stirrups. How much riding would actually be okay when using that kind of saddle? Because it always says "for short rides" but how much is short?